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Originally Posted by Wannabeskinny
This woman struggles with her weight as much as I do. She has a body image problem just like I do, except I weight 180 and she weighs much less. Just because she's skinnier than me doesn't mean she struggles any less than I do. Whenever you think that you're struggling more than another person it's indicative of a victim mentality and I know that that can really hinder in your own progress. Been there.
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I'll allow that she struggles, but it's not the *same* struggle, since her "obesity" is only imaginary, while mine is real. Her struggle is not with her weight. It is with her perception of it. My struggle actually is with my weight.
Neither is better or worse, more or less, than the other. Just different.
As far as that "victim mentality," I don't think we all begin at the same starting line in life. I think some people do have a head start, and others will always be behind, even though they're running just as hard as the front-end competitors, because they started from farther back, and because they've got things weighing them down. Some people are born into money, and others have to sweat for every dime they get. Some people are born healthy, and others are born with serious disabilities. Some are born with society's idea of attractiveness, and others have to work at it. Life isn't fair. I'm not saying that the pretty people with money don't struggle, but they don't have the same issues I've got. This doesn't make me a "victim." It's just the way things are.
