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Originally Posted by mammasita
So what would you ladies do if you were currently in a relationship (which I know many of you are) and you stumbled upon an email or letter to another woman using some of the same "lines" your man has used with you? Now, the email/letter has a date on it from before you were officially a couple.
Would you be upset about the things your man said because he said the same things to you? Or just let it go because it happened prior to your relationship? Is it normal for men (or women) to use the same "lines" in different relationships?
1) it would depend on when the letter was sent. Was it the first week of being official, was it a long time ago, was it recent?, and 2) men and people in general are creatures of habit. Yes, I would be offended, but I would be offended because it may mean that he is straying or at least flirting in a way that is not appropriate in a relationship.
I had the same situation happen, and while I don't think my ex cheated, I do think that the flirting was a good sign that maybe he was not fully happy in the relationship. Others may disagree, I understand.
I understand about the snooping thing, and I agree that it may not be right. But what if it is your intuition telling you something isn't quite right and THEN you find something? Before I had found out about some inappropriate emails my ex had, I would have never thought he would do that. We seemed so happy at that time.
Snooping isn't good, I admit. But if someone is doing things that aren't respectful, what then?