Having a hard time with the whole vday thing...
 

I dont usually get depressed and lonely around Valentine's Day but I've been really having a hard time today. Thank goodness I work tomorrow. I hope I dont have to watch too many of my coworkers get roses sent to them at work, though :(

I was totally feeling tha V-day blues yesterday. It snowed here in Georgia and everyone was posting pictures on facebook of them frolicking in the snow with their significant others. Ugh. I really try not to let it bother me, it's just a stupid holiday. But as the days close in, it always freaking gets to me. It's worse this year because I don't have any single friends, not one!

i know! all my friends are either in relationships or really busy.

but it seems like a lot of my friends who are in long term relationships dont even have major plans anyways. It would just be nice to have someone to cuddle and kiss is all =0)

I had a couple of cute things happen tonight that cheered me up:
1) this guy i used to date but am not interested in (he's strange because he has asperger's syndrome) asked me to be his valentine =0)
I told him I didnt really feel up to being anybody's valentine right now which was sort of a lie because there is one guy....the guy im trying to get over...
But still, it was a nice gesture in response to me saying im lonely on my facebook status.

2)ive been chatting with a guy on okcupid and I finally showed him a full body shot of myself today. I told him I was planning to lose 100 pounds or so. He handled it well and said something like "personally, I like you physically just the way you are" but then was also supportive of me losing the weight by saying "so when do you expect to reach your goal weight?". I like that because I dont want to feel i have to be a certain size in order to keep a man. I want to choose my size because that's the size I want to be not the size HE wants me to be.

so, hey, i had my valentine moments after all this year!

Ah yes, Singles Awareness Day, aka S.A.D. ;)

Every single one of my Valentine's Days have been solo. Sure, sometimes I wish I had someone to dote upon but for the most part I am happy by myself.

This is the first year I am content being single(i have always been single on valentines day...who am i kidding. I have always been single everyday!). I am happy I can fully concentrate on myself and not have to worry about anybody else. I am happy I am not being cheated on or lied to. These days relationships are nothing like they used to be and I am not sure its anything I want to be a part of.

Yeah, I am actually going through a stage where I almost WANT to be single (unless that aforementioned guy had a change of heart but that's not gonna happen lol)
My life really IS less complicated and I'm more in control this way. And I'm such a loner that a relationship would probly just annoy me a lot of the time.

It's just this weekend that I'm suddenly wishing I had a part time relationship or something that I can pull out and dust off whenever it's convenient lol

I dont know how I feel about this okcupid guy. I'm not really attracted to him but he is so attentive and makes me feel like he thinks I'm a goddess or something and it's starting to make me attracted to him if that makes any sense. I don't know where this is leading but I guess I'll just go with the flow for now.

I've always been single on vday as well. oh well.

Well one of the reasons I think relationships are so different than in the past is people meet, hook up, and boom relationship. There is no getting to know that person on more than a superficial level. Soooooo maybe okcupid guy and you are doing what should be the norm these days but sadly isn't.

i think that has been one of my problems with getting into relationships. I'm so conservative about sex. And most couples I know nowadays seem to have started as flings or one night stands...something I just wont do...

I don't know if I could say I'm conserative but......someone has to prove they are worthy of my body before they get it!!!! Period end of discussion. So all these females that give it up willy nilly can have the diseases that are out there. I will pass think you very much. LOL
Plus think about it like this. The more people one is with, the more used they are. Every time something is used the value goes down. So in the long run any man who gets the opportunity to enter our lives is a VERY VERY lucky man.:yes:

You're not alone in feeling like this. I have NEVER had a boyfriend let alone have one on Val Day. :hug:

you know what??? Valentine's Day is a STOOOPID holiday created by the greeting card companies! (i don't know if that's true, but it's what i choose to believe) I have a boyfriend who is a really good guy, and we could CARE LESS about V-Day...it's like any other day. you don't need to have a designated day to show people around you that you love them or care about them...if that's the case, than it should be Valentine's Day EVERYDAY!! V-Day is completely overrated and i see a lot of guys out there just going thru the motions.

I'm feeling a little blue about Valentine's Day, too. I saw a friend's post on Facebook and yes, she had a picture of the roses that her husband sent her but she also had homemade cupcakes (decorated with hearts) from her daughter, and that's what kind of choked me up.

I've been without a Valentine for many, many years. Most of the time it doesn't bother me, but this year for some reason, I feel a little blue about it. I bought myself a nice little dark chocolate Dove bar so I did have some Valentine candy, but it would be nice to have someone to snuggle with.

Me, too. This was one of those Sundays that I had to white-knuckle through, mostly with housework. And tell myself the day would eventually end. Usually, I'd call a friend, but when I went down the list of friends I'd want to call, I was sure they'd all be busy with their husbands or their boyfriends or their partners, and I did not want to intrude with my blues & my emotional neediness on a day when they'd have dinner plans, or want to cuddle over the morning paper or open their gifts of sexy lingerie & perfume, or have sex all afternoon using all the products advertised on Oxygen Channel or what-have-you.

I'm not single, but I HATE Valentine's Day. I hate everything about it. The stores just seem to vomit red & pink. But, my hubby's birthday is Feb. 14, and he feels special, lol. He just doesn't like get any Vday related birthday presents. He turned 26 today..and he bought himself some airsoft guns. And we shot them together. Can't get any more romantic than that, lol!!

I hope you are feeling better.

I agree that it is a stupid holiday. We don't have cable but I've already been annoyed by the commercials on the radio for jewelry and what not. Yeah, go commercialism.

I did hear a cute radio commercial from Trader Joe's though, they recommended dijon mustard for a Valentine's gift.

My day turned out OK. I played with my new smartphone, ate my little Dove chocolate bar and then had a nice piece of salmon for supper. Not too bad, all things considered!

I have seen from a previous poster that thanksgiving to Valentines day is the worst time for her. I think that usually holds true for me. I am looking on the bright side all of that is over for another 8 months and by then who knows where everybodies life will take them.:hat:Here's to all of us getting through the dreaded holiday!

I, too, throw my vote behind No Valentine's Day.

Though this year I had sweeties to fuss over me, I will never be able to shake how bereft I felt for the past 2 years on this day, my husband having died in October of 2007. Nothing drives home the fact of love lost like a V-Day on your own.

It's kind of an insensitive holiday, in a way, isn't it?

I agree with those here who said that when in love, it should be celebrated every day -- and not just one one silly day a year on the calendar.

I'm not single but even when I was I never cared about Valentine's Day, now Christmas on the other hand is absolutely miserable for me. I'm not close with my family and it's something I desperately want, so even hearing other people talk about Christmas plans and stuff makes me very depressed. I work that holiday usually and Christmas Eve too which usually helps alot but not this past year, it took everything in me just to get out of bed. It was BAD.

So next year I've already decided I am going to buy a plane ticket to Miami or Puerto Rico or something and just lay on the beach and read books and escape, I don't know if it will work but I'm willing to give it a shot.

At any rate I totally feel your holiday blues.

lol about "vomit(ing) pink and red". Thanks everyone! I like the congrats on getting through the holidays mentality. Now we can refocus on getting off this weight!

I think it is what you make of it. You can be fragile and affected by things, or you can just move on to something more constructive. I think V-day is cute, but as many have said, it is really the candy/card/flower company's big day-- I think it is silly to spend money on cut roses and such. The worst thing is that ALL these holidays have been blown out of perportion, to the point of normal people angsting and becoming neurotic about silly stuff. Christmas is the worst offender, but now even "little" holidays like Halloween or V-day have gotten bloated beyond reason. Why, Why, Why, do we (collectively) feed into another reason to express self-loathing? I mean it is fun-- have a cookie, give a card-- but spending oodles of money and feeling worthless like you should die should not be a part of the equation!!! (Sorry, Rant)

See, the problem is, when I tell myself I don't feel anything, because rationally, I shouldn't, & I suppress my true reaction down inside me, THAT'S when I find myself eating my head off in a soft-focus daze & not immediately understanding why my mind is full of nothing but the comforting properties of food.

When I admit, "This holiday makes me sad," and see a post on 3FC where someone else like KatKitten has the same feelings, and we talk about it among ourselves, then I feel I am actually doing something constructive. And then I'm less liable to feel l like I need a half box of Russell Stover to sedate myself over vague "bad" feelings that I don't let myself clearly identify.

I don't think I'm the only one who's trying to learn how to cope in new, constructive ways & who uses this Web site for assistance.

The good thing about a one-day holiday is that the hours will pass & it will be over eventually. We just need to hang on. Whatever it takes. House cleaning, posting on 3FC, whatever.