So, I'm sure my loneliness is because of a lot of factors but yesterday it really hit me how lonely I really am. I had surgery (nothing too major) and was completely alone (surgery and recovery all alone). I somehow ended up in a place where I really only have acquaintances and not friends. I was really sick from the anesthetic and had no one around for comfort...just me and my kiddos. (Dh was working).

I don't know how to fix this. I'm not really sure how to get out there and make friends. I often feel like I'm just "different" then other people. As of Sept I have been a SAHM and we've been trying to get out there and meet people but it's now June and I've gotten no where. I am the mom that people just like to make small talk with and move on.

I do try and put myself out there but never really get past the small talk.

Any suggestions? Anyone else out there feeling lonely?

Hi there:

I am new to the site and just read your post. I know what it is like to feel the way you do. I went through a sever depression stage a few years back and it got the best of me.

I actually decided one day that I was going to change my outlook on life. I decided that I was going to make friends and start having fun. It was the hardest hurdle I ever had to jump and it took lots of work. I actually enrolled my daughter, who was a baby at the time, into some park district suff. I made sure I was always busy doing something. At first I did not want to talk to anyone but I forced myself to do it. Started with the small talk and then moved on. Now I am a chatty Kathy and people can't shut me up. Again this was not easy and took a long time.

I would be more than happy to chat with you anytime.

Hope this helps a little.

Tracy

I know the feeling, I get lonely sometimes too. It's to bad we aren't closer in Wisc. I'd totally hang out with you!

Thanks to both of you.

My SAHM days are long behind me, but here's what I did: I went to PTO meetings and volunteered for jobs. I got to know some really great people that way! Doesn't have to be PTO. Join a church or community organization. Good luck -- I remember how you are feeling.