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Originally Posted by JerseyGyrl
Oops, I should have clarified, you & spouse are not best friends....you barely speak & when you do, its just about general things....you do not spend time together. Basically, you are coridal to each other when you have to be & you tolerate each other. And when out in public or in front of the family, you "go through the motions" that everything is ok.
I'm quite new to this marriage thing
but I don't think there could be enough reasons (financial, stability, children etc) to keep me in a marriage like that. I'm assuming we're talking traditional marriage where there's an understanding that it's NOT ok to seek marriage-like intimacy/love/partnership outside of the marriage. If I thought the marriage was worthwhile for some reason and I was allowed to find love elsewhere, it may be worth maintaining... although I'd be limiting my options for love to people who are ok with their partner being married to someone else, so that might make things difficult.
I think, to summarize, if my marriage excluded the possibility of love from my life, I would NOT stay. But if I could have a loveless marriage and love on the side, it would depend upon the situation.