Mini goals may have been a better place for it - but I wasn't even aware of that particular forum. I browse the site by "New Posts," rather than specific forums (and often find myself posting to a thread without even realizing what forum I'm posting in), so for someone who's been around so long I'm not as familiar with all of the forums as you'd expect.
If it belongs somewhere else and a moderator feels it should be moved, I certainly would have no objections. I just wasn't even thinking of this as a goal met, but just generic good news. Part of it, I think is that I no longer think of weight loss as a goal (not that it isn't a wonderful consequence), but my goals aren't weight related at all (I know that may sound rather stupid, being this is a weight loss site), because I think goals should be actions rather than results. And while "losing weight" seems like an action (after all it is linguistically a verb), it's more a consequence of other behaviors, than a true action. My only goals are to sleep and eat better and move more than before (which ideally will result in weight loss, but even if it doesn't will have other wonderful consequences in health and personal satisfaction).
Don't get me wrong - I love the weight loss. I get on the scale every day, and when the weight goes down, I celebrate - and when it goes up, I'm a bit disappointed, but my real goal is improving my health through increasing healthy habits. The weight really is "bonus." One of my big - ultimate goals is to be able to horseback ride. To do so, I'm going to have to strengthen my back and legs alot, and for the horse's sake, wait until I've lost a lot more weight (or find a saddle-trained draft horse).
It's so easy to make this about the numbers - feeling the need to celebrate this milestone shows that as much as I try, it's hard even for me to escape the number focus. I'd love to see more of us celebrate "hey I could tie my shoes today without holding my breath," or "I don't need blood pressure medication anymore," than to make it about the numbers, but I guess it's part of the process. Still, I really do think that the less about the numbers it becomes, the more healthy it is. Trying to find my optimal level of health and happiness at whatever number that ends up being, is my ultimate goal - and that's a little hard to put milestones on.
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