Everyone here has given great advice. I had some *awful* experiences with roommates in college.

I agree 100% with the swapping beds 1/2way through the school year. It's a great compromise since y'all both wanted it.

Gas money should be shared too.

I don't know if y'all wear similar sizes in clothes or shoes, but sometimes roommates sharing stuff can turn into an issue too....just a heads up.

Good luck!

I say forget about the bed by the window, it's gone.I think you should charge for gas , a small amount as you will have to wait for her to be ready to go, etc,it is a slight annoyance to have to pick someone up even when you are going the same place. Be sure she pays or no ride, get it all settled before the first ride.

As a super senior college student I can say that learning to live with room mates is a skill that you get better at. I remember my freshman room mate...I was so terrified of living with someone I let her walk all over me.

My new roomie this year I sat down with and had a friendly hour conversation about things that bother me and boundaries. We worked everything out ahead of time. I couldn't have imagined doing any of that my frieshman year.

IMO room mates is about only getting upset over things that are worth it, it is someone that you have to live with for the whole year. IMO eating a little of my food or being a little messy is not worth getting upset over. While she was sneaky and *****y about the bed thing I don't think that it is worth getting upset over. You guys should have settled that BEFORE you moved in..done a rock paper scissors or something, the situation is YOUR fault for not working things out ahead of time, and rather trying to be shady.

The gas and the bed are 2 separate things. It is compleatly reasonable to make her pay half the gas. I would fill it up in frount of her at the start of your trip then refil it when you get home and make her pay half the diffrence. Just nicely tell her that with the price of gas you need to start charging her for half.

If your this upset over a bed, I would hate to see what happens when some real drama happens.

Ouch... rooming with friends. :no: If I could've I would've said to avoid that altogether. Quite honestly, my best roommate was someone who I wasn't exactly friends with, but we both respected eachothers' space. Friends make things stickier, and things get more personal faster.

But it's already said & done, no changing that now.

I like some of the suggestions given. Switching mid-year sounds fantastic. Definitely mention your surprise at her moving in first. And your disappointment that she didn't even tell you her plans.

The gas is a separate issue. And it is an issue. Bring it up at a calm time, and not when talking about the bed. Just say, it's expensive, I don't have any problem with giving you a ride, but would it be possible to get $xx for when I do give you a lift to help cover the cost?

I agree with faerie - rooming with friends almost always is a mistake.

I wouldn't be that upset about the bed...she beat you to it. If you really wanted things to be fair, there should have been a decision made long ago....or else, it is really first come first serve....and she won. You were planning on being sneaky as well....what would you do in her situation if the roles were reversed?

Gas? Be careful not to be petty about little things like this. If you're already headed somewhere....why charge? If she wants you to go out of your way, I don't think it is too much to ask for her to give you a little for your time...but 10 miles really isn't going to cost all that much in gas. If it happens all the time, bring it up and say something like...hey, gas is really expensive lately...mind pitching in a few bucks?

College is a time for maturation. This could be a good time to start.

Hmm. . . I think you were going to do the same thing she did - take the window bed. Perhaps she became concerned that you were "being sneaky" and moving in earlier just to take the bed you both wanted. Not doubting your honesty, but it might look that way from her perspective, you know?

I'd see if she was willing to switch beds at the semester break, and I would keep the gas money a separate issue. I'd figure out how much the gas would cost me to get back to campus and ask her for half. If she says no, she can find her own ride.

Talk to her about the situation and how it made you feel and while you are at it, admit your part of it as well. Clear the air and agree not to be sneaking about things in the future (both of you.)

It is just a bed after all. Trust me, the situation could be so much worse! If she's cool with it I do think swapping beds next semester is a nice solution, but if not then let it go.

As far as gas goes, I'd ask if she could pitch in, since gas in expensive, but don't ask for an amount. Just let her pitch in what she can. If you are already driving in that direction it doesn't make much of a difference one way or the other.

Enjoy your first year, Life goes by fast from here on. ;)