Oh No She / He Didn't!!!!
 

Ever have someone say something totally outrageous to you that was out of the blue, unnecessary or just none of their friggin business? Post it. I'll start.

A coworker noticed that I had a HUGE cup of Starbucks this AM and commented on it. I replied back that I hadn't slept well last night, which is odd for me because I usually pass out as soon as my head hits the pillow. She asked how old I was. I told her - 41. She then informed me that it's my hormones, I'm going through "the change" and that my sleep would only continue to get worse. I was stunned. I don't think having one bad night of sleep makes me menopausal and even if it does, it's not her business to say that. We aren't even friends - just co-workers. Go figure.

We used to have this "Interpersonal Communications" Consultant who came in for a week each month. When I got sick with a sinus infection, he asked me if I thought I was getting sick because of all the weight I'd gained since I'd started working here. The funny part was I had started dieting, and had lost about 20 pounds, and was at my lowest weight in 10 years.

I once made a purchase at a clothing store, I paid by check. When asked for identification I showed her my driver's license. the clerk looked at it and said 'You have held up really well".

Bargoo, :lol: !

There was a point in time when my hair was bright red. Well I was working as a waitress at the time. I walked up to a table and a little boy probably around 3 screamed out "mama she looks like a crayon!!" His mother just laughed and said to me that I must get that a lot.

LOL :lol: that's certainly better than hearing the alternative: "My goodness, time has ravaged you."

Wow, these are outrageous!

A guy I was friends with my freshman year of college...we used to hang out and watch movies, anyway he said to me "you have such a pretty face if you'd just lose weight" ...then he started dating one of my friends who was not only 7 inches taller than I am, but bigger too! (and super whacky!) ... I never understood that.

Bad question!
 

A few weeks ago my friend who runs a boutique talked me into this tunic shirt that was kind of long and flowing and came to a point in the front. I usually stay away from this look since it reminds me of maternity clothes, but my friend went on and on about how slimming it was for me, etc. Any way first time I wear it this dumb a** asks me when I'm due!:mad:

My rule of thumb is do not ask if someone is expecting unless you see a baby's head coming out!

great one! :)

this one made me laugh. I happen to loooove bright red hair. I wish I had the nerve to do a big change from my mousie brown and wear it! :D

OK< I'll bite! I had been single for, oh, I think a good ten years (now 18 yrs) when I received a phone call from my sister. The day before I had stopped over my aunts house on the way to see another sister and to pick up a cell phone I'd left over there. With me was yet another (Yes, there are five girls, and 8 boys in my family) sister's father in law! Well, my sister that called me asked me why Aunt Ruth knew before she did that I was ... PREGNANT! Apparently Ruth not only spread all around that I was pregnant but it was by my sister's father in law! The ONLY reason he was along for the ride was due to really bad weather! blizzard like conditions!

I called my aunt and asked her "So, did I enjoy the sex I never had?" She's like "I thought you were..." I told her "there you go, A. S. S. U ming AGAIN!"

:eek: :o I cannot imagine spreading a rumor that someone is pregnant without knowing!

I went through the drive thru one morning at the local fast food joint (this was about 4-5 yrs ago) and the guy at the window saw the car seats in the back and said "oh, grandkids, grandkids, what fun".

Problem is they were for my kids :(

I know a lot of people "mean well", but "mean well" gets real old. Vast numbers of people are not only so rude, they also have no idea they are rude, and think something is wrong with you if you think they are.

I have, on multiple occasions, turned around, given a big smile, and said "I'm sorry, did you realize that you just said that out loud?" I learned it in an interpersonal communications course on dealing with difficult people. It really is invaluable in many situations, particularly when dealing with sensitive subjects, because it removes the actual debate and just comments on the inappropriateness of the topic.

People make lame assumptions and they can definitely be offensive when stated out loud.

I just posted this on another thread not too long ago but:

I saw someone i used to work with at a chinese buffet, now i knew i had gained a considerable amount of weight sincei had last seen her but she proceeded to not only ask me how far along i was but pat my tummy as she did so. At that point in time i said "No baby, just fat" and walked away.

There's the old saying about making sure the brain is engaged before letting out the clutch on the mouth......

I have to admit to doing myself sometimes - I have a thought and am in the middle of considering whether it's appropriate to voice it, and how to phrase it if I did, when suddenly the mouth just takes off so, of course, it comes out totally wrong. I am really not a narrow minded, inconsiderate boob (honest, I'm not) but there sure are some days when my communications skills just stay home in bed and you would think I was a complete snot.

The best response I've seen posted here (to the question when are you due) is "Nine months from when I get pregnant."

now that is a good one!

I went to go visit my gyno because I was peeing all the time, so I thought maybe I had a bladder infection. (Sorry, hope this isn't TMI lol). Anyway, turns out everything was fine and she informs me that if I lose some weight it will take pressure off of my bladder. I told her I was currently doing WeightWatchers but I was drinking water all the time(that is what you do when you are on a weightloss program, right?!). So then she says "Well maybe you should keep your mouth closed a little bit more". She had a smile on her face, but OMG. And we were out in the hallway, too. Mind you this woman is no skinny mini herself. Needless to say I switched doctors!

There was another one - If a good looking guy asks "are you pregnant?", look him up and down and say "no, but the night is young" :D

You shoulda looked at her a moment, then nicely asked, "Is that how you maintain your ... weight?"

Oy.....
 

I got three from my Aunt yesterday...whom I was in the mist of doing a favor for. First off she informed me that my pants were way to big and that why in the world didn't I get myself a belt? (uummm...because belts are uncomfortable..duh?) Then I was showing her a picture DVD I made...and she commented..Boy you sure have aged since that picture? (uuummm...well..yeah considering that was a picture from 17 YEARS ago!) and lastly but surely not LEASTLY....She informed me that my hubby and I were not young anymore and that IF we were going to have a child...it had better be NOW. :((uummm....well let's see...Wonder why I have spent over $10 grand, had several painful test done, put chemical drugs in my body...busted my butt to lose 120 pounds...um yeah..Auntie..I have been working my beehive off to get pregnant)

Not a good day for me at all. :?:

You have been through a lot! Congrats on your loss, though! One of the chickies, LisaMarie71 lost a significant amount of weight and got preggo about a minute later. I think she just had a baby boy :)

Now telling you your pants are too big, I would take that as a compliment :D

It's kind of backwards, but I'm still amazed when a friend and coworker blurted out "you're not fat," when I said something about myself being fat (I think it was how hard it was, being fat, to find nice business clothes).

I know she meant it as a compliment in a way. It's just so not socially acceptable, in some circles, I suppose to admit to being fat or to discuss it in a cavalier manner as I tend to do about myself (I will say I am fat in the same way I say I am blonde) - but on what planet isn't nearly 400 lbs fat?

The comment struck me as so funny (too funny I'm afraid) that I completely lost it. I was laughing so hard I nearly peed my pants and I couldn't catch my breath. My friend turned red and said "you know what I mean," kind of embarassed, and I felt bad that I embarassed her, but I couldn't stop laughing, the thought of anyone thinking my big giant butt "wasn't fat," just gave me the giggle fits.

"you used to be cute, what happened?" shortly after i started to gain weight as a teenager - by a grown man. always stuck with me.

a couple weeks ago i went to the doctor because of reoccurring back pain and the doctor recommended that i should get gastric bypass. um- thanks. my back hurts now - so why don't i go through the rigorous process to be approved for gastric bypass and a year or two later down the road i'm sure my back will magically be healed. thanks for the help. i'm sure that the bypass will cure my cold, depression, and ingrown toenail too. thanks!

kaplods- i have the same thing with a friend of mine- tsk you're not fat Liz, you're beautiful. PLEASE. i mean, okay, i can get through the door and they won't be burning my house down when i die ala Gilbert Grape- but I'm still fat and if I can accept it why can't she?! although i guess when i really think about it, i don't know if i'd want all my friends to just tell me i'm fat all the time either.

Oh goodness, yes! I have the same problem. Thankfully, my friends and DH think it's more funny then anything else, but I do tend to embarrass myself in public a lot. Not everyone is obliviously to their verbal mistakes. I feel terrible whenever I say something stupid.

I will say though, I NEVER assume anyone to be pregnant unless they tell me they are. Especially with some of the current fashions (which I love and are oh so comfy.)

You know, I think it's nice to have some friends that always bolster you up, and some you can count on for the truth. Kindness doesn't have to be the same thing as denial, and honesty doesn't have to be cruel.

:ROFL: I'M GOING TO USE THAT ONE!

julie- you're right. i'm not saying i don't appreciate the intent. i do. a lot. :)

i forgot one- the time the bus couldn't come get me because of an accident & i called work to tell them i'd be late cause i had to walk about a mile to the next bus stop. once i got to work all sweaty and exhausted my boss tells me- oh, so-and-so offered to come pick you up but I told her no because you need the exercise.

Lizzie, I'd have gotten fired that day!

and my now ex told me something similar to what someone here posted. when I was 7 months pregnant with HIS child I was complaining about how big I looked and he held my hand, looked me earnestly in the face and said "You used to be cute." like that was some kind of consolation.

I could have KILLED him.

Eeesh, I guess we get why he's your ex...........

I cannot believe some of these! People need to think before they speak.

I share my office with the department secretary. Last week, another director came in and said to the secretary, "Some days I wish I had your job," as if the secretary had it so easy. She even repeated it after the secretary said "What?" so it's not like it came out wrong.

Finally I said "Trust me, I don't think you do" after hearing what she has to deal with all day.

a friend of mine was in the lingerie section of a department store which i will never shop at again - and she was just browsing and killing time while i was trying on clothes in the plus size dept. a clerk came up to her and suggested she'd find things that would suit her more over there- and directed her to the plus sized clothing! my friend is not plus sized, but she is probably an XL in regular sizes and this store doesn't sell lingerie in the plus sized dept at all. I was so furious I left without buying anything and I'll never shop there again. My poor friend was almost in tears over it.

A couple of years ago I went to CVS to pick up some Sudafed and the girl at the pharmacy counter had to get my drivers license to write down the information. She looked at my ID, looked back up at me and said "You're only eighteen? Wow, I'm 26 and I thought you were older than me! Hahaha!"

That day I started looking for grey hairs and crows' feet... Haha.