MOH= maid of Honor....

these people are your friends? no, they seem to be jealous of you. You are sounding incredibly accomplished and self-sufficient. You've outgrown them by leaps and bounds.

congratulations on rising above them, i don't know if i would have been able to keep from smacking them.

MOH's boyfriend sounds atrocious. I mean, truly, you should be the one worrying about her. He is not only rude; he is clearly shallow. I have a gorgeous white gold ring that DH and I had made. I had input and all that, but he is the one who bought. I loved it then, and I love it now. I had a few of my high school students comment that the diamonds are small (???? it's NOT a chintzy ring by any stretch), but I took that with a grain of salt because they only know huge gaudy cubic zirconias or what hip hop artists wear... anyway, as long as you love your ring, forget other opinions.

As for the rest, good luck. I hope all these people won't be at your wedding.

WOW! We are made to think that there is only one type of beauty. And that is a very sad thing. I am sure you are a very beautiful woman. You might not like every thing you see when you look in the mirror, but then who does. Look at all the great qualitys you have is it hair, eyes, mouth, nose, teeth or lips etc. fall in love with that part of you. And then you will see the rest is just as beautiful. And your doing a great on the weight loss. I hope to reach that someday soon.


And as for the ring my late husband Angelo (God rest his soul) had purchased my wedding band from a local art fair. It was made of some kind of metal, silver I think, he had it hand made. It was made of two separate lengths woven around each other and knotted. He said it was like us bound together forever. And I would have never replace that ring with the biggest diamond (ok well maybe the biggest one lol) in the world. It came from what he thought of our relationship. It came from his heart. ( Angelo passed in 1996).


Just one more thing before I go I am sorry for rambling on. I once dated a man who was burned over 90% of his body face included. But I was in love with him. He was so perfect and wonderful. And when I looked at him I never even seen the scars. When we went someplace together I was proud to hold his hand. To let everyone know that we were as one. And I am sure people talked, because thats how people are. But my love for him was so deep that nothing they said could even make me give it a second thought. I saw beauty in him. The most beautiful man I had ever laid eyes on. We all don't look the same and we are lucky like that. Thats what makes us all BEAUTIFUL.

And one more thing I know what I said sorry again. About your mom, yeah she wants to be in control. 1 its your mom. And moms are always the boss. Didn't they ever hear because I'm the mom thats why. 2 she wants every thing to be perfect for your wedding. 3 your blessed to have a mom. :)

Dear Everyone,

Thank you for your replies. I feel better today, having read them, but I am still kind of angry -- it's just not the kind of treatment you expect ALL NIGHT LONG from a group of longtime friends (and people who aren't technically friends, but friends of friends). Luckily, not everyone at this party will be at my wedding, though some will of course.

I actually don't have any photos of myself on this computer, but I would post one if I did. Actually, if I can find one later today, I will scan it.

PhotoChick -- I'd like to know more ab you too! You also seem extremely confident and self-possessed :D

Walkingtolose -- I don't see ANYTHING wrong with white gold. It's GOLD for goodness sake! lol. And it's actually a heartier metal than platinum and scratches less easily, which is what I told my MoH's boyfriend (not that I should have to defend my ring to him, of course). I think the issue with him is that *he* is border-line obsessed with my MoH (in a kind of unhealthy way), he spends extravagantly on her, literally spending his whole paycheck to take her to the Bahamas or something. My fiance and I are MUCH less la-dee-da; we pay bills, buy groceries, etc etc. lol. I think my MoH's boyfriend lavishes her with gifts bc he thinks he has to to keep her around; my fiance spent MORE than I could have ever expected and it's a beautiful ring that I love and he didn't buy it for me because he was afraid I'd leave him if he didnt. My MoH's bf is EXTREMELY jealous, too, and possessive, and out of shape and my MoH's forever flirting with other guys and telling him he needs to lose weight. AND... it turns out... she's always saying how cute my fiance is to her boyfriend (seriously sort of like an "Ahh... if only MY bf was so cute"). So maybe that has something to do with it, which I didn't realize. And that is a mean mind-game to play on her bf, but it isn't MY fault or my fiance's (he can't help his cuteness ;)).

Lisaslost -- I'm so sorry you lost your husband! Just from that post alone I could tell how much you're in love with him. The ring he had made for you sounds beautiful; that kind of symbolism, too, is lovely. THAT is a nice ring; the specially made ring my MoH's boyfriend was describing to me just seemed like it would be big and odd and actually kind of manly.

I'm not going to address the various deep self-esteem issues, because everyone else seems to be doing a great job of that. I just wanted to say that your ring sounds lovely. It sound like mine actually, and I get a lot of compliments on it. I can't imagine anyone putting it down...one karat is a good size! And I went with white gold as well. A jeweler even told us to go with that over platinum because it's more durable, and this is someone who would PROFIT from us purchasing platinum.

Thanks! Your ring sounds lovely too -- I always liked the look of a solitaire round diamond for an engagement ring.

And actually, my ring has gotten quite a few random comments from people. I was in Modell's trying on sneakers once and a woman randomly came up and said my ring is one of the most beautiful she'd ever seen. My fiance also got me a matching diamond wedding band too. I'm very happy with the set.

Yep -- Ive heard the same thing ab white gold v. platinum in terms of durability. And both metals APPEAR equally nice, imo.

I just *UGH* think it's so crappy to insult someone's engagement ring, even if you think it is fugly... Really, the ring this guy was describing wanting to have made for her sounds like it would be horrendously ugly, but if he got it for her and she loved it, I would say it's beautiful.

Originally Posted by Amy8888:
I'm not going to address the various deep self-esteem issues, because everyone else seems to be doing a great job of that. I just wanted to say that your ring sounds lovely. It sound like mine actually, and I get a lot of compliments on it. I can't imagine anyone putting it down...one karat is a good size! And I went with white gold as well. A jeweler even told us to go with that over platinum because it's more durable, and this is someone who would PROFIT from us purchasing platinum.

Originally Posted by KLK:
I just *UGH* think it's so crappy to insult someone's engagement ring, even if you think it is fugly

And that is just the bottom line about that one. All the other stuff people said, maybe jealousy or other things were involved. But this man was just plain nasty rude.