If you can afford the trip then go see your hubby!! Even for one day the time will be worth it! As for the panic attacks, I'm not going to tell you to go to a therapist but I would like to suggest talking to your doctor about them to see if he/she has any suggestions on how to get through them or identify signs that your are about to have one and ways to try to prevent them when you notice the signs. They do have medicines out there for anxiety/panic attacks but if you're one that does not like to medicate for everything there are some natural supplements/products out there. You should ask your doctor about "rescue remedy" it's an herbal stress reliever liquid or spray. My BF uses it when he gets stressed out or really PO'd... He says it does help him relax.
Good luck with getting the attacks under control and I pray for peace in your heart and HAVE FUN WITH YOUR HUBBY!!
(my cousin shipped out from San Diego Monday morning for 6 months on the USS Ronald Reagan)

Hi! :wave:

Just a note about posting... If a member posts in General Chatter with the title "Advice Please," then the member can expect to get lots of opinions. Some of these won't be what the member wants to hear, but that's the chance taken. :)

At the same time, no one should be posting anything disrespectful. I see nothing disrespectful in the replies here, just concern.

Shopaholic1204, I'd say, go see your husband! You will both be glad to see each other and have some time together. :cheer2:

Jay

I cant comment on a lot of things that you speak of as I don't know you or familiar enough on this board....yet!

But I just wanted to say about seeing your hubby from two points of view...

My hubby is in the British Army and I can totally, totally empathize with seperations and such. Quite a few years ago we had been apart for 7 months and it worked out that as he was on his way to the Falklands he had 12 hours back in the UK between flights...I could not get to him and was devastated..but he took matters into his own hands and had hired a car and drove 4 hours to where I was just so we could have a couple of hours together and it was wonderful. I still think of those couple of hours and still am very thankful for them.

On the other hand a couple of years ago it was the day he was being deployed to Iraq again and he left for camp in the morning after we had all sad our tearful goodbyes..the kids trying to be brave e.t.c..I am sure you know what I mean. Anyway about an hour later he was back! The flights had been delayed! Well my initial delight turned to immense nerves and despair because myself, him and the kids had to do all the goodbyes over again and it felt cruel. It was not any better saying goodbye the second time around.

Whatever you decide to do I really, really do wish you the best.

I think you should go see him :) It'll be a pick me up for you and him...I think. My husband is a former Marine so I understand how it used to be as a military wife.

As for the rest....from a person that is on anti-depression meds. It's worth going to some sort of therapy. After the hurricane (I'm from New Orleans) and my nanny passing away it really slung me out of control. I clung onto my husband, got freaked out everytime he left on a business trip and some other bad stuff I won't go into here. I was actually forced to go see someone but I'm thankful that I had my loved ones be that concerned about me.

*hugs*


Tanee

I think if you can afford to go and feel that it will help you....go and see your husband! I am not sure how long he is gone for or how many times they port...but maybe you could see him half way through his tour I guess, not sure what it is called for the Navy... and then it wouldn't be too long until he is home! Let us know how it goes! :)

I can not remember, but since it will be a short visit, can you take a train or even a (if they still have them) a MAC flight? Check into some (if any) discounts that may be available to you. I think you NEED to see him. But I also agree that you need some outside person to help when he is not there, like pastor/preist, counselor, other wife. They sometimes have spouse support groups that at least you can get together and have some companionship.

Good luck and enjoy the time you have for a visit. See if you can make the trip but get a good deal at the same time.....