What is your biggest regret in life?
 

In all my 24 years, my biggest regret is not pursuing what I wanted to do, but what others wanted me to do.

Pretty deep question! I would say not trying to lose weight when I was 17 and only needing to lose about 20-30lbs and letting my weight get so out of control.

You asked this question for a reason...are you feeling down about not pursuing your dreams?

Yes xGurly, I am down about not pursuing my dreams. While I know it's not too late, it was a waste of time pursuing someone else's dreams.

Not being completely open with my brother while I had the chance. We always had this unspoken super close connection but I desperately wish I had put words to it. And I wish I had convinced him to wear a helmet.

I'm not too big on regrets. Mostly because the bad stuff teaches me things. Only a few actual regrets for me.

I wish I'd been stronger and more "there" for my Mom before she died.

She'd been battling cancer, and I pulled away the last week or so she was alive because I was having a hard time with it. I could have visited her or called her more than I did, but I didn't and I have to live with that.

I wish I had listened to my gut and gone to visit her the night before she died. I talked to her on the phone that evening, and I had the instinct that I had better go see her because she sounded so terrible. But I didn't. She spiralled quickly downhill the next morning then died. I never spoke with her again, although I was with her when she passed.

I also regret not having the strength to say "I love you" or "It's okay to go" to her as I stood by her in her final moments. I just couldn't say the words, although I'd imagined that I would when the time came. Saying it meant saying good-bye, and I couldn't do it :(

Not having more children.

Make that two of us. I don't know if I'd use the word regret because I don't truly believe in regrets since we are who we are for a reason, and if we were perfect, we'd never learn and grow in life.

I wish I listened to my heart rather then the people around me. I was 17 when I graduated high school and started college. I'll be 20 this year, and in the past 2 years I've learned so much about myself.

You should still pursue your dreams. Even if it doesn't work out in the end, at least you can say you tried and you won't be left wondering what would have happened if you followed your heart. I finally listened to mine and I'm in love with my career. :)

mine is not weight related, it's related to (not) having a child. :(

Hurting a couple of people for dumb-*** reasons. It is one of those hind-sight and maturity things, never saw at the time what I was doing.

Thanks, Sassy. :hug:

I wish that I had gotten a handle on finances much earlier.

I wish I had been born into a loving, healthy family.

I was just thinking about this the other day. I have a few, but my biggest is getting out of the Air Force ten years ago. I didn't realize how much I enjoyed it and how much I would miss it. If I'd stayed in, I'd be eligible for retirement next year!

My biggest regret is not going to college,I quit school,but I got my GED,it's kinda one of those things where you wish you could go back in time and kick yourself,and make things better for your family now,kinda like Micheal J. Fox did in Back To The Future for his family.....and smoking,I wish I had never started..........and gas ,I wish I'd never started driving........just kiddin'!!!LOL

Letting my Mother talk me out of joining the Navy.

Most of my regrets seem to be intertwined within each other since they all happened in a short period of time in my life back to back basically. But my biggest one is probably wasting time- I feel like I've wasted some valuable time in my life that I'll never get back and not spending very much time with my father while he was dying of cancer- I couldn't deal with him being so sick and in such pain since when you're 17 years old you don't even think of death and think you have all the time in the world. He didn't complain very much but it got to where you could just see it on his face that he was really suffering. It didn't help that I basically had to figure out on my own that he was as sick as what he was since he had forbidden my mother and his wife to tell me that he in fact was going to die and that the cancer was basically everywhere in his body. It took me about a year to figure it out that he was getting sicker and not better like what he was telling me and then I was finally told he had cancer. So I have some issues about that that are unresolved to say the least.

i have a few regrets... i regret letting myself get big again, i regret nearly every relationship i've been in for not standing up for myself and the way i should be treated, i regret not pursuing a degree in teaching, i regret an abortion i had in 06, i regret not opening a savings plan like my dad told me to...

I regret not fighting harder for my mom. I wish I could've been stronger for her, and not let my family talk me into taking her off life support. I hate myself, and I hate my family. I regret not telling them how awful they treated me after she died. I should've stood my ground and demand that her furneral should've been done her way, the way me & her always discussed. But no, I had to be weak and let myself be bullied by what my stupid uncles wanted.

I regret telling her that it was okay to let go and that I'd be fine. Because if I'm being truly honest with myself...I'm not fine, I'm absolutely miserable. I miss her more than words can say. I regret not telling her how much I loved her...

Big :hug:

regret telling her that it was okay to let go and that I'd be fine. Because if I'm being truly honest with myself...I'm not fine, I'm absolutely miserable. I miss her more than words can say. I regret not telling her how much I loved her...
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shopaholic--- 1 year ago, my mother had a hole form in her lung and they thought she would die.. her lung healed itself but it was painful, and took a toll on her.. 4 months later she developed breast cancer.. they did a full mastectomy, which took another toll... 2 months later she had a hernia operation which took another toll on her.. last week she went to the ER screaming in pain.. she had broken her hip.. didnt fall.. just her muscle tissue is degenerated so much there was nothing to support the hip and it broke.. yesterday she told me she is tired.. she doesnt want to do this anymore.. i love my mother very much but i understand.. and told her so.. yes it wil hurt me when she passes.. but her pain hurts me as well.. seeing someone suffer so we can have more time would be something to regret.. dont regret you told your mom it was okay to let go.. she wouldnt have ;gone' if it wasnt her time.. telling her it was okay to let go was one of the most unselfish things a person can do.. hardest yes.. but nothing to regret.. imho:hug:

Nothing is ever a waste of time if you learn from the experience, which it sounds like you have! I know it's hard when others expect things of you. You can achieve your dreams and it's not too late! :carrot:

I try really hard not to have regrets in Life. Sometimes I feel regret over things, but I work hard on letting it go. Otherwise it'll just eat away at me and it effects my happiness. I've been through far too much to not be happy. Besides, if I can't learn from my personal experiences then maybe I can help others with them. I'm a firm believer in things happen for a reason, even though you may not know that reason for a long time.

Having a daughter. I have 4 boys and gawd knows I love them all to bits - but pink and frilly.... I really wanted that. But you cant have EVERYTHING - I am healthy, I have a loving husband and great kids. I have a well paid job and I have a close extended family. I hope nobody thinks of me as selfish but I am being totally honest.