Thanks for the assistance. I will take everyone's advice into consideration. We have been speaking about it quite a bit (we've even been researching homes in the neighbourhood, checking out commuter times for the train, etc) and he purchased the Rosetta Stone for me already. Last night was just the discussion where it finally "hit me" that this is something that will probably happen within the next six months. I am renting right now (he owns his place), and if I need to come back to Vancouver, I can stay with my parents for a bit.

Thanks again.

No offense, but if he truly is the one, wouldn't you be willing to go wherever he goes? If you wouldn't have to work, then there wouldn't be a problem with whatever job you found. Sounds to me like your job/money is more important to you and I think you answered you own question.

I agree with JayEll's advice. Especially the part about going out on your own during the day while he's at work to see how you'll adjust to living there.

I find this phrase to be very troublesome. Big decisions such as this should be made by both partners in a relationship. Are you willing to give up your whole life in order to fit into his? What will he be giving up in this transition? I caution you to not make a quick decision on this move as you might have end up with some resentment issues in the future. I agree with the suggestion of going for a long visit to "test the waters."

Regarding this being "the one," I have a somewhat controversial opinion. I don't really believe that each person has only one true love or soul mate out there somewhere in the world. I believe that there may be many possibilities for each of us and it all comes down to choice and opportunity. If you decide not to go with him, that does not mean that you will have missed your one chance at true love and will never get the opportunity to have another awesome and complete love relationship in the future with someone else.

I am from the province of Quebec and there are a lot of good things about the province.

It depends on where exactly he wants to move, but if he wants to move in the Montreal region, chances are you'll be able to get a job anyway even by speaking only English.

If you really love him, I think you should probably give it a go. Quebec is pretty awesome and you will most likely love it here.

We'd be going to the north shore, about 30-45 min away from downtown by train (he'll work out there, I'll take the train).

So essentially he would like you to give up your entire life and move with him without any promise or commitment on his part? You say he's the one. Great. When you pictured your life with The One did you picture marriage and kids or just kids? It would concern me that he announced this move without discussing the pros and cons with you first. Sounds to me like he still considers himself a free agent to do whatever he likes.

A huge move away from family, to a place where you don't speak the language and can't work, is going to be a huge strain on your relationship for awhile. There's a chance he won't like being your only social outlet. Personally I would not make a move like that without a commitment on his part.

Maybe I missed something in your post. Are you going to marry this man and then you both are going to move. I think that is wonderful that he understands all the changes for you and is going to be there for comfort and support while you find your way. Education, language so forth. If this is not what you are saying. What is the rush. You are wanting to turn your life upside down for a man that isn't even making a commitment to you. The " 1 " lasts forever or they aren't the one. Why not see each other for long weekends and vacations. While still where you are learn the language. Let him get settled and you two can enjoy being with each other while you get things in your life in order. I am sure it is going to be much easier for you to move there once you can communicate well.

I'll add a little to this as well. Is he going back to be closer to friends and family? Depending on their language skills you could end up feeling very socially isolated. I think I'd be very cautious as others have suggested. Book a vacation from work and visit first. Montreal is a lovely city, however, start with your French lessons before your vacation. As with other areas of the world, making an attempt in their language goes a long way.

Before visiting, investigate a little about jobs, although if you do any type of job that involves dealing with the public I would suspect French would be required. Although, you may find some jobs that do not require it. So, for the moment let's assume you're going to stay home. Would you be happy doing that? Don't get me wrong, basic tasks, shopping, etc. only require a rudiment of the language. Last winter I spent time in countries I spoke very little (if any) of the local language. It can be done (thank goodness for grocery store clerks who can show you the total once they realise your friendly good morning is the limit of your language).

I was out of Canada for 5 months. Sometimes in countries I didn't speak a word of the language. However, I traveled with someone from home, and the method of transport (ship) had people who spoke English (to some extent). It can at times be very isolating. The people you can have longer conversations with becomes limited. You end up making small talk, using simple words. This can become... trying at times.

Just look before you leap. Good luck with your decision.

Getting the Rosetta Stone is a great idea you can start learning French and when you do move it will be easier for you, in the meantime update your resume and start finding what kind of employment is available.I would stay where you are for now and visit a few times before actually moving.Rent some French Language movies and read some French newspapers.I have visited Montreal and loved it.

Thanks for the advice everyone. We have made the decision to move. I will be attending McGill which is one of the top universities in the country and am enrolled in my dream program (not available where I am now). The language will be difficult but I am going to study it at university during the summer and hope to get the hang of it. He had originally planned to move back before he met me however has stayed because of me.

May everything work out for the best!!! You'll have to keep us updated.

My DH is in the Army, and we move a lot. It's hard, but you meet people and you adjust. If he is the ONE, then you can do it. HOwever, there will be a lot of work on your part to learn a language, and go out and meet people and to change everything. I am the one that has to do that, my DH's job is the same, the soldiers are the same, but the spouses and towns and the schools are not. And I have to get it all taken care of.
The biggest advice I can give is to stay close to your friends at home, but make new ones in Quebec. It's very lonely to be at home by yourself all day and it's worse with a kid.
Good Luck

Maggie

PS I do have a question, but don't want to sound rude or judgemental. What about marriage? I would think some sort of long-term public commitment would be good before you gave up everything. And give up your own money. Just a thought

Good Luck To You!