Violette-I understand, I've had bad experiences as well with therapists in the past and seeing a new person is really scary. That is a REALLY far drive....could you do a phone interview first? Just to see if you connect and if it'd be worth the drive? I've done something like that before when I was at boarding school. As far as being concerned about what they'll say...during my treatment the first week was spent entirely on getting me to admit I had an eating disorder. We didn't talk about calories or food at all. Nutrition didn't come till after a month or more of being in a clinic having hours of therapy every day so I'd be
very surprised if they would talk about something so incredibly triggering right away....
I hope you're able to come to resolution
Let us know how it goes. In the meantime have you thought about joining a BED support group? Maybe there's a meetup where you live or you could start one? Of course I know there are tons of forums online(I'm finding this one very helpful myself actually
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I'm rather disappointed in myself right now. My BDD has been acting up the past week. I went swimsuit shopping and ended up with one pieces, which is not what I had planned on. I really had planned on getting a new bikini since I've been fine wearing them in the past. But after looking at myself in the dressing room mirrors I felt disgusted and sad so I bought these two one pieces that are really cute, but it concerned me how negative my thoughts were. I also noticed I've been putting myself down more to others, so its not just in my head anymore(for example calling myself disgusting and fat a lot). I'm now voicing it aloud which of course is awkward, but helpful in making me realize that these thoughts are not valid.
I'm trying to focus on "health" right now and remembering that I deserve to be healthy and happy. Its really hard for me to believe that sometimes, but I know if I work at it I'll eventually accept/remember that I'm worthy of love.
Do any of you struggle with feeling worthy of love, happiness, health etc? Do you have any affirmations that help you manage those feelings?