matt I hear it all the time. And it isnt so much that Im shouting to anyone that I may or may not be trying to lose more..

I think for people like you and I who have lost VAST amounts of weight, people arent clear on why it isnt enough...and also I think we look so much different than we used to it freaks people out we might still want to be smaller.

Also, we look so different from other nonformerly-obese people our size. I think it makes us appear thinner than we really are (when clothed at least).

It annoys the crap out of me too, especially when presented in a certain tone.

In my family & among close friends who've known me for more than two decades -- particularly coming from my mother -- that phrase is really code for: "You haven't gone completely crazy & relapsed into an eating disorder again, have you?"

They saw me the first time around, when I was 105 & exercising three to four hours a day to go even lower. That's left them with bad memories.

From those who really don't know me, I tell them that I have certain athletic goals that I want to achieve.

But you know, it rarely comes up these days, maybe because I really don't talk about my weight loss. I do talk about going to the gym. But I don't mention my weight or sizes or say anything critical about my appearance or say the usual, utterly predictable feminine conversational stuff, rueful & self-deprecating & funny, about eating & weight & etc. There is this way of talking & self-presenting that I am extremely aware of & just don't DO anymore.

This. Most people don't seem to grasp where "overweight" and "obese" begin! Their only conception of overweight is someone morbidly obese. For a lot of them, a normal, healthy weight constitutes an "anorexic" weight. Sad.

I get this all the time. The weight I still want (and in my opinion need) to lose is in places that don't show when I'm dressed. Dressed I look quite small and thin but I know the fat bits are there and I won't be happy with myself until I get rid of them.

I mentioned at work that I go to the gym 5 days a week and that I am trying to lose 30lbs the immediate reaction from my co-workers was "from where?" They said that if I lose weight I would be severely underweight. When I started losing weight I was 3lbs away from being over weight for my BMI I also have a very high body fat percentage. I have struggled with my weight since high school. I have lost close to 7lbs now but am still at the high end of a normal weight.

I am trying to get down to a weight which I think I can sustain long term. I am not concerned with being super skinny but I am concerned about my health and staying where I was was going to become a slippery slope of weight gain and unhealthy habits.

I try to explain to people that it is not about how I look(I do care about how I look this is just to get them off my back) at this point but about getting control over my weight while I am young and healthy so that I can stay healthy. They seem more receptive then I am sure that when I am 135lbs people will think I am crazy for wanting to lose 5lbs but it is something I feel I need to do for my well being and I think that is the only thing that is important.