[mkay]

Another day...still very distant with DH. Well, I set a boundary last night. Dinner was decided on for 6:45. I called DH and he said he'd be home at 7:00. I told him I'd probably be done eating because dinner is scheduled for 6:45. By 7:15, I packed up the food and put it in the fridge and went to the store. He came home as I was driving away. He KNEW what was discussed. This happens regularly. I guess without the anti stuff, I'm just tired of playing the game. I could feel different tomorrow. Who knows. Could be hormones too. Dinner tonight is 7:30.

Mitchy- How exciting for your upcoming date.
Thank you for the hug...I really needed it.

Bunna- Where are you? I'm up a total of 5 lbs now. Yup, gaining. Nope, not for long.

Sunny- Any word on pal Peggy?

Ez- I know, I say that to alot of people myself BUT I really should apply it to me. Thanks for the reminder.

Everyone Else- Hi

[SunnyD57]

Hi Michele ~ I am so glad to hear that all is going so well for you and Doug... my prayers are with you always for your happiness. Hope that the wedge helps you out... I have heard that they are great for taking pressure off the lower back.

As for grumpiness... the times are a changing (this coming Saturday in fact!). it's that time of year when it's getting darker and we have less sunlight, so it play havoc on the mind! I think we should take some lessons from the plants and get a grow light to sit next to for a couple hours a day during the Fall and Winters on the East Coast

I am doing very well - thanks! Peggy is doing well too... she is just waiting for some word from the Dr. and hasn't yet that I know of. No news is good news with our Dr. And my Joe is going to the chiro for his back --- he injured it at work a couple weeks ago. He is doing better, but at the end of a day it catches up with him.

Other then that I just miss everyone so much on here. It seems to be dying off slowly and this is so sad to me I have really grown to love you guys and worry when people don't stop in. Just call me *mom* of the thread We haven't seen Sue or Sami in so long, ya know. I thought for sure Sue would stop in for her b-day but she's probably very busy. And I am just plain concerned for Sami! She wasn't doing well the last time she popped in.

Hi MKay ~ I am so sorry... I did not go back and read your post (didn't realize you posted just before me ). I do hope that you have a better day today then you did yesterday! Great Big (((Hugs))) are being sent your way for a better day today

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[Bunnababy]

I think everybody is really busy right now Sunny. At least that is what I hope. By the way, I love the little doggies, all your graphics are great. You are right no news is good news regarding Peggy's test.

Thursday a.m. we are leaving for Las Vegas. Hooray!!!

((((((((((Mkay)))))))))) Gaining is probably from being depressed too. I know I eat more when depressed. My weight is also up but some of it is water cuz I am not drinking enough of it. You know, one of the decisions that I made with my marriage was to not let him control my feelings. You did the best thing by eating on time and then doing whatever you had planned for the evening. Does he suffer from depression? I just wondered why the no speaking. Dr. Phil was about relationships last week and he had some interesting things to say about controlling spouses, bullying spouses, and they had one husband on there who was less than complimentary with his comments about his wife.

Gary staying very busy as ususal. We did not book any shows this time as we are going to walk the strip and see all the beautiful fountains. I also want to see the Fremont light show. Too bad about the violence in your area. Does make one wonder what they are thinking.

Hello to everyone else, hope you have a wonderful day.

[teel]

I am here really! Sorry I have not been lately. I am still struggling with this absess. It is better but not gone completely. I saw my g.p. today and he wanted to put me on another course of antibiotics but I must have looked so horrified he relented! Said that he wanted to see me in 2 weeks and if it hasn't completely cleared up in that time then he will send me to the E.N.T. specialist who may well want to remove the offending gland before it has the chance to get up to any more mischief... I told him I felt generally unwell all over but it is very difficult to ascertain exactly why I am so ill at the moment...whether it is the after effect of the absess or the chronic Epstein Barr Virus that I suffer with....oh well I 'spose time will tell!
I did though manage to persuade the doc. to change over one of my meds from Oxycontin to Morphine Sulphate Tablets...hooray!!!I hope I will do better on these...

Sunny D I love those little wagging tail doggies!! They are well cute!! And I loved the Grfield cartoon strip!!! Gosh I am glad I don't have to go "smell searching" under my house!!!

Mkay sorry you are having a tough time of it with DH at the moment...I don't know what I can possibly say to help but I do pray that whatever is supposed to happen, will! It is hard when the emotions are raw and hurting like you-know-what but I hope you feel the prayers that hold you up and bring you peace..may your gaurdian angels lift you day by day and keep you and comfort you... It is difficult when one isn't talking to the other...not helpful at all. I do hope and pray that you and DH can come up with some middle ground that you can both start communicating from...

Mitchypoo I hope your PT didn't do any harm? Also that this wedge helps balance things out a bit. Life is difficult enough without having added pain to put up with too....

Hello to Ez...the wedding sounds quite spectacular being held on the beach at sunset...must have made some great wedding photo backrounds!! I have never come across a "groomsman" before! Is it the same as the English "best-man?"

Bunna I hope you have a good time away in Las Vegas...what is the Fremont Light Show all about? Is it with water and lazers? Enjoy it, whatever!!


Ok. Time for me to go. It is cold and crisp here tonight but no, no snow yet to make it cold and crisp and even!! Hee hee!! The dog decided it was bed time about 45 minutes ago...trouble is she always goes to MY bed...not hers!!!!

Take care everyone. Sleep well those who are thinking about going to bed...and I hope those of you who should be still wide awake still are too!!!

God Bless. Love from Teel xxx

[Kylesmommy]

Hi! My name is Sarah-Rachelle and I am a "baby" Christian, looking for some support on my weight loss goals. I really want to learn from you guys and God. I have been genuinely working towards my goals by working out, journaling, and I have lost five lbs. so far! The night time is the worst time of day for me, so I am here reading posts and trying to stay on track. I am scared to pray for losing weight, because I am not sure if I am partially wanting to lose weight for vanity reasons. I just feel miserable when I eat unhealthy, don't exercise, and gain weight. My self esteem suffers which effects my husband. My hubby Steve doesn't care about how I look. He just wants me to happy, and so do I. I am starting to get very self-councious around him, and I hate that feeling. Thanks for reading!

Sarah-Rachelle

[wilma12]

I too apologize for not being here more. I check in every day but don't always have time to respond. Right now I'm going through a little depression. I can't seem to find the energy to eat properly or exercise and I know those things would help me lift the depression. I have a bit more stress at work too and that doesn't help. I know I need to spend more time praying and letting God in on my problems too. I really appreciate all of you and how much you care about me. Thanks for your prayers. I really need them. I promise to be more positive when I post again.

[mkay]

Kylesmommy- Welcome. You have certainly come to the right spot as Sunny's welcome says. It's not a vanity thing as we are a temple of God and the Holy Spirit lives in us. Let's make that the thought for today...a pleasing temple for the Lord. The positive side to that is...yipppeee...feelin' sexy for the hubby! Nothing wrong with that! Again, welcome.

Teel- Thanks for the lovely response. I go through real lows during the month and DH is right down there with the lows. Every neglect, rejection, lack of attention just brings me to the pits. I'm on the upswing right now...I also got out my Power of a Praying Woman book today and read/prayed for a clean heart before God. Gee...I even talked with DH this morning. Baby steps for right now, but I'm always leary of too much conversation because it usually does not end up well. Baby steps for me. Thanks again.

Mitchy- I can't wait to hear how the rose man date went. How have you been feeling lately. I'll bet you're glad that the nasty cold is much better.

Wilma- I'm sorry you have been depressed. Depression is one of the emotions that want me to feed feed feed...with food. My sister shared with me the Tactics of the Enemy...here they are...for all of us....

1) The enemy will twist the truth.
2) He wants us to misunderstand the character of God (as in Eve's deception)
3) He attacks vulnerable spots. (This one is my weak spot) Ask yourself...Where am I vulnerable?
4) He isolates us.
5) He wants us to give power to sinful thoughts (thought life) and to get us to obsess about sinful situations. Our weapon...Look at what we have.

Sunny- Have fun in Vegas. Be safe driving and playing.

Bunna- How are you doing? Today...everyday...I think about starting out fresh. Then, like today, the lady I work with put a GIANT Hershey bar on my desk. UGH! I'm going to give it to someone at the Shepherd's house. Hopefully, I can hang onto it that long.

For today...I will read God's Word and thank Him for all I have and not dwell on what I "think" I don't have.

Believe me, this is not easy for me to do. Without the anti-dep I tend to dwell in the negative of my life.

Hugs and prayers for all of you...

[SunnyD57]

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Hi MKay ~

I'm not going to Vegas, Bunna is I am not a gambler either... never even played the lotto, just never felt the want to gamble. Bunna is leaving on Thursday...

I'll be back later to catch up...
(((Hugs)))
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[Mitchypoo]

Welcome Sarah-Rachelle!! What a beautiful name! This is a wonderful group for support, i hope you post with us often. Thank you for telling us a little about you. on the weight loss! When reading your profile i thought to myself, don't be so hard on yourself sweets.......you're a new mommy and you have so much going on i am sure.

Teel~Gosh, i hope and i'll pray for healing on that absess so you don't have to go through anymore with that.

Things are going well here, going to PT, the pain is not too bad, sometimes i get tired at night and it aches. I'm enjoying getting to know Doug and things are well there. Must get to work, i'll try to post at lunch.

[Mitchypoo]

Mkay, you have great ideas on what to do today to stay focused and i'm going to join you. Know that i'm thinking of you. Thanks for the inspiration.

[scorchin]

Hi my name's heather,
I would love to join this group you all sounds so wonderful and encouraging. Let me tell u a little bout myself.... hehe(always feel funny sayin that)
I became saved at the age of 14 however, I did lose my way a few times. God has really hit home to me the last couple of years.

I got on dialysis for renal failure( born with deformed kidneys) on oct 31, 2003 had a transplant jan 22 this year. my kidney was donated from a family friend from church. We have nothing matching so its a miracle that I'm doing so well I'm doing way above what the doctors excepted. So I'm thankful for that.
anyways, i think that pretty much is all oh yeah I'm 20, married, no kids, hopefully be able to go to school this november not sure yet, husband is going to school he just got out of the army yipppppeeeeee.
Mkay, Thanks for Tactics of the Enemy I was needing something like that today.
take care all,
Heather von hagel(love typing my new last name hehe)

[SunnyD57]

*WELCOME* to our little corner of the world Sarah-Rachelle and Heather Thanks for sharing some of yourselves with us... it is always wonderful when someone new stops in... hope you'll stay

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Sarah-Rachelle ~ *Pray* and ask away!!! God wants us to take care of the "Temple" he has given us and he tells us to pray and ask! Don't you find that when you feel good about yourself that you reach out more to others? The devil does not want you to be in that space so we are tempted... and what an easy sly way then to do it with the very things we need to survive (like food!). Dumb like a fox! That's why prayer is very important when it comes to your daily routines from the moment you awake till you close your eyes in rest. Small *help me Lord* prayers... He hears them all Do it for the Lord & then for Yourself; then you will be a better wife and mom too. *A little something to know... when there's an emergency on an air plane ~ did you know that you are to place the mask on YOUR face first; then take care of your child... what good are you to your child (or anyone else) if you are passed out! It's the same thing... put the Armor of God on yourself first (through prayer) and then you are able be there for others when they need you. You are a special Child of God

Heather ~ My dear... you have been through quite allot already in your young life... I am sure that God has a special place in his heart for you too. I think it's wonderful that you were able to find & receive the gift of a kidney and are now doing well. How awesome is that! We ALL lose our way sometimes (what I call *the desert*)... but the best thing about GOD is that we know that HE IS ALWAYS THERE waiting for us when we return... with arms open wide Glad to hear that your hubby is able to be home with you now - I bet you feel so relieved & blessed to have him close to you!

MKay ~ I too *Thank-you* for posting the tactics of the devil and how he gets into our lives... it's so true and we need to be aware at all times of the ways he sneaks into our lives - especially in the times we live in today! so much!

There's another saying that I have on a T-shirt... Remember the next time the devil tries to remind you of your past --- you are to remind him of his future! Rev20:10

*Prayers* for you that you are feeling better today, and for you and DH to remember the love you once had for one another

Teel ~ So good to see you return... I am so sorry to hear that the abscess is not healing as well as you hoped it would. I will keep you close in *Prayer* that it heals up soon and that you don't have to go for more meds. Sounds like you & your Dr. are staying on top of things...

Guess what We found another dead mole!!! Now it smells in our dining-room too... this is terrible! I am so glad that the last few days here where we live have been warm enough for me to open up the house... otherwise it would be unbearable!! I am using citrus sprays to help cover the odor and it still comes through... it's just plain *stinky* in here

Bunna ~ I realize that people must be busy and all, but in being a part of this thread for over a year I have never seen it this quiet is all... it's soooo nice to see you stopping in more... hope you have a WONDERFUL TIME in Vegas over the weekend beginning today Come back soon and tell us all about it, okay

Wilma ~ Always great to see you too!! I hope I didn't give you all the impression to come by ONLY WHEN YOU ARE DOING WELL!!! ??? That's is what is so great about this thread!!! To come by when you are feeling *Sad* & need prayers (!) as well as when you have *Joy's* to share. Don't stay away when you are depressed... that's what the devil wants us to do!

Note MKay's devil tactics: 1) The enemy will twist the truth.
2) He wants us to misunderstand the character of God (as in Eve's deception)
3) He attacks vulnerable spots. (This one is my weak spot) Ask yourself...Where am I vulnerable?
4) He isolates us.
5) He wants us to give power to sinful thoughts (thought life) and to get us to obsess about sinful situations. Our weapon...Look at what we have.

I will cover you in *prayer* today as I do for you all everyday! I have all your names on a list (God knows who you are ) and lift you up in my morning prayers.

Michele ~ Thinking of you in hopes that your back feels better soon! Have fun getting to know Doug better... are you two setting up another date soon?

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[mkay]

First of all...Welcome Heather! My daughter was married this summer (21yrs old) and that tie is slowly starting to come untied from mom(my) (that's what my kids call me). I'm glad you came aboard. Sunny said it all in her post. Amen to that!

After yesterday's ultimately lousy day, I decided that TODAY was going to me my day of transformation. I will be honest and tell you that I ended Wednesday with tons of sugar and with a pity party (no one wanted to come but me). Anyway, I told DH that when I awoke today, there would be a new Mary. I MUST change my attitude and lifestyle. I really needed those tatics yesterday. Anyway, here are my babysteps to transformation:
1) Kill the sugar attitude. It will not be easy going through the detoxing again of the sugar, but I WILL make it.
2) Still not going on the prozac until I try WALKING! Yes, you all heard me...walking. Starting tonight right after work, I'm taking the headset and I'm walking.
3) Attitude about going to work. My job is a gift and I treat it as though it were not. I need to work and hold the medical benefits so I really need to shift the "thoughts" about working.
4) Cooking...I will cook healthy once again BUT this time make enough so we can have leftovers the next night.
5) I must remember that none of the above will happen unless I (as Sunny stated) put on the armor of Salvation!

Now, I'm jumping off my crate that I just preached from to tell you goodmorning to all of my friends. I do love and care for each one of you but if I don't go get my coffee...

Thank you Sunny for that lovely lovely welcome! I need to be reminded Who it's about!

Back to work!

[wilma12]

Thank you all for your kind words and prayers. I am feeling much better about myself and know what I need to do to get back on track. Doing it is the key. Tonight I get my hair cut so maybe I'll feel even better after that.

Welcome to all the newbies. It's so great to have you here. As you can already see we have a great support group here.

mkay: You are my inspiration. Keep us posted on how you're doing. What you listed is exactly what I should be doing too. The sugar thing is the worst right now and I haven't even bought halloween goodies yet. Thank you so much for reminding me that God is my biggest supporter. How can I go wrong.

Sunny: I'm sorry you are having such a smelly time of it. I can't imagine it! Thanks so much for your encouraging words. Knowing that we are all praying for each other should be what keeps us going.

Michele: Sounds like things are going well in your end of the world. Keep us posted about you and DOug. We're all hopeless romantics you know!

Anyway, It's about the time I must leave for work again. Have a great day!

[SunnyD57]

Good for you MKay!!! My hats off to you and your new beginning Great Goals, girl!! I just love that God gives a new days to start again and again till we get it right, don't you Maybe you should print up your wonderful new goals and place them where you will see them on a daily basis (like on the ref. or near your computer)... it may help to see them each new day.

If you would like MKay... you could join in on the Walker's Thread that I keep going every month. It's not competitive at all, just set a reasonable goal and then try to do your best each day to meet that goal... anyone is welcome. I begin a new thread each month with new goals we set for ourselves. Walking will definitely help lift you out of the clouds... it's a natural high and you do it at your own pace... just 30 min a day is all you need, so if you do more - all the better

Maybe give it a look see We'd sure would love to have you and anyone else interested in joining us.
Here's a LINK for you ---> http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/show...039#post703039

Hey there Wilma ~ I am so glad to read that you are feeling better today. It is so hard with the weather changing and it getting darker these days. I don't know about you, but I feel like a bear getting ready for the winter! I want to eat all the time (don't, but want to ) It always feels good doing something for yourself... I think a hair cut is a great way to feel fresh again (((Hugs for you)))

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I really do care about ~all of you~ so much!! I may not know any more then what you tell me about you, but God asks that we just love, because we are all his children. He takes care of the rest Just remember that GOD loves you ALL so very much... so simple and yet... so very powerful!

*Big ole arms wrapped all around you - Hugs*
SunnyD
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