Would you say to someone at the gym?
 

" HEY Looks like you GAIN A TON of weight"
I did gain some weight!!! I used to go to this kickboxing class and a woman there saw me after a few months and she was like "YOU GAIN SO MUCH WEIGHT!!!" Iwas like :( :( :( :( :( :( Geez I know....
I am taking ZUMBA now and she goes there too.... I just hope she does not recognize me....:( :(
But what would you say back to her ???

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"And you've lost so many neurons!"? :D

you could look at her and say "gee thanks, i'm feeling much better now after my near death experience"

she's just rude and inconsiderate or maybe she's like me with ADHD and she just has no internal monolouge controls. however if you did gain weight, it' merely a statment of fact/observation not a judgement.

i'm sorry if she hurt your feelings.

:( I hope she does not talked to me ever again, cause believe it or not I do know I have gain some weight

well lol not my feelings but I dont need the constant reminder...I know I have gain weight....I just find such an observation rude.

Snide "Aww, aren't you the sweetest?" or "Yes, and I'm so glad you are here to make me feel better about it!"

In-your-face "Yes, on the other hand I still have all my brain cells - how unfortunate you sweated them out!"

Get away "I know, it's stress-related - kickboxing really helps! Though it would help more if I could actually kick some really rude annoying people... you know what I mean?" (delivered with a smile)

what mood to choose, that's the question! :devil: :smug:

Of course you could also go the adult way:

Open and honest "I did, but to be honest I find it quite insensitive and rude on your part to make this kind of observation - it's not helpful at all."

but again, that depends on the mood ;)

If I saw someone after a long period of time and she had gained 800 pounds and had to ride one of those motor scooter things because of it, I STILL wouldn't mention it. It's just rude. If the person wants to talk about it, she'll bring it up. Otherwise, you just DON'T SAY ANYTHING. People who make comments like that are complete idiots.

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OK but can i ask a question of you all?

do you say anything to the same person when you notice they've lost a lot of weight? and if so why or why not?

If I know the person maybe yes... If they have gained weight NOT

but why is it different.

why is gaining so negative and losing so positive?

i ask because i've lost 50 pounds and it's noticable. but i have folks afraid to say anything to me (not at the gym... at the gym everyone ignores me)... but they think "OMG what if she's sick"

I just think that we set ourselves up for problems if we give negative and positive connotations to weight.

I'm fat. It's not a negative statement. It's not an insult. I've had folks try to INSULT ME with 'your fat'. my response is "your very observant" tends to really annoy them.