Prayers. This post is long sorry
 

Thank you all for your prayers. I need them as we all do. My its kind of hard to talk about, but his old girlfrien told him she was hiv positive, and at the time they had unprotected sex. I know all young people now have relations. Thats not what worries me. Its that he had it without protection. Even though this girl was his girlfriend he still should have use protection. Anyway She doesn't know when she got the viris, so christopher went and got tested. It is taking longer to get the results because of this small town and the blood work has to be sent someplace else. So instead of the 3 days a person would have to wait its going to take ten. My chritopher is a good man. I don't want you to think hes not a good fine man because he is good he woeks hard and is very loving and he prays alot for both of us. I have been praying for him constantly. I know some my not approve of him having relations out side of marriage. But I have to let him live his life. I just wish he would be more careful. His results will be here by next week. So I really do need prayers for him.
I went baqck to get more pictures of my righr breast. What they found was calcium deposits that can be a prelude to cancer. Doctor said he couldn't tell enough from thenew films if they were benign or not. (I think I spelled benign right ) So I have made a appt with my pcp and we decide whether to wait 6 months or get a biopsy done now. I am going to insist on the biopsy now. Why wait? What for? so it can turn to cancer. No thanks. I 'm alittle bit concerned. My sister had the same thing so I guess the most they would do at this point, is removed the affected area. Its not like its a mass or anything like that. Hopefully they won't have to do anything. maybe it will come out normal.
Charlotte,
I feel really bad for you. I gues all of us can relate to how you are feeling. I will pray for you also.

Born2run,
Arent you on any of the R.A. meds? I mean if 1 of your arthritisies is degenerative, then it must be R.a. Because it is degenerative arthritis that I know of. So why arent you on Enbrel ot Humaris,or remicade, or even just Methotrexate? Maybe I miss understood and you are on some kind of arthritis med, besides the msn, I take that and 100mg of dhea it helps with my depression along with the R.A. and I am also taking a capsule of fish or salmon oil. They help also.
I am glad to have you join our group.

Age oldie,
I hope you read my firast paragraph it explains about my son. You have never had reconstruction? I couldn't even if I needed it. My insurance won't pay for it.

Pam,
I have been in moods like that myself. I will just not feel in the right mood ,so I wait for it to pass. I guess we get like that. Funny moods like that and I do not wan to do much of anything. I am glad you are back though, I hope it means you are feeling better.
DEb,
thanks for you prayers. How is your mini diet to lose 10 lbs going. I was down to 185.5, but then I cheated for a couple of days, but I am back on it today. I use food for my stress. I know that is a no no.

Well I will talk to you later. I hope you are all feeling better if not then I will pray for you.

Laura

Hi All, I think what frustrates me the most is when DH picks up on my bad mornings and always has a derogatory remark to make about it. Like I'm glad I'm so healthy, or if you would walk more you would work out the kinks. I do exercise, but it doesn't seem to make a difference in the pain ratio on a bad day. Thank goodness I have found a way to cut the days that the pain is bad down a little. I think sometimes the family makes the problem worse. My kids don't give me the grief that hubby does, and he has problems with his knees. I hate to resort to insulting him, but sometimes the evil part of my nature wants to lash back at him. Does anyone else have that problem and how do you handle it? Judy

Born2run,
I am so sorry for you. Does you DH ever comfort you or try to understand what you are going through. It would be awful to listen to derugotory remarks all the time. I understand how you would want to insult him back,but that isn't the answer it will only make things worse. Can you try to talk to him explain how it makes you feel when he says things like, and that you need support from him. Tell him that you are glad he doesn't have this illness. Tell him how lucky he is to be as healthy as he is. If nothings else works, Maybe you could try talking to someone like a therepist about what you are going through. It coulsn't hurt and I sure it would help you a lot. Take care

Hi again to all of you,
I have not been working out. I really dislike the form of exercise I am doing . Using my rider bike thingy.It is so boring!! I am going to only do the kind of workout that I will continue you with. So It pilates once again. Ig I do them constantly it should work for cardio and resistance. I know I would stick with the pilates more than anything else. It hurts to walk any great length, I mean even for 10 -20 mins. so I am going to go with what I like. And maybe later after my legs are stronger and the with my new meds (Enbrel and the full dose of methotrexate) I can start to walk again, where it isn't so uncomfortable.
What do you guys think? My diet is pretty easy to stay on, I do give myself 1 day off, not overindulge just you know have an ice cream or pizza. You will notice that I have gained back a couple of lbs. I was 185.5, Now I'm 188, I am hoping its water weight. I only have a lttle more than a month before my daughteras weeding I hope I can get into a size 16 comfortable or maybe a snug 14, At least lose 10 more lbs and along with my pilates my body will get a bit firmer. I hiope I can do this.
I am making a promise to myself to lose at least 10 more lbs and exercise regurlarly until the 12 of Sept.[I].
Starting new 10lb weightloss today with exercise
S W August 3, 2004
188
Laura

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Thank you all for the encouragement & prayers. I think I'm a little better. Although I sat up on pc until 3 am this morning. Then, couldn't sleep. Was still awake when the alarm went off. I do that a lot of nights. Just too much going through my head. It's a beautiful sunshiny day, though. That helps. :)

I was told by our meteorologist at the TV station today, that Gulf Shores is supposed to have beautiful weather the first half of next week. Then, the last half will be hurricane weather! Well....I'm not surprised! Guess we'll just wait & see.

Stirfried...when I was on my diet last summer, I allowed myself one meal a week free. Not one day. That may be a little too much. We go out most Friday nights to eat, so that was the meal I chose. That way, I had the whole week to plan what I would order. If my willpower got weak, I would think of that meal! It worked well. Also, be careful what you drink. I've found a lot of things you think are ok, just aren't. Try to learn to love water. I'm afraid I'm still not doing too well. DH will just have to see me in a swimsuit with this 10 pounds still on! :lol:
Don't be embarassed about your son. We all have our problems. I reckon all of my children had sex before marriage....one or two were expecting their first child. I'm not proud of it....they were raised better. But, when they get grown, they are responsible for what they do. It doesn't make them bad. I have some of the best children in the world. They did foolish things, that they are now hoping their children won't do. :^: I'm praying his tests come out good. I think you're making the right decision about yourself, also. Better to take care of it now. My youngest daughter (the one we're going to see) had that same scare a few weeks ago. Dr took a biopsy...& a mole & all that surrounded it. It had grown & changing colors. All was well, though. We were all so thankful. You are probably ok, too. Better to know, than to wonder.

Born2run2....I'm sorry you get remarks. My Dr warned me, when I was first diagnosed with RA, that most people wouldn't understand the disease. Especially my husband. It was advancing rapidly, & he wouldn't understand me getting so bad, so fast. He was right. I've got a great husband....but, although he knows I have problems, he'll sometimes say things like, " honey, maybe if you walk awhile this evening, it'll help get the stiffness, & pain out...sitting around will only make it worse." They're not derrogatory, but shows he doesn't understand. He means well..... The last 2 nights, he's noticed my feet don't look so good. Hard to explain...they hurt a lot, but, don't look very good either....like under skin...turn dark easily. He seemed worried. I told him that's why I don't get out & walk like he said. It hurts me too much. Just the daily walking I have to do, is enough to cause misery. Maybe your DH "just doesn't get it", like mine. It took him quite awhile to get this far. He was sure the Drs just wanted the money. He keeps wanting me to try home remedies he hears on the radio. He says I'd have to stop all the meds I'm on, according to them. Sooooo, I'm not cooperating. :lol:

Well...since I've written a book, I'm going to go. :lol:
Everyone have a good evening.

Hey There
 

Angel- Don't worry about the extra 10 lbs. I am sure you can handle the hubby. Ask him to look in the mirrow then go to the beach and enjoy yourself. That salt water is good for your arthritis..
Stirfried Good advice to Born 2 run..Sounds like you are doing good with your exercise. Walking is the only thing I will do. At first it was very painful for me too. I increased my milage weekly until I could walk 4 miles in a hours time. I still have the pain when I walk. It does ease up after the first mile. I do pay the price afterward. I have to take pain med at night to ease the pain to sleep.
I have to say there are some men that can be reasoned with. There are some also that are just closed minds. I had a problem with mine for a number of years. I finally told him that without his help and less remarks I could not do what needed to be done to lose the weight. When he got the message I lost so far 70 lbs. I need to get off about 5 more. Right now I am struggling to maintain.You can be sure they don't look as good as they did in their 20's either. Sometimes they have to be reminded.Turn a deaf ear and do what you have to do to get healthy. I have cooked on most meals 2 different meals every day for the past 5 years. Remember it is your body.
Now I will get off the soap box today... I am going to see my daughter tomorrow.. I can hardly wait...Everybody have a Great Weekend...Joanne

HI all, well according to the weather it is going to be a beautiful day today. Not starting out that way though. I think both of you are right I haven't been speaking up for myself very well wen DH makes his remarks. I can't believe that he is trying to be nasty it just comes acrossed to me that way when my joints are aching anyway. I'm thinking of starting a swimming program a couple of days a week,I hear the water is really good on the joints, besides the YMCA has a hot tub so that will definitely help the joints. I am looking forward to getting to know everyone, and it is so nice to have a place to go so I can say man these joints are hopping today without getting alot of flack. Have a great day, Judy

Angel-Lover,
Thank you so much for your comments they men a lot to me. I knew you all would be understanding about my son. I sure hope you are better. Life can be so hard at times. So when the good times happens we can appreciate them more.
Born2run,
I know what you mean,when yousay you take things the wrong way when you are hurting. Still I hope you can make your DH understand what you are going through. Everyone with any kind of chronic pain and illness knows how upsetting little remarks can make you feel. I think the YMCA is a great Idea,not just the hot tub, though that is great, but swimming also without ant weight pressure on the joints. If you do it I bet you will feel a lot better in a month or so. I wish I could do that here. My Doctor prescribed physical therepy, whivh includes a weight room and pool, but so far my Oregon Health plan won't cover it.
Joanne D.,
I know walking is good for you, but I don't want to do that until I know I am stronger, and although pilates it hurts some. It is easier than walking. I don't have to worry about the nedd to sit down becauce of the pain or fatigue, becauce I am already on the florr. I can just reat a minute or so then start again. Though I am going to have to devise some plan for more cardio
You know swimming is so good for you. I ought to put some money aside each week out of my disability check and pay for the use of the hopitaks therepy room. Heck I could even walk up to the hospital. I live a feww blocks a way and part of it is up hill. WE have really short blocks. Not like in a big town or city.
I sure wish friday would get here so I can know what the Doc will do about my mammagram.
My daughter told me yesterday that my sons Doc. called,but I never heard anything else. I went to bed really early, and she called after that. I will have to wait for him to get up which is always around 2:00 He works lste swing shift and doesn't get off until 2 or 3 in the morning. I 'm hoping that if he got bad news, Sarah would have made my aunt wake me. I'm praying for that.
Where is the reat of our gang. I wrote my email guy 3 days ago about my medical problems and he hasn't written back. Ever since I told him about my weight, he hasn't been eamiling as much. In fact in the 2 weeks since he got that one email,he has written a whole 3 times. He says he doesn't have computer access,But he wrote every day before he knew about my weight. He also thinks I weigh290 lbs, which was a typing error. Of which I informed was wrong. I don't now why I told him it was a type O . I mean if the man has a problem with me weighing any amount then he is not worth the trouble to email him. So I will let this thing run its course and hope I can find another man friend to email.

Laura

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Its only me! Just popping in to say hi! Welcome Born2run2! Nice when somebody new comes in on the thread.....new ideas, and news aches and pains but at the end of the day we can all help each other get through our grotty days. Anyway I too have OA and RA. I take Celebrex200 and a muscle relaxant at night along with painkillers when needed. I was on Mtx for three and a half years (oral) but got major gastric probs so stopped taking them in December.On 31st August I am seeing my Rheumy again and he wants to start me on Mtx injections. :( Not really looking forward to that but we shall see how it goes. Anyway apart from that we all have our off days but this forum is very supportive. My DH became very supportive too when I had to rely on him to get me out of bed, to help with getting dressed, getting out of a chair and just about everything I did until the hospital got me under control. In fact I find it hard to believe that I have made such an improvement in the last four years. He is now disabled and cannot work as his back is beyond repair. We now support each other and have both learnt to be more tolerant with each other.Sometimes its very hard for both of us but we get there. He is 63 and I am 54 next month and therefore we are not giving up yet :lol:
I bought a new swimsuit whilst I was over in the States in July an I am determined to start a swimming routine too. I went a couple of times whilst I was over there and I felt alot better and also a sense of achievment, so I am definately going to get started over here. I am sure its a good thing.
Laura I am so glad that you know where you are going with your results of your mammogram. My best friend had the same thing as you and she was fine.
I will keep praying for you but I am sure you will be ok. :) Right best close now as I have gone on and on again. By the way Joanne , I too cook different meals every day as my DH eats hardly anything that I eat so I know what youre going through on that one. :lol: Hi to everybody else that I havent manage to single out a little message too but theres getting quite a few of us now and its hard. Take care y'all! :lol: http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v2...ics/BB5041.jpg

Immagonnadoit,
You sure have lost a lot of weight. I wish I could do it. I haven't really lost anymore weight since I started this diet 2 and a half weeks ago. Last week the scale said I weighed 185.5, But then I cheated for a day or two and now it reads 188.5. I mean its been almost 3 weeks. I guess because I cheated 2 days in a row. and before that I cheated 1 day. I'm sure thats why there is hardly any change. I will have to keep at it for another 2 weeks without cheating and I hope I will have lost at least 2-3 lbs. What do you think?
Where is everyone else? I haven't heard from Deb or anne for a couple of days. Let me think. :chin: I have seen post from angel, Joanne D. Our new friend Born2run, and ageoldie. I think that ir for now. Khewes I hardly ever see her posts that much lately. I guess she is busy or maybe she doesn't feel like it. I know I get that way sometimes.
To all, If you have read my post to immagonnadoit,the last part anyway, about my not losing much. What do you think. That maybe I cheated too much and I am expecting more results than I have worked for. Just tell me that eating low fat along with low glycemic foods and low calorie intake of 1000 that I'm going to lose weight Oh yeah I am working out now Down at the hospital in there weight room and swimming pool, cool huh :cool: :strong: :goodscale :cheer:

Laura :D Have a great days girls. I am praying for us all with our different problems and illnesses.

You women here our my Angels. I am so glad I have you to talk with. Even though we don't really know each other. But I love the way you all our there doe me with your caring and support. You have saved my sanity at times. :angel: :grouphug: :balloons: And here is a virtual present and cake :hb: :hat: :gift: :goodvibes :cheers: :cheer: :thanks:

Okay I think that about covers it.
Thanks
Laura
sw
196
cw
188.5
gw
140

Hi everyone, Boy today has been an eventful day for me. My business has been down lately so I think I've got a line on a part time position for the time being. I had let myNursing license expire, so I just have to take a modified class to get it back. That is good news. And I tried the cross trainer and it was wonderful and didn't bother my joints. Actually my joints feel pretty good today, so I cont my blessings when that happens. Hope everyones day is going fine. I agree with the person that said when you are helping another person as much as her husband helped , it's kind of hard to keep criticising. Everyone keep the faith and I'll let you know how my interview goes tomorrow. Judy

Hi. I haven't forgotten you all. Just been so busy with looking after my little grand daughter this week. She is so good, but she IS only 6. I have to do some things I don't usually do.

Laura - don't worry about anybody thinking anything about your son. I hope the test comes back negative. Seems like most young people today live the same way. It would be nice if they took precautions, but they just don't think, I guess. I hope you get the word from the Dr. on the mammogram and get the biopsy done. I did hear on TV the other night that an MRI is much better than a mammogram at detecting breast cancer. Maybe that will be an option for you as well. I will go next week and see what the Dr. has to tell me. Hope it is all clear this time, but time will tell.

Well, I am tired and don't remember what everybody said. I shall just say HI and hope you all sleep well.

Hello
 

Happy canuck,
So You are having a lot of fun with your granddaughter. I am jealous. My grandson is still away at his Dad's. But My daughter and I are going down to visit him on his birthday, and hopefully bring him home for school/ Brady is going to turn 7 august 17. He has been gone to long. Sarah my daughter said that 3 months without him without his mother is too long. He never goes that long without seeing his dad and other grandparents. Its like Randy (the Dad) said he had brady for summer vacation, not thinking about how Brady would feel about iy. He is really miossing his mom, he broke down one day really crying hard for over an hour to his mom that he wanted to come home and that was 2 weekd ago. Now his grandparents have taken him to the coast to get his mind off of it. I think that he should have stayed with his dad dor 6 weeks then home with us and then if Randy wanted Brady he could have had him for 1 more week before school started. He also wants Brady with him for every holiday. Sarah sais that sge is going to talk to Randy about visitations and let Brady alternate holidays and split the holidays. If not she will have to go to court.

Everyone,
I am getting a biopsy om the August 13th on friday. Funny huh, I mean I'm having it done on fri the 13th. :lol: . Kidding aside, I am a little bit scare but I think that its going to turn out to be nothing but a false alarm. 70 % of this are nothing. Thats what my Doctor said. My son's test came back negitive, and he hasn't been with the girl in over 8 months, so all he has to do is 1 more HIV test in a feww months and he will be safe. They say that if nothing happens within the year then he will not have HIV. So Thats go. I am so thankful that he is gouing to be alright. No matter what happens with me I can handle as long as my son is okay.

Angel,
I am doing better on my diet, I have lost maybe 2lbs for now. No more cheating either. So I should continue to lose even if its slow I can hope to lose the 10lbs by my youngest daugher jenny's wedding.

To the other who I don't see. A Big hello and hope you are all doing fine. :wave:

Sw
190
Cw
187-187.5
gw for now
177
Final goal weight
140
Laura

I haven't been around for a while. My laptop died while we were on vacation and I was afraid that it was a serious problem, but it turned out that it was only a loose part, and it's fixed and I didn't loose anything :)

I don't remember who said what, so I'm just going to reply to the subjects and not the posters.

Husbands Can't live with'em and can't live without 'em! I know mine doesn't understand my disease at all, but so what, I really don't either. But he too thinks if I would just get up and MAKE myself move everyone would be wonderful. If only it was that easy!

ExerciseI try to walk about a mile & a half three days a week. My Rheumy said he would perfer that I not do it, but I told him that I walk with my mother, and If I didn't walk, she wouldn't either, and that is all the exercise she gets, so he said just not to overdo it. What I do do, that I have his full blessings for is to work out in the water 5 or 6 days a week. I am lucky to live near a really good health club that is affiliated with the area hospital. It has two large pools, one a regular olympic size and tempature, the other is almost as big, but it called a therapy pool and is kept at a much warmer temp for those of us with arthritis. I actually do stuff in both pools, but the warmer water feels better. I do a water walking class, a water Pilates class, two advanced areobic classes, and a deep water running class. When I work out on Saturday's I'm on my own and usually do a combination of my favorites from all the classes.

Laura I'm so glad you had good news about your son. I can imagine how scary that was, and none of us could possibaly think less of you for the actions of your son. I know from my own perspective, I have no room to talk. Although we raised both our boys very "strictly", going to church 3 times a week, and then some, when the got grown and on their own, the lived their own lives. Any yes, everyone does, it. I would not begin to judge someone because of the actions of their children! I'm just so glad he had the outcome he did. As for you, keep us informed. I too feel like the biospy will be fine, but you will get through it. I will keep you in my prayers.

Weight loss I know that this whole forum is based on weight loss, but I don't want to talk about it!!! I am the same weight that I was over 3 years ago, and I have been on one diet or the other almosot every day. I just can't give up of I'd be as big as a house, and the fact that my DH has lost 240 pounds hasn't helped my outlook. Talk about disrespectful comments about how you feel, just imagine how it is that he's lost all this weight and I am struggling and can't loose an ounce.

Everything else I have reached the limit on my concentration, and I don't remember anything else, I just want to say that I really enjoy being a part of this group and am beginning to feel like you are all my new friends.

ageoldie,
hi, I know what you mean about being on a diet and it not working. I have been on onr noe for 3 weeks and I think I am just about the same weight. I go down a pound and then back up. I know I am trying, and I know I haven't always done the best I could, but my Doc scale says I lost 3lbs, but I was down 4 lbs a little over 2 months ago. so I don't know if I losing or not. I mean the scale just doesn't continue to go down continually. Like I said down 2 Up 1. HELP!! I cané give up either or I would be huge too.
Laura
sw190
cw today
188
yesterday
186.5
See what I mean. If I am not careful I will :( be back to 190.