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JesikaBeth 01-10-2017 10:33 AM

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Originally Posted by lisaloveshearts (Post 5293851)
I want to post this before I post anything else.


I came to the conclusion today that I am not going to continue with the weight loss clinic. It's not that I am giving up on losing weight, that is so far from the truth. I am going to keep going and never give up getting healthier. I am going to continue with all the skills I've learned. Drinking shakes instead of meals, healthy snacks, keeping a food journal, etc.

What I don't like is being weighed every week. It's way too much pressure for me. I hate it. It makes me want to cry. I dont' like having someone looking over my shoulder. I'm not going back.

So with that being said...


I still have a couple of chores to do today before Jennifer gets home. Clean the litter box and run the sweeper. The dishes are done and my clothes are out of the dryer.





Hey Holly,

Yeah, I feel really good about just selling my house and not worrying about fixing the kitchen. I'm going tomorrow to start getting my things out. I have my couch loaded up with things I wanted to keep. Now, I just have to load them in my car.
I have a huge fake plant I'm keeping. I've had this plant for over 10 years. It's silly what things wind up meaning to us. I'm also getting Mocha's ashes. My Kurt Busch stuff. All my picture frames of Jennifer. It's going to take me the whole 30 days to get what I want. I have tons of boxes with Jennifer's homework assignments, as she was growing up.

Holly, I'm glad you are not mad at me for talking to you about therapy. Good luck with your new Dr. :)


I have a therapy appt at 9 am in the morning.


Where is everyone? :(


Anyway, that is about it for now. See you all soon.

Hi There. That's a big decision, and I am proud of you for honoring yourself and what is healthiest for you!! WTG :carrot:

JesikaBeth 01-10-2017 10:38 AM

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Originally Posted by IBelieveInMe2 (Post 5294197)
JesikaBeth: Sorry about the PCOS diagnosis. :( I hope you will be able to manage it well. How did the endoscopy go? I hope all is well with you. Best of luck to you with Weight Watchers! You have done such a good job with losing a significant amount of weight already. I know you can lose the rest of the weight you want to and get to your goal weight! And we will be cheering you on! :cheer2: :cheer3:

Hi. Yea the PCOS diagnosis kinda sucked but at least I have an answer. Problem is, the way to manage it is by taking Metformin (which I'm already on for Diabetes) and Birth Control (which I am not a candidate for bc I smoke, plus it makes me really nauseated... on that note I am highly considering quitting smoking - again - so we shall see.) There is also a supplement that is supposed to be very good in managing PCOS, regulating periods, and stabilizing mood swings from the hormones. Hmmm... Things with the endoscopy went ok. We are paying it off in payments. The doc visually found a hiatal hernia and gastritis. He took biopsies to make sure there were no cancer cells bc I have a hx with GI Cancer (in remission since 12/2014.) Thanks hun. Lastly, I really hope I can lose this weight. My weigh in days are supposed to be on Wednesday, but I 'cheated' and weighed today. I've lost only 2 ounces in the last week doing WW. I am pretty disappointed, actually, but they say if this happens to lower your daily point allowance. Hoping for a more significant loss next week. :hug: :val1:

lisaloveshearts 01-10-2017 10:57 AM

I need to get this off my chest.


Originally, a few months ago, I had talked with my sister about selling my house to her. We agreed on $40,000. (I would have only made $5000 on the house with that offer)

This was before the fire. Now that I am selling the house "as is" I have a buyer who wants the house soon. I was after my sister the last month to go to the bank and get qualified, as far as I know, she never did. Now that I have this offer I am going to take it. I make more than $5000 with it and the house will be sold with in the month.

I told her yesterday and she feels screwed. I can understand that but I have to do what is best for me. I have offered to help her financially, move her stuff into a storage unit and help her find a place to live. It's like she doesn't hear me, she has been blowing up my phone all morning. I told her I simply do not understand her at all. I am offering to help her get into an apartment or a small house. She told me she's been crying all night. I just will never understand her.


I feel selfish but this is what is best for me. I try to stay away from my sister as much as possible. She is a difficult person.


I just told her to stop badgering me via text.

VermontMom 01-10-2017 08:35 PM

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Originally Posted by lisaloveshearts (Post 5294304)
I need to get this off my chest.


Originally, a few months ago, I had talked with my sister about selling my house to her. We agreed on $40,000. (I would have only made $5000 on the house with that offer)

This was before the fire. Now that I am selling the house "as is" I have a buyer who wants the house soon. I was after my sister the last month to go to the bank and get qualified, as far as I know, she never did. Now that I have this offer I am going to take it. I make more than $5000 with it and the house will be sold with in the month.

I told her yesterday and she feels screwed. I can understand that but I have to do what is best for me. I have offered to help her financially, move her stuff into a storage unit and help her find a place to live. It's like she doesn't hear me, she has been blowing up my phone all morning. I told her I simply do not understand her at all. I am offering to help her get into an apartment or a small house. She told me she's been crying all night. I just will never understand her.


I feel selfish but this is what is best for me. I try to stay away from my sister as much as possible. She is a difficult person.


I just told her to stop badgering me via text.

Oh gosh Lisa, I was wondering if there was gonna be a problem with your sister, I do remember you telling us she was difficult and that you try to stay away from her, and I didn't know if she and you split ownership of the house and had to deal with that. You did the right thing, you have tried to help her, and if she is badgering you she needs to be an adult and stop!

I hope she has stopped bugging you by now.

VermontMom 01-10-2017 08:43 PM

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Originally Posted by JesikaBeth (Post 5294292)
Hi. Yea the PCOS diagnosis kinda sucked but at least I have an answer. Problem is, the way to manage it is by taking Metformin (which I'm already on for Diabetes) and Birth Control (which I am not a candidate for bc I smoke, plus it makes me really nauseated... on that note I am highly considering quitting smoking - again - so we shall see.) There is also a supplement that is supposed to be very good in managing PCOS, regulating periods, and stabilizing mood swings from the hormones. Hmmm... Things with the endoscopy went ok. We are paying it off in payments. The doc visually found a hiatal hernia and gastritis. He took biopsies to make sure there were no cancer cells bc I have a hx with GI Cancer (in remission since 12/2014.) Thanks hun. Lastly, I really hope I can lose this weight. My weigh in days are supposed to be on Wednesday, but I 'cheated' and weighed today. I've lost only 2 ounces in the last week doing WW. I am pretty disappointed, actually, but they say if this happens to lower your daily point allowance. Hoping for a more significant loss next week. :hug: :val1:

HEY JesikaBeth, I hope so much the biopsies come back clean for you!!

lisaloveshearts 01-11-2017 11:50 AM

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Originally Posted by VermontMom (Post 5294412)
Oh gosh Lisa, I was wondering if there was gonna be a problem with your sister, I do remember you telling us she was difficult and that you try to stay away from her, and I didn't know if she and you split ownership of the house and had to deal with that. You did the right thing, you have tried to help her, and if she is badgering you she needs to be an adult and stop!

I hope she has stopped bugging you by now.



Hi Holly,

No, I own my home all by myself, except for the bank. At this point, I really don't want anything to do with her. I blocked her number on my phone.

I am going to give her some money to reimburse her for work she did on my garage, if this situation works out, but other than that. Nope, nothing. I am sincerely done.

lisaloveshearts 01-11-2017 11:58 AM

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Originally Posted by JesikaBeth (Post 5294292)
Hi. Yea the PCOS diagnosis kinda sucked but at least I have an answer. Problem is, the way to manage it is by taking Metformin (which I'm already on for Diabetes) and Birth Control (which I am not a candidate for bc I smoke, plus it makes me really nauseated... on that note I am highly considering quitting smoking - again - so we shall see.) There is also a supplement that is supposed to be very good in managing PCOS, regulating periods, and stabilizing mood swings from the hormones. Hmmm... Things with the endoscopy went ok. We are paying it off in payments. The doc visually found a hiatal hernia and gastritis. He took biopsies to make sure there were no cancer cells bc I have a hx with GI Cancer (in remission since 12/2014.) Thanks hun. Lastly, I really hope I can lose this weight. My weigh in days are supposed to be on Wednesday, but I 'cheated' and weighed today. I've lost only 2 ounces in the last week doing WW. I am pretty disappointed, actually, but they say if this happens to lower your daily point allowance. Hoping for a more significant loss next week. :hug: :val1:

Oh JesikaBeth,

I wish to you nothing but health. You have become such an important poster in this thread.

Keep chugging a long on trying to lose weight. If you think a food journal might help you try...fastsecret.com Just try it, you have nothing to lose.


Have a great Wednesday. :)

lisaloveshearts 01-11-2017 12:05 PM

Hey everyone,


I hope you are having a great Wednesday.


It's pretty slow around here today, it's kinda driving me nuts. I wish someone would call me (not my sister).


I'm going to do some chores here, dishes, empty the recycled trash, clean the kitty room. I might do a load of laundry too.


That's about it for now. Have a great day. :)

VermontMom 01-11-2017 07:58 PM

Hi Lisa and everyone Lisa I like your new avatar, I love naps also :D My favorite is on a sunny winter afternoon, after I've had some lunch, on my bed with two blankets :D

I had to work today, my usual day off, to 'make up' for planning on taking this Saturday off, for our annual Harley Raffle. I have progressed, that I dont get a stomachache by just thinking about this event, lol. I know it will go fine and everyone will have a good time. I talked to a comedian this summer, and I told him of my anxiety when I have to emcee this event. He gave me very good advice, he told me that the people in the audience want to have a good time, and they want to see ME having a good time, cause they won't enjoy themselves if I'm all quiet and shuffling my feet and nervous. Apparently last year I acted vivacious and entertaining :D I don't remember that :devil: but hopefully I can do it again.

lisaloveshearts 01-11-2017 08:28 PM

Hey ladies,

I got a text from the man who is interested in my house. He wants to see my house again, tomorrow. It makes me nervous. What if he finds something and changes his mind? I'll be so disappointed.

I might come down a couple thousand but that is it.


I'm so anxious.

VermontMom 01-12-2017 07:27 PM

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Originally Posted by lisaloveshearts (Post 5294627)
Hey ladies,

I got a text from the man who is interested in my house. He wants to see my house again, tomorrow. It makes me nervous. What if he finds something and changes his mind? I'll be so disappointed.

I might come down a couple thousand but that is it.


I'm so anxious.

What happened at the meeting today?? we hope it was good news!

I met with my new General Practitioner today, I like him. He is as laid-back and casual as my previous doctor. He looked at my medical records - barely 2 and a half pages :D He did suggest possibly weaning myself off the Wellbutrin as it's been like 15 years ..I said I think of it as my safety net. He does't want to 'rock the boat' especially in winter , so we agreed to try maybe in Spring. And I might need a pre-surgery checkup with him, before the cataract surgery.

lisaloveshearts 01-12-2017 08:25 PM

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Originally Posted by VermontMom (Post 5294834)
What happened at the meeting today?? we hope it was good news!

I met with my new General Practitioner today, I like him. He is as laid-back and casual as my previous doctor. He looked at my medical records - barely 2 and a half pages :D He did suggest possibly weaning myself off the Wellbutrin as it's been like 15 years ..I said I think of it as my safety net. He does't want to 'rock the boat' especially in winter , so we agreed to try maybe in Spring. And I might need a pre-surgery checkup with him, before the cataract surgery.


Holly,

I am so glad you liked your new guy. If he weans you off Wellbutrin, is he going to put you on something else?

The buyer is still very interested. I am now, waiting on him to get a contract put together.

The bank is looking for companies to come empty my house. I have the majority of my stuff out of the entry room and living room. There are just a couple of things. I made a list so I did not miss anything in the house.(upstairs)


I did better today. My calorie intake today was 1291. Kinda low, but that is ok. I ate really healthy today.

lisaloveshearts 01-13-2017 05:36 PM

HI ladies,


I hope you all are well. I'm alone tonight, jennifer won't be back until tomorrow. (Sat.)


The bank is still getting getting estimates to have my house cleaned out. The first estimate was $2000. I was told today that they are going to try to find someone that is cheaper but they are not sure they can.


I have not heard from the buyer today. I may not hear anything until next Tuesday, with Monday being a holiday. I will admit to being on pins and needles. I don't think he's going to change his mind, I just want the whole thing done so I can move on.

I'll be honest. Last night i was looking up renting houses where I want to move. They are few and far between. There aren't even that many apartments. I started looking at houses that were for sale and found a cute little one. It is $15,500.

http://www.century21.com/real-estate...p=REN027143025


That's it for now. I'll post again later.

EasySpirit 01-13-2017 07:11 PM

I have written a number of posts, then lost them! VERY frustrating!

EasySpirit 01-13-2017 07:12 PM

As you probably guessed, the post above was my test! LOL! I am going to keep these short!

EasySpirit 01-13-2017 07:16 PM

Holly, how has your weather been? We had the crazy mini blizzard last Saturday, but it has been warm since, and there is no snow in the ten day forecast! YIPPEE ! !

I am still having a problem with Hershey chocolate! I am exercising a minimum of an hour a day, but the eating is off. However, talking about body image, I was in a store looking at pants and I picked up a pair of size 12; the sales woman (one of those stores where they are too helpful) came over and told me that they run large, and I should try an EIGHT. I took an 8, a 10 and a 12 into the changing room, and the 8 was perfect! They had them in four colors - I bought all four!

Kathleen, it sounds like your daughter is doing great; I hope your son has adjusted to college. I can understand how starting in January might be tough.

EasySpirit 01-13-2017 07:17 PM

How are the food journals coming along?

EasySpirit 01-13-2017 07:21 PM

Lisa, I checked the link you sent; you might want to check the cost of renting the lot the trailer is on, what does the rent include, and how often does it increase. Is the property owned condo-style by the home owners, or does one person or a group of people own it?

My grandparents had a trailer in Florida many years ago that was more trouble than it was worth because the lot was owned by a family; they were always changing rules, raising the rent of the lot, insisting the propane gas only be bought by one company (their relative.) My gamily sold that one and built a small house that ended up costing them less in the long run.

I understand about not wanting to be weighed in weekly. I think Weight Watchers is a wonderful, practical diet. I joined twice, lost some weight but quit. The weighing in was terrible for me. If I gained or stayed the same I was close to tears; if I lost I was overly proud of myself and could not wait to get something to eat to celebrate! I seemed to find groups where one person, usually one who was at goal, dominated the entire discussion.

Hello to everyone else.

Coop27 01-14-2017 06:08 AM

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Originally Posted by EasySpirit (Post 5294992)
How are the food journals coming along?

:lol: I completely forgot we all agreed to do food Journals!!! I managed it for 1 day :lol:

Coop27 01-14-2017 06:18 AM

I might lesrn from Monica's lesson and post over a few, just in case! By the way, I have a new tablet with a wonky predictive keyboard so if you see weird things (e.g. it'seems can'take), sorry!

Wow Lisa, everything is moving so fast! I can't believe you have a buyer lined up and ready to go! I really hope the perfect place opens up at Indian Lake for you as well :) i'm sorry your sister didn't take it so well - I recall you hadn't thought she'd be able to afford your place anyway? It will probably be best for her in the end. I think it will be best for you too - the stress of having to fix up your place, just to sell it on...

How have you been getting on with your yoga?

Coop27 01-14-2017 06:34 AM

Holly - yay for your bonus! It sounds like the r@t is in a good mood lately :) all these surprises - you must have given him a good Christmas present ;)

I can't believe how cold you guys are up there! I am not surprised you find the winters so depressing. I do like the excuse to cozy up with a couple of blankets for a nap though!

I remember my gran had cataract surgery once, and it does make a big difference. It was very quick. I hope your GP is open to the tourism idea, and can help you find somewhere safe!

Coop27 01-14-2017 06:43 AM

Kathleen, I'm so glad your son has started his new course :) he has been so brave going in mid-year, but I'm sure he'll settle in. Having to adjust to a roommate is pretty tough, I hate the concept of not having a personal space to curl up in if things get tough, but it's great he has your home to come back to if he does need it.

Your cruise sounds amazing! I really hope you have a fab time :) i'm sure your hubby will find enough to keep himself entertained too. I think it sounds like a great experience for your daughter!

I really hope your test results come back all clear. Our bodies sometimes just do some strange things for no reason (especially with us females), so hopefully it's just one of those times.

Coop27 01-14-2017 06:52 AM

Jessica, I hope your test results come back all clear! It's a stressful wait.

I am waiting for results from a PCOS test myself, so interesting to find someone recently diagnosed, but I won't find out for a few weeks yet. I'll be interested in how they treat you going forward, in case I have to do it too. Good luck with quitting smoking!

Coop27 01-14-2017 07:34 AM

Well we made it through our first week sugar free! I wasn'the an absolute saint - I had a few crackers that had been made with a tiny amount of sugar, and a small amount of dried fruit. It has been alright, but I am missing having a little after dinner treat. Some old university friends arranged a dinner last night though, so we had to take an evening off - poor us :lol: . I want to get back on track today, but have a bit of a hangover, and really want some fanta! I'm trying very hard to resist.

I was so nervous about dinner last night though, I haven't seen a couple of them for about 5 years, and i've gained about 30-40lbs since then. I would wake up randomly worrying about what they'd think. It sounds so silly, I know! I've become very nervous about interacting with people recently, and a lot of it is coming down to my weight. I'm just going to have to carry on trying to be healthy!

lisaloveshearts 01-14-2017 07:11 PM

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Originally Posted by EasySpirit (Post 5294989)
I have written a number of posts, then lost them! VERY frustrating!



If you can copy and paste your posts before you submit your replies, it helps. I do it a lot and it saves me from losing my long *** posts. :) :D

lisaloveshearts 01-14-2017 07:15 PM

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Originally Posted by EasySpirit (Post 5294992)
How are the food journals coming along?



Monica, mine are doing really well. I joined fatsecret.com, it is so easy to use.
https://www.fatsecret.com/Default.as...nd&id=62163295

I have not missed a day and the most calories I've had in a day is 1500. It really is easy to use. :)

How is everyone one else doing?

lisaloveshearts 01-14-2017 07:21 PM

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Originally Posted by EasySpirit (Post 5294993)
Lisa, I checked the link you sent; you might want to check the cost of renting the lot the trailer is on, what does the rent include, and how often does it increase. Is the property owned condo-style by the home owners, or does one person or a group of people own it?

My grandparents had a trailer in Florida many years ago that was more trouble than it was worth because the lot was owned by a family; they were always changing rules, raising the rent of the lot, insisting the propane gas only be bought by one company (their relative.) My gamily sold that one and built a small house that ended up costing them less in the long run.

I understand about not wanting to be weighed in weekly. I think Weight Watchers is a wonderful, practical diet. I joined twice, lost some weight but quit. The weighing in was terrible for me. If I gained or stayed the same I was close to tears; if I lost I was overly proud of myself and could not wait to get something to eat to celebrate! I seemed to find groups where one person, usually one who was at goal, dominated the entire discussion.

Hello to everyone else.

I am so glad you understand about the weighing in process. I hate it.

Thanks for the questions I need to ask concerning owning a trailer. I will write them down. :)

I am looking at other places too.

I really can't do anything until I get the money for my house.

lisaloveshearts 01-14-2017 07:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Coop27 (Post 5295037)
I might lesrn from Monica's lesson and post over a few, just in case! By the way, I have a new tablet with a wonky predictive keyboard so if you see weird things (e.g. it'seems can'take), sorry!

Wow Lisa, everything is moving so fast! I can't believe you have a buyer lined up and ready to go! I really hope the perfect place opens up at Indian Lake for you as well :) i'm sorry your sister didn't take it so well - I recall you hadn't thought she'd be able to afford your place anyway? It will probably be best for her in the end. I think it will be best for you too - the stress of having to fix up your place, just to sell it on...

How have you been getting on with your yoga?


Hi Coop,

I have not even started on yoga. I'm not doing very well in exercising. :(

lisaloveshearts 01-14-2017 09:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Coop27 (Post 5295037)
I might lesrn from Monica's lesson and post over a few, just in case! By the way, I have a new tablet with a wonky predictive keyboard so if you see weird things (e.g. it'seems can'take), sorry!

Wow Lisa, everything is moving so fast! I can't believe you have a buyer lined up and ready to go! I really hope the perfect place opens up at Indian Lake for you as well :) i'm sorry your sister didn't take it so well - I recall you hadn't thought she'd be able to afford your place anyway? It will probably be best for her in the end. I think it will be best for you too - the stress of having to fix up your place, just to sell it on...

How have you been getting on with your yoga?


I hope I find a good place for me. I can put down a nice down payment but my credit sucks.

My sister is furious. I really think this will be what splits us up. To be truthfully honest, I'm not upset at all.

This is the sister who is abrupt, has a terrible tone of voice when she talks to me and I can never do anything right. She texts me in caps, which annoys me to no end.
Honestly ladies, it's no big loss. My brother won't talk to her anymore either. Our family unit is broken. I have 1 sister that I am ok with and 1 brother that our relationship has improved.
I am tired of Sharon, this has been building for a long time so it's not simply just about my house.

When we were texting, I offered to help her financially so she can get a storage unit for her stuff. I offered to help her get an apartment. She said she didn't want anything from me.

I don't see us talking anymore. I have nothing to say to her.


Sorry to ramble.

My calorie count today was 1482. Not bad.

VermontMom 01-15-2017 09:27 AM

hi everyone, I WILL come back here tonight after work to post to you all, slept late and have to get ready for work now, but wanted to say we had our annual Harley Raffle last night, we had about 200 people attend, the caterers arrived on time and had plenty of food, the band came and was GREAT, and we gave away a brand new Harley to a very happy guy!!! (he almost cried!!!) and me, as President, did a good job :D

EasySpirit 01-15-2017 11:27 AM

Holly, congratulations on another excellent fundraiser!

EasySpirit 01-15-2017 11:29 AM

Coop, I know how you feel - after I gained a lot of weight, I always wondered what people thought or said about me - even family members. Now that I have lost weight, I wonder what they think of my flabby skin - especially my chin and neck. And, if I rationalize, I know that some random thought probably goes through their mind, but they are all too busy worrying about our own lives to really delve into someone else's - - or should be.

EasySpirit 01-15-2017 11:32 AM

Lisa, what is going on with your mother's house? Does your sister you are having issues with live in it, or is it a different sister? You should each get an equal share when you sell it, and you have the right to try to get the house on the market. Spring is the best time to sell a house; my siblings and I sold our parents' house in 11 days a few months after my mother passed.

Hello to everyone else. Kathleen, please let us know how your son is adjusting to school.

VermontMom 01-15-2017 09:28 PM

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Originally Posted by EasySpirit (Post 5295318)
Lisa, what is going on with your mother's house? Does your sister you are having issues with live in it, or is it a different sister? You should each get an equal share when you sell it, and you have the right to try to get the house on the market. Spring is the best time to sell a house; my siblings and I sold our parents' house in 11 days a few months after my mother passed.

Hello to everyone else. Kathleen, please let us know how your son is adjusting to school.

Monica, I thought that also (about Lisa and her sister sharing the house) but Lisa said that she owns it herself (well, her and the bank :) ) Thanks for the 'grats about our fundraiser! I am SO glad it is over for another year :mrgreen: And stayed at the event til the end, well I have to, being Prez, but it went on til midnight!! so we got home about 12:30 a.m., then dragged stuff into the house, then I guess i got to bed at 1 a.m. I am usually in bed at 9:30 :devil:

Yes we are hoping Kathleen's son is doing alright! :crossed:

Lisa, ugh your sister sounds so unpleasant and rude to you!! I say you need to cut her out of your life. My sister was so unpleasant and rude/mean to me7 for years, then I thought when she was able to abstain from alcohol that she would be better? no, it turned out that she was an unpleasant person even without the alcohol. Some people are just like that. And they are just yuck to be around!!

I hope you hear from the general contractor, and/or bank, soon, Lisa.

Coop, congrats on you 99.9% sugar free week :D and I hear ya about being fretful about how you think others see you. We really, REALLY shouldn't care though!! and more important, best wishes on the results of your PCOS test, my friend!

today I saw the pics that my husband took of our event yesterday, and the ones that have me in them. I don't mind seeing my face..but I hate my legs so much. But I AM thankful that they work :devil: they carry me though my long days at work and support me when I'm dong the things I love, working on yard and on my motorcycle :D

balladofsalad 01-16-2017 03:47 AM

I've always had a bad relationship with my mom ever since my sister lost her hearing to bacterial menengitis and almost lost her life. My mom went into a deep depression and has never really recovered from it. I was in third grade at the time and we never developed much of a relationship besides her yelling at me and me eating my feelings out in response. I spent most of my childhood in my room cowering during my mom's endless tyraids which occurred night after night. In seventh and eighth grade I became incredibly focused on my weight since my mom was demeaning to me about my body ever since I was little because I was a chubby kid. I lost a lot of weight in 7th/8th partially because I grew quite a bit and was making myself sick all of the time. I would continue to make myself sick in high school but that's history now. I switched schools and have gone from being 120 to now 190 in a two year period. I went from having PE and softball practices every day to struggling to even get out of bed for the day. I'm a senior in high school now and are doing a lot better with my depression now because I have cut a lot of negative people out of my life but the only really remaining negative aspect is my mom and she's something I can't change. My dad has been ready to leave several times and last month he rented a condo which he said we were going to move into and I was hesitant but slightly happy to do so. My dad and I haven't moved yet but he is still holding on to the condo. He finally told my mom where he was at and now we're not moving at all. It all confuses me but I don't see anything with my mom changing any time soon and I don't know how much of a relationship I can have with her moving forward. I'm just happy college is 8 months away and I'll be able to build a life of my own.

JesikaBeth 01-16-2017 10:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Coop27 (Post 5295042)
Jessica, I hope your test results come back all clear! It's a stressful wait.

I am waiting for results from a PCOS test myself, so interesting to find someone recently diagnosed, but I won't find out for a few weeks yet. I'll be interested in how they treat you going forward, in case I have to do it too. Good luck with quitting smoking!

Hi hun. Well I am not a good candidate for birth control bc I am a smoker. And they also treat PCOS with Metformin, which I am already on for Diabetes. I also am not trying to conceive, so, that's part of the reason why it's seeming like not really a big deal. I do have tons of symptoms though. I am part of a PCOS facebook group that's amazing, and I just ordered a PCOS supplement that is supposed to help a great deal. Best wishes to you with all of this! P.S. in the end, I talked to my therapist with my wife, and we decided against doing Chantix because of the potential mental side effects and the fact that I'm diagnosed with Bipolar, I could be walking into a bad situation... Still want to quit smoking at some point though!

JesikaBeth 01-16-2017 10:43 AM

I hope everyone is doing well today. I'm ok, have a headache, and am at work. Lots of people are apparently off today due to the Holiday, but hey, at least the commute to work wasn't horrendous like always LOL!

Have a fantastic day my friends :hug:

Coop27 01-16-2017 01:27 PM

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Originally Posted by JesikaBeth (Post 5295490)
Hi hun. Well I am not a good candidate for birth control bc I am a smoker. And they also treat PCOS with Metformin, which I am already on for Diabetes. I also am not trying to conceive, so, that's part of the reason why it's seeming like not really a big deal. I do have tons of symptoms though. I am part of a PCOS facebook group that's amazing, and I just ordered a PCOS supplement that is supposed to help a great deal. Best wishes to you with all of this! P.S. in the end, I talked to my therapist with my wife, and we decided against doing Chantix because of the potential mental side effects and the fact that I'm diagnosed with Bipolar, I could be walking into a bad situation... Still want to quit smoking at some point though!

That sounds frustrating! At least you're not trying to conceive. I'm not either, but there is a bit of me that would almost be glad if it turned out I had PCOS, as I'd have something to blame for my weight! Terrible, isn't it? I didn't realise smoking was an issue for certain meds. Is it due to the nicotine? A lot of people I know have switched to e-cigarettes, and they've cut out smoking altogether. It does still contain the nicotine though.

lisaloveshearts 01-16-2017 04:42 PM

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Originally Posted by EasySpirit (Post 5295318)
Lisa, what is going on with your mother's house? Does your sister you are having issues with live in it, or is it a different sister? You should each get an equal share when you sell it, and you have the right to try to get the house on the market. Spring is the best time to sell a house; my siblings and I sold our parents' house in 11 days a few months after my mother passed.

Hello to everyone else. Kathleen, please let us know how your son is adjusting to school.

Hi Monica,

My mother's house is still not on the market. My sister, that is teh one I don't get along with, is executor.

I think my brother is going ot hire a lawyer, when he gets back from Florida. My mother passed last March, so it has been a very long time. You're probably thinking, why haven't I stepped and said something? I just don't want to get in the middle of anything. The house needed some work too.

The four of us will get equal parts of the house, when it is sold. I hope it goes on teh market soon.

lisaloveshearts 01-16-2017 04:46 PM

JesikaBeth,

I will reply to you later tonight. I am so very tired and cannot stop yawning. Moving my stuff out of the house, tires me. I have to take little bits at a time, rest get a little more, etc.

I'm moving stuff out of teh big bedroom tomorrow. Man, I'm tired.


I'll post again later tonight.


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