Hello and to the Ups & Downs Support Group June 2016 thread! Everyone is welcome in this group! If you are new to the group, please feel free to jump right in and tell us a little (or a lot) about yourself. For the regular group members, please post and let us know that you made it to the new June thread. We are all here to support one another in the Ups & Downs of life with weight loss, especially when depression and/or medications are involved in the struggle to lose weight. We can do this together ~ one day at a time!

Thanks for the new thread Kathleen!

I was really sorry to read about the issues with your son, I hope you guys can work something out, it was a really tough decision to come to. It was good of you to sort out somewhere for him to stay, and I hope he finds his own feet soon. Hope you daughter had a great birthday otherwise!

Holly - you sound so busy! I am jealous of your getting to work outdoors, the gardening must be so rewarding.

Hope everyine else is keeping well!

June already? Just popping in to say "Hey!" Been keeping up with you all and you are in my thoughts.

Saw psych yesterday and I'm going to try to wean off of the Abilify.

Everyone take care!

Coop: Thank you for your concern and sympathy about my son. This is one of the most difficult times we've ever been through with him, and we've been through A LOT!!! I just pray that things will be much better one year from now... or preferably sooner. We went to a group therapy session with him tonight (with HIS therapist) and he was acting really odd. He said he is just really tired and very allergic. His eyes were red and he kept rubbing them. I was worried that he was high because of the way he was acting, but he does have bad allergies and hasn't been taking his Zyrtec. So who knows what's going on with him, but he has a lot of anger and defiance toward us. It is really hard to deal with. I have to let go of what I can't control, which is a lot right now. I just hope and pray that he follows through with going to a local school in the fall to resume college. If you recall, he had to medically withdraw from Dayton due to anxiety and depression. This could be a turning point for the better once school starts..... or he could bomb and not survive at this school either. Not going to entertain the latter thought for too long. I am planning for his success, but also remaining realistic given his current condition. I am hoping and praying that he can get his act together and get mentally healthy over the summer. Time will tell. I am praying and doing the best I can and leaving the rest in God's hands. I am actually very relieved and thankful that this whole situation hasn't pulled me back into a deep depression. It HAS given me much anxiety (which I already battle on a regular basis) and I HAVE done some emotional eating over it, which isn't good I know. Trying to reign that in, so that I can finally lose some weight again. I am SO sick and tired of feeling like a beached whale and swimsuit season is here..... ready or not!

purplecow: It is so great to hear from you!!! Are you still dropping weight? How have you been? Best of luck to you as you wean off of Abilify! Are you Bipolar, and ~ if so ~ are you on any other mood stabilizers? I am only asking because when I weaned off of Abilify last year, it was a disaster for me. Did not end well because I was off of all mood stabilizers at that point and eventually became manic and ended up in a psychiatric facility, and now I am finally convinced that I AM indeed Bipolar. I am not trying to scare you, but sharing my experience as information to consider. I am now on Latuda and Lamictal for mood stabilization and things are going well. I like both drugs better than Abilify. I hope you will have a good experience and be able to get off of Abilify without event. Please keep us posted.

Kathleen - first so sorry about all of your family troubles. I can't imagine the strain on everyone. About Abilify, no I'm not bipolar, just fighting my depression for years. But I've been doing well now for about a year, so my psych and I decided to try without. Hoping it will help with weight loss as well.

I'm still dropping lbs. Ideal Protein is really working for me!

I received a note from the bank today. I have 30 days to catch up on my house or they are going to evict me. I am beyond despair. Jennifer knows and she sent me a nasty text, she's really mad.


I have thought about this and think it's best if she moves out now. She will never be happy living with me.

Lisa how horrible! Not what you need right now at all... I hope you can work something out. It is easy for Jennifer to comment, but she really can't understand how tough things are for you right now. I'm sure she will come round, and I'm sure you both can figure something out.

She is a good girl but she is really bad about judging people. Once she's mad at you, she holds on to it. I honestly don't know what to do anymore.

I am scared, scared of losing my house. I don't know what to do about Jennifer? Maybe it's better for us to be apart for a while. I love her so much but if she is going to be hateful, I can't handle that.

Hello,

Kathleen, I am so sorry you are going through such trying times with your son. I think you are doing the best possible for him. He obviously can't live in your home at this time; it is not fair to the rest of you. Your paying for him to stay elsewhere is a great anxiety reliever for you; you know he is not homeless, yet do not have to deal with the terrible stress minute by minute. Hopefully you will one day look back on this and thank God it is all behind and he is happy - that is how it went with my brother.

Holly, are you working both jobs? What have you been baking at your summer job? Your creations make my mouth water!

Lisa, have you considered charging Jennifer room and board? That would help with your mortgage. You might want to schedule an appointment with the bank and see if they will rewrite your mortgage - they could lower your monthly rate by extending the mortgage and/or reducing the rate. Do you have enough equity to sell and get enough profit to move into a subsidized apartment? I hope this works out for you.

I have lost three of the eight pounds I gained this winter, mostly by upping my exercise. My appetite is still out of control. I had flooring replaced in four rooms, and bought a new bedroom set and a new smart tv, which did not fit into my entertainment center, so I bought a new one. Everything is a dusty mess from the flooring, furniture is all smooshed together waiting for Salvation Army to come for the old bedroom and then having the new set delivered. I walk in, look around, get frustrated, and head right for the ice cream. Oh, well, this too shall pass. In another few weeks my home should be in place, and I will be happy I did it. Right now, I am frustrated and just looking at the dust (from the padding under four rooms of wall to wall carpeting that I switched to hard wood floors) is wearing me down.


Hello to everyone else.

Hi EasySpirit,

I am going into the bank this morning. I need to find out exactly what I'm facing. Yes, I do have a bit of equity built up but I honestly don't want to sell. I don't know if they will help me or not? Despite all this, I don't feel too bad this morning. I am nervous and upset, yes but I'm not freaking out yet.


Have a great day. I'll post again soon.

Hi,


Jennifer is coming home after work today. I pray she doesn't pick a fight with me over money.


I went to the bank and talked to them. I am going to start making bigger payments, it'll be hard but I cannot, cannot lose this house. I love my house and i simply cannot become homeless. It is my biggest fear.

Kathleen, I hope things are going better with your son now you've all had a few days! Is he settling in to hotel life?

Lisa, we cross posted, so I've edited this before it confuses anyone! Glad you have come to some arrangement with the bank. Have they given you any additional time? Good luck with Jennifer when she gets home!

Monica, well done for your lbs loss so far! It's really hard to eat well when your doing so much renovating, but it will be worth it in the end. You'll soon forget how much hassle it all was.

hello!! I'm sorry I thought i had already at least said Hi for June.

Kathleen, meant to comment right away about the situation with your son I can't imagine the anxiety and sadness and worry!! I love to hear your strength in your faith that is keeping your afloat best wishes to him! and you

Lisa I am sad about your money worries!! but YAY to you for going to the bank to face the music, and to work out a solution. And I hope the physical therapy helps your problem areas, pain is no fun.

EasySpirit it was exciting to hear of your home improvements but booo to the mess that it always creates!! I hope your hardwood floors come out as nice as I can imagine. You will overcome that darn ice cream fix

Coop Hi and yes my gardening is SO rewarding, in face yesterday I picked a few stalks of rhubarb (planted them last year) cooked them with just 1 tablespoon of sugar and some frozen berries, had it over greek yogurt and it was sooo good. Do you like to do garden things?

Purplecow HI and so good to hear you are still dropping pounds with IP!!


Kathleen, I do one 4 hour stint a week for the ol' Rat B@st@rd, and I did offer to do a couple more hours for him the other week, the money is easy and I don't have to see him Also, until our Slovakian workers come, there are evening dining room shifts available and the money is not as easy, but very profitable for me. So I've been doing that too when I can.

I think I remember why I didn't post here for days, I was more than a little freaked out after my eye appt., I did get new contacts but i have to go to a specialist for tests on my enlarged optic nerves and possible early glaucoma??!! very scary for me but since the specialist appt isnt until mid July, there is not a huge rush so I guess that is a good thing. Just awful to think about impaired sight.

I am always leery of talking about my summer work (desserts) but if I am prompted, OK Individual assorted fresh fruit tarts, I usually don't need to do individual desserts but we've had a couple of special events lately