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Fiona W 04-26-2014 03:16 AM

Kathleen— It's late, and I'm trashed, but I wanted to say "Welcome back!" and also to correct something you said: I was not Trish's scale angel. i was just the go-between. Another person, who wishes to remain anonymous, wrote me a private message asking if I would get Trish's address so she could send her a scale via Amazon. After Trish returned to the group, she gave me her address. I gave it to the angel, and the angel sent the scale—yay!

As for the BERP (Big Entropy Reduction Project), it's just my all-inclusive term for a major effort to clear out all the piles of paper and to square away miscellaneous books & art supplies in a more orderly fashion. (Collage artists hoard paper: it's only natural that we do, because where else do we get our images from? =smile=) I'll also be giving away a lot, a WHOLE lot, of books. All of that has to be done before Bob and I can work together to clean our house and to make it a safe & fun place for the two kittens, who arrive in mid-July.

worththeeffort2 04-26-2014 09:55 AM

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Good morning, everyone. I suppose I should not be disappointed by a one-pound weight loss this week but I am a little bit. I did so much cardio this week, I was really hoping for two. Oh, well. Just got to keep working at it.

projectJudi: I ordered my suit from SwimOutlet.com. I'll paste a photo from the website below. The design helps hide my belly. I went by my measurements on sizing and it fits well. I did get a pair of swim shorts to wear over it to give me some extra length to hide my thighs a bit.

MonteCristo: I hope you are starting to feel a bit better. It is understandable that you are unhappy about needing medicine but on the plus side, you've discovered the medicine you need to help you feel better. Your mom may have set an anti-medicine tone for you early in life but you're an adult now and need to make the best choices for you based on your personal experience. Your mom isn't living your life; you are. Personally, I think you are strong to face down the opposition and do what you need to do for YOU. :hug: I congratulate you for working so hard to keep yourself well and I hope you come up with a way to make sure you don't miss anymore doses so you can continue to feel well.

Congratulations on the 1.2lb loss! I'm glad the no sugar thing isn't creating issues for you. Honestly, I hadn't thought about the fact I wasn't wearing glasses might impact my balance, etc. It was the longest I've gone without glasses during any kind of activity. Interesting thought!

Sabrina: Welcome to the group! I am so very sorry to learn of the loss of your beautiful daughter. I'm sure it is very difficult and a loss that you will feel forever. I wonder if your place of work would allow you to just stop in for a little bit this week, just so you can expose yourself to the environment and see how it affects you? It might allow you to know whether or not being around the children will be too much and help you make that final decision about moving on to another position elsewhere.

Lilturtle: I hope you take advantage of the pool access to swim some laps. After I did my laps this week, I entered the info into MyFitnessPal tracker and discovered that I'd burned over 300 calories in 30 minutes! Have fun sight seeing and checking out the historical locations. Hope you have a wonderful, relaxing trip.

Holly: So glad to hear you got out on the bike and had a quick ride around town. Hopefully, your weather will cooperate and you can get out again this weekend.

IBelieveInMe2: Welcome home! I'm glad you had a wonderful vacation and enjoyed perfect weather.

Reading about everyone working on spring house cleaning has me thinking that I have to do more than just stare at the cobweb in the corner of the kitchen ceiling and think, "I really should get out the vacuum cleaner."

We're having pretty gray weather this weekend so I was planning to shuffle over winter and spring/summer clothes. With any luck, none of my winter clothes will fit come next November but I can't quite part with them yet, simply because of the daunting thought of the cost it will be to replace everything. If I wait and try things on again next fall, maybe I'll be able to make do with some of the sweaters? It won't hurt to just pack them away for a few months.

VermontMom 04-26-2014 02:56 PM

WELCOME BACK KATHLEEN :) :flow1: I'm so glad you had perfect weather :cool: and it is so nice to be so complemented by you, for Fi and I being chatty and friendly :D I'm going to sprinkle extra :dust: :dust: :dust: for you, and I, and anyone else who needs to be covered with it :devil:

Weather-wise, it is yuck out there today! drizzly and 45, definitely not motorcycling weather but that's okay, i will be patient.

Today my exercise was Jillian Michael's 6 Week 6 Pack Abs, level 1 which is pretty brutal, I dont even want to think about what she cooks up in Levels 2 or 3!

:wave: to everyone and I hope this day is being good to you :)

FleurDeLis 04-26-2014 05:20 PM

Seabiscuit- Thanks for the hugs! :) Nice job on apologizing to the receptionist. Sometimes we feel bad about our actions, but refuse to apologize for our actions. I'm sure it was hard to do, but it leads to a wonderful feeling.

Fiona- Thanks for the welcome. :) When I finally came to terms with taking my medication a few years ago, that was exactly how I kinda came to grips with it. I'm more me with the medication than without it.

Ibelieveinme- Thank you for the wonderful welcome. That welcome font is awesome, so.... Welcoming! Thank you also for sharing of your loss. Knowing others who have suffered child loss and seeing how they have experienced it gives my husband and I strength. I'm glad you too found strength in our faith. It is very comforting to me. I went to confession today and I mentioned to the priest that my faith and prayer life have been strengthened since our loss. This has been something I've wanted to happen for a long time (deepening faith, dedication to prayer, etc) and he said something that I have truly felt.. He said that God was using this loss to strengthen my faith and prayer life. It made me so happy to hear this type of confirmation in a way. We spent a day and a half with her while I was in the hospital, but she has had such a large impact on our lives.

Glad to hear you had an amazing vacation!

Fiona W 04-26-2014 05:27 PM

I had a rough night. Despite being monumentally exhausted from clipping magazines, I was too keyed up to get to sleep, and then, after getting up and reading then trying again, without success, I slipped into severe depression pain between 4 and 4:30 AM. At that point I was not in bed, but downstairs on the couch. It started gradually with thoughts along the lines of doom, death, despair, disaster, destruction (I'm very aware of negative associations with the letter D), and then suddenly escalated into that whole-body pain that's like the worst experience of acute grief you've ever had. I started vocalizing, as I always do when the pain is that bad, but I kept my mouth closed so it was just low moans that wouldn't wake up Bob. I took some Geodon, but it didn't help. I took a Clonapin, hoping it would put me to sleep, but it didn't. I took more Geodon. I was sitting on the edge of the couch—rocking, panicky, sweating like mad, not knowing what to do. There never is anything to do. Finally, around 6 AM, I fell asleep. An hour and a half of that level of pain is...well, if you've ever been there, and I sincerely hope you haven't, you'll know how long a time that was.

I slept 'til about 10 or 11, I don't remember. I woke up feeling OK, not even mildly depressed, but very weak, and fragile. I've been clipping my way through a stack of magazines...but slowly, cautiously, without the usual rock-n-roll to set the tempo. As soon as I began to feel tired, I took my afternoon break.

I have no idea what set that off, or how to steer clear of it tonight. I'm getting enough calories and eating my daily muesli, so it's not the diet. Just stress from the BERP, I assume—self-imposed stress from this upheaval in my life, this complete departure from my normal life. I don't want to cut back on the BERP any more than I already have. Tomorrow is my day off.

I do think that getting more exercise, moderate exercise like walking, would help me weather the stress better. My 600 leg lifts a night just aren't enough. But I couldn't bear to go outside today, despite how lovely the weather is. I just feel too fragile.

Anyway, sorry to go on like this about myself again, but that episode has me frightened...I will carry on, at a moderate pace, and tomorrow I get to rest, maybe make a collage, do whatever I want all day long.

How odd and yet how reassuring it is, that I never once thought of eating carbos, let alone sugar. It's just not on my list of options anymore. I'm living proof that it really only takes a few months to unlearn a lifetime's worth of bad habits. The brain is malleable, and it does change when you change your behavior! =smile=

seabiscuit 04-26-2014 07:05 PM

Hi there everyone,

FleurDeLis- Thank you for your kind and encouraging words, that was very touching.

Thank you to others who are so supportive here. I'm a bit tired otherwise I would reply personally.

I'm glad to have a quiet weekend here at home.

Take care!

Amy

VermontMom 04-27-2014 03:53 PM

Originally Posted by MonteCristo:
The no sugar thing really hasn't been that hard, surprisingly. I still crave a coke occasionaly, and I made my little brother let me smell his ice cream sandwich the other day, but on a day by day basis it has been really easy.

:rofl: how did I miss this the other day :D

IBelieveInMe2 04-27-2014 07:10 PM

Hello!
 
Thank you for the kind "Welcome Back"s! :D It is harder than I thought it would be to get back on board with healthy eating and smaller portions. We went to a sled hockey banquet for our daughter today and I ate too much food and even some dessert. :o Yesterday, I felt hungry all day long..... but tried to make decent food selections. I took our 3 dogs a long walk with my hubby, which felt good. But I need to get my eating in check if I am going to lose the weight I so want to lose.

Fi: Thank you for explaining the BERP again. So sorry to hear about your rough night. The pain you described sounds just awful. :( I have not experienced much physical pain from depression; usually just mental and emotional. That is bad enough. I can only imagine having physical pain mixed in. :( Hope you are feeling much less fragile when you read this. Great that you did not even think of carbs or sugar during that whole stressful time!

Holly: I appreciate all of the :dust: you sprinkled on me. Please keep it coming! ;) Your exercises sound difficult. Anything Jillian Michaels scares me!

Sabrina: It is amazing how knowing someone for such a short time can change your life forever! Did you name your little girl? Our son was named Sean. I treasure the 28 weeks (in utero) and 14 hours (after birth) that we had him in our lives. We were able to see lots of ultrasounds of our twins since it was a high-risk pregnancy. I am happy and thankful for that. Though our little ones lived so briefly, their lives had meaning and they will live forever in our hearts! :hug:

worththeeffort2: Keep up with your cardio and your hard work WILL pay off! "They" say that when you lose weight at a slow pace, you are more likely to keep it off, for what that is worth. "They" also say to get rid of your "fat clothes" ~ but I did that and regretted it when I (unfortunately) regained all of the weight I had lost (and more). I had to buy new, bigger clothes AGAIN, which really s*cked!!! It was expensive, time-consuming, and depressing. :( Just my 2 cents!

MonteCristo: That cracked me up, too, when you said that you "made" your little brother let you "smell his ice cream sandwich!" Hahahahahaha!!! :lol: At least that SNIFF was calorie-free!!! :D

Waving hello to everyone else! :wave: Here's to a healthy week ahead!

FleurDeLis 04-27-2014 07:38 PM

worththeeffort- I know it's something I can do if I have to, but I think the main issue is that I don't want to do it. I'm handling being around children better (I don't cry when I see them anymore), but I get pretty sad and depressed. :/ I know I don't want to do this job long term. I don't have a choice, as we need to pay the bills, so I will go back. I'm sure it will result in a lot of sadness and depression. I have some job leads, so I'm positive.

Fiona- So sorry to hear about your rough night. I had never heard about that sort of depression where it actually causes pain. I'm so sorry you have to go through that. I hope you enjoy your day of and get to relax.

Ibelieveinme- Her name is Isabelle Francis. She truly has changed her father and I. We couldn't be more grateful that God blessed us to have her in our lives for 38 weeks(in utero). We only had the standard two ultrasounds, but while we were in the hospital, we took many pictures with our camera. Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep (an organization where volunteer photographers take professional pictures of you and your deceased child for free) also came and took photographs of us. We will be getting those in the mail sometime this week. I'm so excited to see them!!!!!!!!!!

I know you will get back on track in regards to your eating with no problem!

worththeeffort2 04-28-2014 06:11 AM

Sabrina/FleurDeLis: Prayers are coming your way. I hope the pictures of your precious angel Isabelle help to bring you peace. As a surviving sibling of a stillborn child, I'm glad you named your daughter. My mother refused to name her daughter so all my life, I've had a sister with no name. It is strange to not be able to refer to her as anyone but "My sister."

Today is wet and raw. Spring certainly is taking its time arriving this year. I wish, wish, wish I could just lay on the couch and do nothing all day today but I need to go to work. I have a feeling this is going to be a long week.

VermontMom 04-28-2014 07:40 AM

Hello friends!

:wave:
Kathleen
Sabrina
Ohio
Seabiscuit
Chelsea
lilturtle
Fi
worththeeffort2
Monte Cristo
projectjudi
1life2liv
alita

I hope I didn't forget anyone!

Fi, I am so sorry to hear of your awful night! I hope the next day you were able to rest and are back to somewhat normal :)

Kathleen, I have more :dust::dust::dust: for you, me, and anyone else who needs it :D I have remembered your words to me, that we need to do what we know, to get the results we want! We can do it!!

wortheeffort2, I wish you could take today off too :) Hope your day goes smoothly .

Hello to everyone else :cool:

we had the most dreary weekend, weather-wise. Today the sun is shining for now, and supposed to get up to 54 (wow :rolleyes: ) this afternoon, I will use that as my incentive to do productive things until then and then I'll get on my bike :scooter:

I realize I forgot to take my one Wellbutrin tablet yesterday, I am so glad that it doesn't mess me up terribly if I forget a day or two.

I hope everyone has a good day and I look forward to hearing from you all!

Fiona W 04-28-2014 10:13 AM

I had a good day yesterday, a really good day. Since it was Sunday, it was my day off from working on the BERP. (i'll explain once again that it stands for Big Entropy Reduction Project, in my house—I could also call it the Big Paper Removal Project, but BPRP is hard to pronounce. =laugh= I'm a collage artist, the old-fashioned kind where your only tools are paper, scissors, & glue, so naturally I hoard paper. My husband and I also hoard books, so getting rid of lots of books is also part of the BERP.) In the morning I wrote part of a letter in French to my Belgian friend, Robine, but soon the itch to make art became too strong to resist, so I spent the rest of the day happily ensconced in my collage room. I have a new piece most of the way done, but it needs some finishing touches I'll do today.

And then, around 6 PM, our niece Margaret and her 7-yr-old son Gavin arrived, our weekly get-together with them. While Gavin played computer games in Bob's office, Margaret helped me kick off an ancillary project to the BERP, which is that of sorting all the clipped images I'm generating as I plow through magazines into a nice set of twenty boxes I bought at the Container Store. The boxes are all different colors and two different sizes: they're all quite large but short, so they slot nicely into a set of bookshelves, and I've put labels on them like "People" and "Plants" and "Planet Earth" and "Purple" and so on—ten boxes for different image categories and ten boxes for different colors & patterns.

We had a good time sorting away, each of us working from a two-inches-thick stack of clipped images, laughing as we learned how to make all the decisions involved. For example, does a cool-looking black-&-white pattern of marbles go in the box labeled "Little Things" or the one labeled "Black & White"? We went for the latter choice.

It was especially fun for me to fantasize about how fabulous it will be to take down the boxes from the shelves and look for images in them, once they're all nicely stuffed with clippings. Margaret is such a good buddy to me: we think a lot alike about art and fashion, visual imagery in general, and we love each other very much.

And then, for dinner, we ordered pizza as usual, with a big Greek salad for me. Mmmmm...feta cheese, red onions, kalamata olives, those cute wrinkly pale green peppers, and lots of crunchy fresh lettuce. I do love me some Greek salad! I never even consider having a slice of pizza anymore: it's so much not a food that I eat, it doesn't even look like food to me. Yay!!

Now, darn it, I've written so much, I don't have time to give personal greetings, because I really need to start my work on the BERP for the day! Later, I promise. Know that I am thinking about y'all and rooting for you to make healthy choices, as I sit with my scissors and the next big stack of magazines.

And worththeeffort2, I think your swimsuit is just smashing! I love black-&-white, and that's a very nice pattern—looks like palm tree fronds and other tropical vegetation... =smile=

MonteCristo 04-28-2014 10:16 AM

Hi All!

I had a great weekend. Thankfully after that little blip earlier in the week I made a few adjustments to my routine to keep from forgetting my meds again. Now they sit right next to my contacts...no way I'll forget now! Anyway, so I was pretty much back to "normal" by Friday. Friday evening is pizza and movie night, so I always go over to my Dads.

Aside from my "issues" I haven't really introduced myself much, so I guess I will now. I have a pretty big family, I'm the oldest of nine kids, and we were/are all homeschooled. My parents are divorced, and my mom moved away, so Dad is raising / homeschooling all the kids himself. We are all really close so I spend a lot of time over there. The oldest of my sisters is grown and lives in Texas, and the next one is a sophmore in college an hour away from us, but all the rest of the kiddos (18-7) are all still at home. I tend to just say "the kids" and people get confused and think I have a bunch of kids, but I'm just talking about my siblings. I'm an accountant and I live with my two cats Lyla & Alexei and my dog Sydney. My dad has a big real estate rental business that I grew up working in, and I'm currently building up my own.

Ok, so back to the weekend. So I had a great time at home watching movies and eating pizza (I will not give up pizza ever, ever, ever! lol). Saturday was the most productive day I've had in months. First thing in the morning I had to change out the burner element on a range for one of my tenants. Then I spend several hours in my yard getting it all cleaned up for spring. Took ages because I hadn't done anything for months, but it looks beautiful now. Of course, Sydney loved being outside with me. After I fninshed the yard and Sydney and I were chilling on the deck, another tenant called and said their A/C was out (it is always something, lol). So after a bit of digging around in the electrical system (and a long troubleshooting call with my Dad) I figured out that the transformer had failed. Replaced that, and A/C was as good as new! By the end of the day I was pretty worn out (and it was like 100 degrees in that attic where I was working), but it felt so good to get that much done. I have back and neck issues that usually cause me a lot of trouble, and yardwork is one thing that really sets it off, but amazingly I haven't had any pain!

So I was so pumped up from Saturday that I ended up waking up like 6am on Sunday (I'm a sleep until noon kind of person) ready to work on the flower beds in the front yard...and it was pouring rain. :( So I cooked up a meal for this weeks lunches and had a nice long snuggle with my pets. Then I always spend Sunday afternoon at home with the kids. And we watched youtube videos of cats for ages, which was pretty fun.

So all in all, I'm feeling about the best I've felt in months right now. Oh, and I'm down another 1/2 pound. :D

Sydney - 3yo lab mix
http://i59.tinypic.com/5mmpvs.png

Alexei (L) & Lyla (R) - 3yo Amercian Shorthair Silver tabbies
http://i59.tinypic.com/2pquc5s.png

Sorry this post ended up so long...I guess I was just in a sharing mood this morning!

VermontMom 04-28-2014 12:29 PM

Fi - I'm so glad you had a good day with your niece and nephew, and your niece helping you is great :)

Monte Cristo - thanks for telling us about yourself! And <gasp> you can replace a transformer?! That is so kewl! :cool: I am so impressed :cool: and thanks for the pics of your fur babies, I do like cats but am def a dog lover too and the lab is sooo sweet looking.

Warmer here today and not raining, YAY. The weekend was miserable, cold and wet. So I have to make myself get out there and do yard work, it is not sunny, it's 50 degrees and overcast but I can work in that. Really wanted some more sun if I get out on my bike, maybe that will happen.

My exercise today was from Fitness Blender, http://www.fitnessblender.com/v/work...ut-at-Home/fg/

lilturtle 04-28-2014 02:52 PM

Thanks everyone for all the comments. I am reading along with everyone and thinking of you all.

I had a good weekend. I did a lot of reading and some other fun activities. I didn't sleep much Saturday night, so Sunday I was exhausted all day but I got a good night's sleep last night. I find when I don't sleep I am hungrier. So sleep is important to weight loss. There is a connection I believe. Nothing much planned for this week. This time next week I will be close to boarding that plane to go see my mom. It'll be nice to go down there for a couple of weeks. I will be hitting the pool for sure down there. We walk in the water and then float in the deep end on noodles. The walking is still good exercise. I sitll have trouble walking on land. I don't walk right (with a limp due to arthritis in my knees) and it makes my back hurt rather quickly. So far the weight I have lost has made no difference in it. I can still only make it like a block on land before I really need to sit down. God, that is so embarrassing to admit. I'm so fat I can't walk like a normal person. It has prevented me from getting much exercise. Hopefully with more weight lost that will change.

VermontMom 04-28-2014 04:11 PM

lilturtle, I surely hope that as you lose more, you will reap the benefits of less pain while walking :)

Well this is called the Ups and DOWNS right ??!! so I have to vent please. I am the ONLY one in this household who can bear to throw anything away..or reuse it to someone who will use it, or realize that something hasn't been touched in YEARS and can get it out of the friggin house. I am so friggin steamed at my husband; the items in particular are two outdoor smokers, the kind of cylinder ones on legs and wheels, well they haven't been used in at least 4 or 5 years, they are rusted, WEEDS have grown over them, we use a smaller grill for cooking.

and the other item is a gas powered snowthrower, it was a heavy duty one that cost $1000 from Sears but kept breaking down and we haven't used it in 3 years. it just sits on the lawn, covered by a tarp, i have to mow around it and it's an eyesore. So I boldly suggested that I call the local people who haul junk cars, to come and take those items, the smokers and teh snowthrower. YOu'd think I'd suggested selling our children!!

"Those were expensive" he says..duh, I know, I work too, but we're not using them and they're in teh way and have been for years! "Well, someone might buy them, if we put them at the top of the driveway" Um, I am not going to hang out by a window all day waiting to see if someone comes and just takes them or something.

So I am soooo pissed because I am the one who identifies the problem, and wants to take action but he just comes up with arguments, excuses, and no way would he do the work involved. and it reinforces that this has gone on for years, our storage area is jammedd with CRAP and it kills him to see it taken care of, so I try to do it when he's not here, and that's not fair to me.

whew.

worththeeffort2 04-28-2014 08:43 PM

Holly: I totally empathize with you. Honestly, if it was me, I would probably go ahead and call the junk collector. You might even get some money out of the things in scrap metal. They may have been expensive but they're junk now. My mother is a hoarder so I grew up dealing with the issue. As a result, I have a six month rule. If something hasn't been used for six months, it can be tossed or donated. The only things that escape this rule are books!

Thanks, Fiona!

MonteCristo, your kitties are beautiful! I'm a real cat person but I do love all animals. There's nothing like a happy, purring kitty, though. :)

Today has been a down day for me. I did manage to force myself to do 30 minutes on the elliptical tonight but honestly, I feel like crap. Hopefully, tomorrow will be a better day.

Lisa_C 04-28-2014 08:53 PM

Hello ladies,


I have had a few relaxing days here. I am off school for a week, it starts up next week. I am taking 2 classes next session. I am excited and nervous.

I work early in the morning at 6 am, so I have to get up at 5 am.

My moods have been pretty good and my anxiety has been under control too so things here have been good. I still have a bad day now and then but they are rare, thank goodness.

I got behind on my car payment and my car insurance. Instead of sitting around and worrying about it, making myself sick with worry. I picked up the phone and called both of them. I made arrangements to catch up on my payments. It just goes to show home important it is to be proactive instead of inactive.

I hope this post finds you all well. Much love to all.

Fiona W 04-28-2014 11:53 PM

If anyone's interested, I made a collage about the BERP, this spring house-organizing activity of mine. Enjoy! =smile=

IBelieveInMe2 04-29-2014 12:06 AM

Darn it!
 
I had written a long post with the start of personals, but it got lost in Cyberspace at the accidental click of a button, so here goes my 2nd try.

I picked up my new prescription orthotics (for plantar fasciitis) today and used them while walking on the treadmill tonight for 30 minutes. My feet were a bit sore afterward, but I have high hopes that these orthotics will help to "cure" my plantar fasciitis. They felt pretty good as I walked at a slower pace than usual. I need to slowly break them in. I stepped on the scale hesitantly this morning, since I didn't eat as healthy on vacation, and I have LOST 2 more pounds!!! :D :carrot: I will take it! I think that the thyroid med I began taking late March is helping me to not be so darn weight loss resistant..... finally! Thank God!!!

Sabrina: Isabelle Francis is a beautiful name! (insert hearts) I am so glad that you were able to spend much time with her in the hospital and get lots of photos of all 3 of you. Hope the photos are a wonderful keepsake that will help with your grieving process and healing process. Be patient with yourself as you grieve. 18 years later, I can't say that the pain ever fully goes away, but it does become more manageable with the passage of time. But it was definitely the most difficult heartache of my lifetime (and I've had some doozies!). Please feel free to talk/write about her whenever you want or need to! :hug:

worththeeffort2: Sorry about your sad experience of a stillborn sibling and that she never had a name. :( I am also sorry to hear that you had a down day today. Hope tomorrow is a better one for you! Good for you for managing to get 30 minutes in on the elliptical despite feeling like crap!

Fi: So, so HAPPY to hear that you had a really good day yesterday!!! :D

Trish No shame in admitting that just walking is difficult at times. I hope things get less painful for you as you CONTINUE to lose weight! YOU CAN DO IT!!! :)

Holly: Sorry about your frustration with your hubby. I am usually the one who wants to "save" everything in our family, so it actually helps me to hear your venting. Gives me another perspective. I am finally to the point that I WANT to get rid of lots of stuff; now I just need to follow through and DO it! I am actually IN PROCESS of working with my organizer (still; ongoing) to do just that. Good luck dealing with this! Vent all you want! And THANK YOU for all of the :dust:!!! ;)

MonteCristo: Love your photos of your pup and kitties!!! How do you keep the kittens apart? They look so much alike! Glad to hear that you had a great weekend. Thanks for sharing more about yourself and your family.

ohiofreespirit: Good for you for being PROactive instead of INactive about your car payment and car insurance! It is a good lesson for us all. Enjoy your week off school!!! :)

VermontMom 04-29-2014 08:06 AM

worththeeffort2 thank you for your comments about my venting :D Especially you have the memories of growing up with a hoarder. I wholeheartedly agree with a 6 month time period, excepting seasonal things of course.

Originally Posted by worththeeffort2:

Today has been a down day for me. I did manage to force myself to do 30 minutes on the elliptical tonight but honestly, I feel like crap. Hopefully, tomorrow will be a better day.

It's so great that you pushed yourself to do time on the elliptical even though you did not want to! I hope very much that today is better for you!! Is it, so far?

Originally Posted by ohiofreespirit:
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Originally Posted by ohiofreespirit:
..I got behind on my car payment and my car insurance. Instead of sitting around and worrying about it, making myself sick with worry. I picked up the phone and called both of them. I made arrangements to catch up on my payments

Ohio, that is such a big thing isn't it!! Way to go on just taking the big step and facing something troublesome and just doing it and taking care of it and it turned out fine :D :carrot:

I know you still have to work but enjoy your week off from school :) And is your daughter coming home from college soon?


Originally Posted by Fiona W:
If anyone's interested, I made a collage about the BERP, this spring house-organizing activity of mine. Enjoy! =smile=

That is really great! :D So..each of those printed images was cut from a magazine or book? the edges are so precise! And I meant to comment how huge it was, that even during your bad night and the next day, you did not even think about taking comfort in carbs :carrot:

Originally Posted by IBelieveInMe2:
I have LOST 2 more pounds!!! :D :carrot: I will take it! I think that the thyroid med I began taking late March is helping me to not be so darn weight loss resistant..... finally! Thank God!!!

WOW congrats on the 2 pounds GONE! that is such an awesome sight to see on the scale isn't it! and I sincerely hope the orthotics help your poor feet :hug: And thank you for your input on the clutter, I know you have offered your support even though I must seem like the enemy :rofl: Not 'enemy' but you know what I mean. I hope I didn't sound like a horrible person or at the very least a harsh person. I'm not usually, but it just .. deflated me because I thought I should be commended for taking control of clutter and I was feeling that a big concrete roadblock was being thrown my way.

Well I allowed my disappointment about DH's reaction, and then the gray, chilly day to put me in a crummy mood, the same 'what's the use' mentality, and overate yesterday out of anger; I really haven't done that for so long (eating with the thought that it's 'getting back' , when it's only hurting me instead of someone else). It was too chilly and overcast for me to want to get out on my bike, and it was all I could do to force myself to do about an hour of yardwork. It is nuts :rolleyes: for me to base my mood so much on the weather but I can't help it!

MonteCristo 04-29-2014 09:30 AM

Holly - I completely understand your frustration about hanging on to things you don't use or need. I wouldn't call my family hoarders, but they certainly like to keep lots of stuff "just in case". I on the other hand am the complete opposite...I go through my entire house every few months and just look for stuff I can get rid of, cause if makes me happy, lol. This is probably not the best method, but when I was a teenager, I would go through the house an pick up stuff that I thought was junk and we didn't need, and I'd hide it for 6 months. If no one asked about it, then I'd throw it away. I don't know if you are to this point yet, but if you are ready to get rid of it, you can usually get scrap people to come get it themselves. You probably won't get any money out of it, but you will be rid of it. Thanks for the compliment about the repair...my Dads a master electrician and does all his own repairs on the houses, so I've been doing this stuff all my life and I don't even think about it that much. I think I started doing electrical and plumbing when I was 8 lol.

Ibelieveinme2 - Honestly, it is really easy for me to tell them apart. They have really different personalities and they carry themselves very different. But I do like having a matching pair. :) Glad you got orthotics and thyroid medication that is finally working for you. You much feel great about that!

Fiona - Lovely collage. I'm in awe of artistic people, I don't have an artistic bone in my body.

ohiofreespirit - Glad you are having a nice relaxing week, and that your anxiety level have decreased. And great job on being proactive with your financial situation. :)

worththeeffort2 - Thanks for the compliment on my cats. They really are special. Sorry you aren't feeling to good, but excellent job on working through and getting your exercise in anyway.

lilturtle - Walking may be difficult for you now, but the important thing is that you aren't letting it stop you. That is the important thing. And before you know it you will be able to walk all over! :)

Monday was another good day. Nothing special at work, but I was busy, which is just the way I like it. After work, as the ground was so nice an moist from all the rain, I decided to do some yard work. I have a really shady back yard, so I don't have much grass, and I've been wanting to basically landscape the whole thing with hostas and japanese mapples and other shade loving foliage plants for a while. So I set to work clearing out the grass and weeds from under the cedar tree where I plan to start a batch of pachysandra. Didn't take as long as I thought so after that I cleared a huge patch along side my patio and then ran off to Lowes to get some different types of hostas. I already have 3 types, but I found 3 different ones inclucing a special gigantic (grows 6ft) so I planted those around the patio. Not sure that is where I will want them eventually, but the idea was to get them in the ground as soon as possible so they can start growing. That way I can just divide them up and I won't have to keep paying for them!

FleurDeLis 04-29-2014 03:01 PM

worththeeffort- Since before my husband and I were married we had two girl names and two boy names picked out for our children. When we found we were having a girl, she immediately became Isabelle Francis. We had such a short time to make memories with her. Hand molds, foot molds, etc. I also made sure she had her first haircut, though she was pretty bald, we were able to get a few little tufts of it to save.

Fiona- I really liked that collage as well as the others on that site. Very interesting. When you you are creating your collages, do you use only scissors to cut pictures or an exacto-knife?

Ibelieveinme- I'm so anxious to get the new pictures. It's like I'll be meeting her again! Ah, can't wait!!!! Thank you for the support.

Vermont- Sorry to hear you husband is resisting to dejunk. :/ I do the same thing, going around a few times a year and getting rid of the things we don't or haven't been using. My husband is really laid back and usually if we haven't used something in awhile, is ok with getting rid of it. I'm blessed! :)

So today I went to the gym and did some weight lifting. I'm also doing the c25k and did workout 2 of week one yesterday. Not as sore today as I was the day after the first workout, so that's awesome. After the gym today I swept the floors, emptied the dishwasher, cleaned the office (i.e. cleaned the cat box and swept up all the litter than my cat tracks throughout the office).

I have an appointment at 5pm to get my new tattoo. It is in honor of my daughter. Praying hands with a rosary. It will also have her name and the date she was born. It's been a long time coming.. for me anyways. I went to an artist and she has drug her feet on getting the design done. I mean she has taken like 4 weeks to draw this up. Very frustrating for me. I decided to go to a different artist yesterday and he got me booked for today. I'm very impressed and can't wait to finally get Isabelle immortalized on me. Each of my tattoos has deep meaning for me, but this one will be the most important of any tattoo I will ever get.

lilturtle 04-29-2014 03:49 PM

Fiona - Love love love the collage. You are so talented and creative.

The whole walking thing is scaring me with my trip coming up. Airports are big and I still don't know exactly where I am going. Plus what if there is a long line for security. I'm working myself up again already. I just want that part of the trip to be over.

I am runing out of food for the month. I have some ground beef left I think. And a pork roast in the freezer. I have nothing to make the pork roast with. I went overboard buying pickles and carrots this month and didn't think of buying real food. I get these crazy ideas like only eating carrots and pickles. *sigh* Lesson learned. One can not survive a month of carrots and pickles. The next time I do my grocery shopping I need to think it through better.

Fiona W 04-29-2014 08:41 PM

Thanks for all the kind words about my collage. Yes, all those images came from magazines or books, and in the case of that collage, mostly from my junk mail...I get a lot of scientific and medical junk mail from when I used to be a doctor, and I get a lot of catalogs: it's all free anyway, why not cut out the cool parts before I toss it in the recycle bin? Every time I run across something with visual appeal on the Web, I always check to see if a printed catalog is available for it.

I do 99.9% or more of my snipping with scissors, only very little with a craft knife. There were a couple of places in the bouquet the elephant's holding where there was blue sky showing through from the original background, so I used a knife to make those inside holes. I didn't used to be able to cut very neatly with scissors, but what they say is true: practice makes perfect!

The difficult thing, which was in fact the subject of that collage, is not just hoarding paper, but harvesting the images and storing them in an orderly way. That's what I'm working very hard on, even as you read these words, because I want my house to have lots of clean open spaces for those new kittens to run and play. The piles of paper clutter are on their way OUT!

VermontMom 04-29-2014 08:42 PM

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seabiscuit 04-29-2014 08:48 PM

Hello there everyone!

Thank you for your wave Holly! How are you?

I'm hanging in there! It was a grey and rainy day today, also quite chilly. I'm slowly getting ready for the move.

Take care and have a good night.

Amy

IBelieveInMe2 04-29-2014 11:36 PM

Hello Support Buddies!
 
I worked out with my trainer this morning and walked on the treadmill the previous two nights. I am trying to see myself as a more active person and it is helping, I think.

Holly: I absolutely LOVE that picture of you on your bike!!! :D You do look very happy! You didn't sound like a horrible or harsh person about the clutter at all! It actually helped me to hear someone else's perspective, because I always just think my hubby is being too hard on me when he loses his patience about the clutter in our house. It helps me to see it a little more objectively, if that makes any sense.

MonteCristo: Glad to hear that Monday was another good day and that you were able to get out and do some yard work. Your landscaping sounds beautiful!

Sabrina: I am not a big tattoo person, but the one you are getting sounds so special and unique for Isabelle. Good for you for getting to the gym and lifting weights. Good luck with the c25k!!!

Trish: When do you leave for your trip? You will do just fine with the walking in the airport. I hate that part of trips, too. Practice POSITIVE self-talk and you will get through it okay. I will be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. Hope your food supply holds out until you are able to shop again!

Fi: I just checked out your latest collage and it is so cool!!! Very visually appealing. You ARE indeed very talented. I love the elephant holding the flowers in his trunk! :) Good luck as you continue with your BERP!

Amy: Thanks for checking in. When is your big move? Good luck with the preparation!

Hello to Everyone Else!!! :wave: Please check in when you can, if only just to say hello!

MonteCristo 04-30-2014 10:04 AM

I've been having some odd dreams, and it seems like they are connected to my anxiety. More background on me...the "family issue" that precipiated my anxiety issues and depression was my mom's sudden realization that she didn't have the life she wanted, so she wanted a divorce so she could start over. My Dad was shocked to say the least, and really fought her on it, so it was about two years from her realization until she finally filed for divorce and forced separation. Another two years of fighting where she used custody of the kids to get try and get a bigger settlement. All very traumatic for everyone involved as you can imagine. Anyway, I've been having dreams lately where she comes back, and I'm forced to leave. Which is weird because I haven't lived at home in over three years now. But it is really disturbing in the dream. I can't really imagine why I'm having these dreams. This would never happen in real life, my parents still venemously hate each other, and my Dad is engaged to someone else. I did talk to my sister in Texas last night, and we did commiserate together about the fact that our mom never contacts us unless she needs something, or really puts any effort into the relationship, so I guess that could of set it off. Or maybe because it is getting so much closer to my dad's remarriage. Times like this I think I may need a therpist. :(

FleurDeLis 04-30-2014 11:03 AM

Very neat Fiona!

Love the pic Holly! I miss my bike! I still have my helmet, it's full face, flat black with a skull and cross bones on the back. I love it and even though I will probably never get another bike, I don't think I'll ever get rid of it, lol!

Ibelieveinme2- I drew my first tattoo when I was in high school and got it when I turned 18. It's a dreamcatcher in memory of my grandpa. Then a few years later I got the trail of tears symbol (indian hunched over sitting on a horse) They say once you get one, you get addicted and it's true for me. After getting the current one for Isabelle, I'm thinking of the next TWO pieces I want to get. I do make sure that each one has strong meaning for me and my life. I couldn't bear the thought of putting the Indianapolis Colts emblem on myself or something like that, lol!

Today I have my 6 week post partum appointment. Hoping everything is well and I'm fully cleared! I know I'm getting a blood draw (Yeeesh!) I know, crazy coming from a girl who just got a tattoo, but I absolutely dislike blood draws, though I learned to accept them throughout my pregnancy because I developed hypothyroidism and my levels constantly had to be checked. After I leave there I plan on swinging by the gym to do my day three week one c25k workout. Then home to finish the last few assignments for my Environment and Society class. My next class is some sort of government class... Ick! I'm going to be so incredibly BORED!!!! But apparently it is necessary in order for me to be a social worker... SO much wasted time and energy on things that don't matter..

pixelllate 04-30-2014 11:15 AM

Originally Posted by Fiona W:
Thanks for all the kind words about my collage. Yes, all those images came from magazines or books, and in the case of that collage, mostly from my junk mail...I get a lot of scientific and medical junk mail from when I used to be a doctor, and I get a lot of catalogs: it's all free anyway, why not cut out the cool parts before I toss it in the recycle bin? Every time I run across something with visual appeal on the Web, I always check to see if a printed catalog is available for it.

I do 99.9% or more of my snipping with scissors, only very little with a craft knife. There were a couple of places in the bouquet the elephant's holding where there was blue sky showing through from the original background, so I used a knife to make those inside holes. I didn't used to be able to cut very neatly with scissors, but what they say is true: practice makes perfect!

The difficult thing, which was in fact the subject of that collage, is not just hoarding paper, but harvesting the images and storing them in an orderly way. That's what I'm working very hard on, even as you read these words, because I want my house to have lots of clean open spaces for those new kittens to run and play. The piles of paper clutter are on their way OUT!

Hi, I'm just popping in this thread (hello!!!) because I just wanted to say that I love reading your posts Fiona! I one day would like a side-job doing something creative. Just keeping it open, since I've worked with various mediums throughout the years. I am still on hiatus because of other priorities, but its something that I aspire to and I hope to be in a place in my life where I can develop a small side business. Maybe once I get that going, I can post some of the murals that I've worked on these past couple years - I just started exploring mural art and I really like it. :)

lilturtle 04-30-2014 11:43 AM

This is totally nondiet related but was good news for me. I did a friend's taxes this year and they just got their refund. I wasn't expecting anything in return. It wasn't a complicated tax return anyways. But they are buying me a new phone. My old phone is slowly dying and I couldn't afford to replace it. So yay! A new phone. I should have it by Friday in time for my trip on Monday.

I need to update my ticker again. I lost a few more lbs. So big yay there too. Who knew....eat less, lose more really works for me.

VermontMom 04-30-2014 12:19 PM

Originally Posted by Fiona W:
... That's what I'm working very hard on, even as you read these words, because I want my house to have lots of clean open spaces for those new kittens to run and play. The piles of paper clutter are on their way OUT!

thanks for explaining to us about the cutting, it seems so very precise but as you say practice has made perfect :D and yay for continuing on the reduction progress!

Originally Posted by seabiscuit:
I'm hanging in there! It was a grey and rainy day today, also quite chilly. I'm slowly getting ready for the move.

Take care and have a good night.

Amy

Hi Amy, oh how I dislike grey, rainy and chilly days, they just nudge me into blehness. Do you have a deadline you have to meet, for moving? Say Hi to Snickers for me :D

Originally Posted by IBelieveInMe2:
I worked out with my trainer this morning and walked on the treadmill the previous two nights. I am trying to see myself as a more active person and it is helping, I think.

Yay for your exercise, Kathleen! :running: are the orthodics (spelling?) helping? I sure hope so. Oh and here's the obligatory dust for us :D :dust:
thanks for the happybikerchick comp :)

Originally Posted by MonteCristo:
I've been having some odd dreams, and it seems like they are connected to my anxiety.(

sorry to hear of the dreams, they are sure to be reflecting emotions you have. That situation with your family was such an upheaval and how hard to get through that! I'm really sorry also to hear that your mom seems to only contact you when she wants something :( :( :( ...I was very impressed by hearing of your yardwork and it sounds like it is a beautiful sight to greet you and it was all accomplished by your hard work!

Originally Posted by FleurDeLis:
Today I have my 6 week post partum appointment. Hoping everything is well and I'm fully cleared! .

wow I know you told us of the date in March, but it has been such a short time hasnt it :hug: Wishing you a stellar health appointment :D OH, you must miss your bike so much!! when I had a fullface, my husband designed a cupcake/crossbones in retroreflective tape for the back :devil: This new helmet doesn't have any bling on it ...yet. I do have some crystals, and I always put a bullet hole sticker or two on them :rofl: (I once had a Canadian Border Patrol checkpoint guard say to me, in a thick French accent, "looks like somebody missed!" :devil: (regarding the fake bullet hole) And your planned tat sounds wonderful. I am one of the few biker chicks in the country that does not have a tat..yet :D

Originally Posted by lilturtle:
So yay! A new phone. I should have it by Friday in time for my trip on Monday.

I need to update my ticker again. I lost a few more lbs. So big yay there too. Who knew....eat less, lose more really works for me.

DOUBLE YAYS :carrot: So nice to get something unexpected, and so great to see more losses! About your trip, I wonder if you could google the airport, and check out, ahead of time, what kind of distance you have to go to get to your points? Maybe knowing ahead of time might help with anxiety.

and HI to everyone else :wave:

I'm sure glad I was outside for all of yesterday, because today is blech, and tomorrow is supposed to be blech also. I've did a workout (http://www.fitnessblender.com/v/work...0-Calories/gr/ ) and vacuumed; need to put away a hamper full of clothes; and need to work/research pastry recipes for my upcoming summer gig. The problem with that, is um, embarrassing, but my stomach starts growling when I am going through my cookbooks, and looking up recipes on the computer, and it is really hard to stick to my diet :devil: but I have to :dust:

IBelieveInMe2 04-30-2014 01:15 PM

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Hey Gals! I remembered that I saw a page when I was on vacation where you all showed photos of yourself, and I decided that ~ being your "fearless leader" according to Fi, I would post one, too. Let's see if I can do this.

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I think that worked. I tried to put a photo of me with my little family up, but it kept failing, so you will have to settle for me with my favorite Country/Rock Piano Man, Phil Vassar, from this past March. His music is the best and he is a wonderful entertainer..... and cute as a button, too! :D

So, I am having a lazy day. It is supposed to rain here in Ohio all week long. I miss the Florida sunshine!!! I have errands to do, but don't particularly want to do them in the rain, so I am here typing to all of you instead. ;) This is much more fun! :D I will work out at 4:30 pm today when I take my daughter to the trainer. She will work out with our trainer and I will most likely walk on the treadmill. Hoping the downward trend on my scale continues!!!

MonteCristo: I am so sorry you had that disturbing dream and that experience with your mom. I have some mother baggage from my past, but we are pretty close now (finally..... at the age of 47; she just turned 80). Moms should ALWAYS be there for their kids, in my opinion, so it is just wrong that she only contacts you when she wants something. I highly recommend getting a therapist to help you sort all of the "family issues" out without judgement or guilt. It has been such a HUGE help in my situation. No shame in that! Big hugs to you! :hug:

Sabrina: Sounds like you are the tattoo queen! :lol: I like how your tattoos have strong meaning behind each one. Have you received your photos yet??? I hope your 6-week post partum appointment goes well. That really IS such a short time since you went through such a traumatic experience. You seem to be coping well. Kudos to you..... and your faith! :hug:

pixelllate: Thanks for stopping by and posting! Neat that Fiona has a fan on board!

Trish: Congratulations on your new phone and on losing a few more pounds!!! :carrot: Perfect that you will have your new phone in time for your trip on Monday! See, it is all coming together. All will be well. :)

Holly: I think the orthotics are going to help my plantar fasciitis, but they feel strange right now and I have to break them in slowly, so I am only wearing them for short times at the moment. Time will tell. I am just glad that the plantar fasciitis hasn't been too terrible lately and that I have been able to get back on the treadmill. I like it so much better than the bike! :tread:

IBelieveInMe2 04-30-2014 01:28 PM

Just a Friendly Reminder!
 
I just wanted to remind everyone that tomorrow, May 1st, I will begin a new May 2014 thread for the Ups & Downs Support Group. Please look for it under Ups & Downs Support Group: May 2014. Please post and let us know that you made it to the new group. I do a new thread every month to keep one thread from getting too long and to try to keep the group organized. Hope it isn't too much of an inconvenience for everyone! See ya on the new thread! :)

VermontMom 04-30-2014 01:38 PM

Kathleen - not an inconvenience at all and so glad you are 'on top of things' to help us :D

Thank you for your pic! you cute thang :) And I thought the gent was your hubby and didn't know how to politely say 'dang your husband is good lookin!' :D

Yes how kewl that Fi has fans! :cp:

worththeeffort2 04-30-2014 08:58 PM

I've had a tough couple of days. Took myself for a walk and pep talk after supper tonight. I came home feeling better about things.

VermontMom 04-30-2014 09:33 PM

Originally Posted by worththeeffort2:
I've had a tough couple of days. Took myself for a walk and pep talk after supper tonight. I came home feeling better about things.

really sorry to hear you've struggling :hug: vent if you need!

coffeeshopgirl 04-30-2014 09:49 PM

Hi everyone. Just wanted to check in. Its been a while, and I've been kinda down. Lots of stress at the moment. But the good news is that I met my weight loss goal today = 175 lbs! Just wanted to share that with the room. I'll check in again soon :) hope all is well.

IBelieveInMe2 04-30-2014 10:04 PM

One more April post!
 
Holly: You crack me up! :lol: Phil Vassar IS a real cutie and looks awesome in the cute jeans he wears!!! ;)

worththeeffort2: Sorry to hear that you had a tough couple of days. Good for you for giving yourself a pep talk! As Holly said, please feel free to vent if you need it. :hug:

coffeeshopgirl: Sorry to hear that you have lots of stress at the moment and have been kinda down. But CONGRATULATIONS on meeting your goal of 175 lbs!!! :carrot: Thanks for sharing your great news! :D Please watch for the May 2014 thread and feel free to post there and keep in touch! Best of luck to you with keeping the weight loss rolling! :)

I will post the new May 2014 thread at midnight or in the morning! Stay tuned..... :comp:


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