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Mainecyn, you are awesome! Thanks for making us realize we need to live now!
My problem is, I don't feel it. I never feel good enough, smart enough, I'm imperfect. I wish more than anything I had the self esteem and confidence I need. I've tried a million things, therapy, million self help books, nothing works. I want confidence more than I want to be beautiful or thin. I thought losing weight and being thinner would bring me the confidence I lacked. I felt I would be happier and more outgoing because the thin and pretty people always seem to be smiling, laughing, surrounded by friends. I don't have that. I'm socially awkward, no matter how hard I try. Mainecyn, you are awesome! Thanks for making us realize we need to live now!
I woke up a little late, I can't go back and document memories with my kids. I live with the regret that I hated myself, my appearance, and I let it over ride the love I have for my kids. I always thought I would do anything for my kids, anything in the world. But, what I really learned and noticed was I would do anything for them but share myself with them by preserving pictures of how I looked, times in their lives. My kids don't look at a pic of their mother and say Mom, you were so fat, your hair looks weird, things like that..they look at a pic of me no matter how horrible and smile seeing a mom that loves them and remembering events.
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Mainecyn, I have only been a member here for a few days. I've read a lot, but have been too shy and embarrassed about myself to post anything ... until I read your post. It made me cry
I hope as time goes on you find it within yourself to love yourself no matter what your weight or looks. I wish I had the words to make it better for you
I know I'm going to be saggy and look a lot older when I lose the weight I need to and (at the moment) I'm ok with that.
I have learned that the only way this board can help me is if I am totally honest about my weight issue, why I over eat, how I feel about myself. I use this board as a tool to get to the real root of what makes me react. I haven't always liked what I have shared, or discovered about myself, but it helps me. There is no other way but to be honest, raw, and open, if I sugar coat things, say everything is alright, well that's a lie.Mainecyn, I have only been a member here for a few days. I've read a lot, but have been too shy and embarrassed about myself to post anything ... until I read your post. It made me cry
I hope as time goes on you find it within yourself to love yourself no matter what your weight or looks. I wish I had the words to make it better for you
I know I'm going to be saggy and look a lot older when I lose the weight I need to and (at the moment) I'm ok with that.
I have learned from other people that I am not alone in feeling this. I also only really learned how much I had truly excluded myself from preserved memories..I have promised myself, now that realizing it, I will ask someone to take a pic of me with my family instead of documenting that smiling family without me.
I am fairly new here, like you. But the more I open up, and I am brutally honest with myself and the details, the better things are. I can share things here that I would never tell a person in real life. There is no judgement. If it helps someone not to make the same mistakes as I have, then that's wonderful and worth opening up. I am 40 years old and have spent my entire life suffering from no self esteem or self worth, disliking myself. It isn't a way to live.