Can't snap out of it...
 

So, I've been in a major funk for about 3 weeks now. I've been struggling with things emotionaly and I know alot of my issues are my weight because I get so depressed with how I look and feel. But how do I push past this feeling so that I can get off my rear and get working out instead of crying all day long? And then, on top of that I have about 50 pounds to lose and feel like it is such a huge number to lose, I feel like if I only make mini goals of 5 pounds that just is nothing....i know i need to start small, but it just seems so impossible lately. I can tell my husband is worried becuase I have been secludiing myself from everything but I just can't seem to snap out of it....ahhh....

Maybe start with therapy?
Also starting small is the best way to start. Make at least one good decision tomorrow. You can do this!

It's not a panacea, but I've found using the tools in David Burns' Feeling Good very helpful. :hug:

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Given the funk you are in, I would first see your GP and get a good physical and blood work up.

If that reveals very little, do some home work and find a good counselor. It may take more than one visit with more than one person until you are comfy, but you should not feel so defeated after only 3 weeks!:hug:

Do some research, get a counselor/support group, whatever it takes!

Hang in there! Some times this can be an easy journey, some times, it's a long journey, don't fight it, roll with it and learn!:D

My moods go up and down all the time because of depression. The other day I laid crying in the bed for a good 15 mins, I gave myself a pep talk out loud. I told myself to get up and just do it even if it was the last thing I wanted to do. I finally just got up and cleaned, cooked and worked out. I have weeks where I berate myself and feel so much anger but have to keep going. Eventually I feel better and think I was being a little silly, but I can't control my moods, now I can control what I eat and working out.

Also, you may be moving in 5 pound goals....but don't forget to add those 5's together. It's not 5, then 5, then 5....it's 5 + 5 + 5 with a great = at the end. So it may be 5 right now, but soon enough it'll be 10, then 15, then 20. Mini goals get you to the big results.

Waves 'hello'. 1) Fitness is great medication for the blues. I know this too well. 2) Taking on small amounts to start is an excellant building block to your goal(s). You just have to trade the old thinking for the new. If you want it, you can do it. :carrot:

Hang in there! Some of the weight loss journeys on here are very motivational. Try adding a Ticker with a Marker for each 5 lbs. Lost. My 'Jumping Carrots' make me Happy! Hope you're feeling better soon.

thanks for this, really didn't think about it that way. I'm hoping to have a better week this week. had a major talk with my dh and feeling a little hopeful. I am flag to find this site, been needing a place to find others in same boat or that understand.


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I have been having a really hard time getting motivated to start working out as well, one thing I have started doing is a trick I use when I need to get a particularly dreaded housekeeping job done. I tell myself I am NOT going to work out...all I am going to do is leisurely ride my stationary bike (or eliptical or work-out DVD) for 5 minutes. That's it 5 minutes. A lot of times that 5 minutes stretches into the full 30 or 45 minutes that I need to be working out...it's just getting started that helps. And if I am really not feeling it after 5 minutes I stop and just do lots of stretching. Something is better than nothing. But know you're not alone, not by a long shot.

It sounds like you're putting way too much pressure on yourself! Maybe you don't need to "snap out of it", just do a couple of things in spite of it, and do them slowly. I had to do this today, and it WAS hard. All I had to do was go down to the doctor's and collect more beta blockers. If I'd tried to snap out of it I'd still be lying in bed feeling like a failure. Instead, I just had to admit "I'm depressed. Pretty severely this time. I'm under stress. Things are changing. It's hard going. It's just the way it is." Eventually I moseyed on out the door and skulked to the pharmacy and back with my iPod on. It took me four times the time it would usually have taken me. But, I went, I set out to do a specific thing, and I did it. I feel no better, I'm still depressed, but I have my beta blockers, which ultimately, was the goal. The depression will lift when it does, trying to force it is ultimately counterproductive, because you're suppressing things you need to be feeling, and processing. I absolutely agree on the counselling. It'll help you feel & process the stuff you might otherwise try and suppress. And what you suppress will ultimately bite you in the *** later.

About the 50lbs, it is little bunches of 5s :) I'm losing 100lbs, and the only way I got to 11lbs was by concentrating on one at a time. I thought of it this way, in case it helps:

Say, i have 2 options for weight loss:
1) Lose 1lb per week for the next 2 years, or;
2) Go on a crash diet, try to lose the weight in 3-6 months, starve myself, ruin my lovely fat-burning muscles, and be sitting here in 2 years more than likely 50 or so lbs heavier than I am now.

I'm going to buy 10 little bracelets, and put one on, and add the other 9 as I lose more weight. I like being able to change my 3FC profile pic and signature every time I lose even 1lb. I have a shirt that will fit in about 7lbs time. I have a graph that shows a nice overall downward line. I look at the goal forum and notice how people have lost the weight one tiny lb at a time. I'm getting a haircut and going back on the pill at 175. I've littered my future weightloss timeline with loads of little treats to remind me every little bit is worth it.

I can't think about losing 89 more lbs without turning into a complete basket case. But I've lost 11. And I can lose another 11. And when I've done that, I'll be sitting there wearing my special shirt, thinking... I've lost 22. I can lose another 22. Then my hair will look lovely and I'll need to buy another special shirt because this will be too big.

Sorry to go on so much, but I'm really quite depressed today and want to talk. And along with finding a way of losing weight that works for you personally, and the support I've found on this forum, lots of NSVs (non-scale victories) seem to make up the hat trick of ultimate weight loss advice :)

:angel:Sorry to hear that your having difficulty:hug: don't be afraid to seek help to develop better ways of coping if you need to do so ! Sometimes having someone professional to evaluate and point you in the right direction can be very helpful.
I was depressed about gaining weight but not clinically ..just embarrassed and self loathing for allowing myself to get to this place. I have a teenager and all though she never said it I think she was embarrassed by my weight...I did not want her ever to be put in a position to defend me.
This is what has worked for me to snap out of it and handle the hole I dug myself in.
I ASK MYSELF IS THIS the kind of coping skills I want to instill in my children?
I always try to behave in a way that I would not be ashamed of my kids knowing about. Kids learn not so much by what we say but what we do.
I want my children to be Resilient and so I live that way. When life knocks me down I get back up,when I have a lapse I correct it the best of my ability.
When I'm wrong I admit it and try to make amends I want to be good example to my children not just today but when I'm no longer walking this earth.
My children told me how proud of me they were...They are my motivation. That's what gives me the drive to push forward during difficult time. I never brought up to my daughter what I suspected but she tells me I looking more stylist. The other night I borrowed her belt for my jeans,my girl is skinny petite girl so 6 months ago I could never had borrowed anything but a Ponytail holder from her.
I Want to raise children that know how to delay immediate gratification in order that they will reach their dreams.
The kids have seen me stay OP throughout Holidays and we recently celebrated my mom's birthday drove 50 miles roundtrip to go to our favorite bakery to get our traditional cake...we all enjoyed the Birthday and I was happy just seeing them enjoy the special day!
Someday I will be able to incorporate some foods back into my diet just not right now. There are days that are harder then others ...I struggle and I go on with it.



I hope you can find the one thing that makes you able to flip the switch on. I hope I have not offended you that was never my intent..I believe in sharing from the heart .:angel::goodvibes:kickbutt:
My kids are my heart and they motivate me to push on when I might want to call it quits.
Good Luck,Roo2:carrot::carrot::carrot:

My weight was causing me major depression and I felt utterly overwhelmed. I gained 50 pounds in two years hiding in my apartment, crying and feeling even worse about myself.

If your weight is causing your depression, start eating healthy and exercising. I know that sounds like a simple solution but it's what worked for me. Force yourself to get up and get moving. There are other issues that I'm dealing with as well but I can tell you that taking control was a big part of getting out of my weight funk.

Sometimes I think we make things more difficult than they need to be. Take one day at a time and start taking back control.

You can do it! Good luck.

I am in the same position. I am completely lost and depressed. I know everything I am supposed to do but I feel like I am not doing enough. My heart is hurting.....I am so disappointed in myself. I do work out 2 -3 days a week but I should be doing more. I eat healthy all day--NeVER snacks or fried foods or carbs but then at dinner I don't eat well and I have desserts. I don't even like to look in the mirror anymore or eat in front of anyone. I have never felt like this before and I am scared it will only get worse. yes, there are other issues in my life but i really am not happy with myself...I go to sleep thinking about my weight and I wake up thinking about weight. It is consuming me. I used to be so active and had self control---now I feel like I have no control...any guidance would be helpful.

I'm a very hands on person. One thing that has helped me is this. Plot your weight loss in a spread sheet then graph it. This way you can get an over all picture of what your body is doing. For me it helps because I can see real results over time. Also I can see patterns in how and when weight comes off. Example: I plateau for about 5 days then GAIN a couple pounds then the next couple of days I lose about 4 pounds(the ones I put on plus new pounds lost).
For me this works because I can have faith and believe in something which then in turn helps with my depression. Having actual proof via results you can see makes it clear that diet and exercise works which is what motivates me.