January 2013 Chat thread
 

We needed a chat thread. Vent here, share here. :hug:

Hello friends. I hope you all are well.


I went to a party on the 31st to bring in the New Year, I was all set to spend the night. About 8 pm, the mood hit me that I didn't want to be there. I wanted to be at home, alone with my pets, relaxing. So I left the party early and went home. I just wasn't in the mood to party. I went home, turned on the television and enjoyed my evening. I know, it seems weird that I can enjoy being alone but I truly did. I didn't have to worry about socializing with people and being somewhere that I didn't want to be.

I still find myself in the same mood, not wanting to socialize much. I wouldn't say I'm down exactly just...I don't know, it's hard to explain.

I set a goal to lose 40 pounds this year. I think it's an achievable goal.


I hope this post finds you all well and happy.

Good luck on your journey,ohiofreespirit!
By the end of February I wish to loose at least 15 pounds (if possible 20).

I have dedication and I will fight for it! Depression will hold back it's claws while I am working on my body!!!

I'm a newbie here- although I've been reading the site for awhile :)

Need to get something off my chest- my family is going through a lot of drama and I'm honestly not able to help out as much as I feel obligated to. This morning I found out my Grandmother- who my parents have been taking care of since I got married a year+ ago- has rectal cancer. This is on top of her having 3 brain tumors and no longer being able to walk. My Mom emailed me this information last night- which I'm thankful I got to read about it because all I could do for awhile was cry and cry and cry. My sweet cat, Buddha (16 lb orange tabby that we rescued), has been sitting by my lap ever since like he knows something is wrong. I woke up my Hubby too and he said he'd take the day off to be around in case my parents would like us to come down to visit- I'm still on and off crying so I shouldn't really drive.

My Mom mentioned how she's also going to pre-plan funeral arrangements for her and my Dad- since she's doing it for my Grandmother right now. I know this has nothing to do with her thinking she'll or my Dad will die soon- at least I keep telling myself that- but that hit me like a ton of bricks too. I've never done well around people who are sick or dieing- I'm very compassionate and sensitive about such things and I will literally just cry and cry (totally NOT helpful to those who are going through the process of dieing). I'm hoping that if there is something I can do my parents will just ask me- I'm never good at figuring out what I should do in such situations.

I was hoping to really get started on setting up a meal plan for myself today- bought the food and everything, but now I just want to... I don't even know. Go into numbness mode- if you know what I mean- which usually leads to me either not eating at all or overeating to comfort myself. I'm happy that my hubby will be home today- he knows about my depression and knows to keep an eye on if I'm eating or not (or eating too much too now).

Thanks for letting me share!

ohiofreespirit, thanks for starting a January thread :) If you did not want to socialize on NYE, then you did the right thing. And I know you can achieve your 2013 goal!

Hello to strawberryswing!

angeldove, :welcome and hi :) I'm so sorry about the news about your grandmother, poor lady. She does have family that cares about her and that is wonderful.

I understand that you are upset hearing about your parents pre-planning final details for themselves, but that is something they are doing to relieve you and any other children from stress at a time when you will be vulnerable..try not to think about it now. I'm 'only' 52 but I'm starting to think about ridding our house of clutter so our sons don't have to deal with as much 'when the time comes'.

I have had pretty smooth sailing for a long time now, depression-wise. I can only think that it's my med and consistent working out that is the magic combination (and 'trying' to not eat badly) Looking back on 2012 I don't think I had a single suicidal thought, for a whole year. I did have quite a few days spent in bed though, but that is pretty minor on the whole.

HI to everyone :hug:

Oh ladies I found you again. I know you really were not lost, I was.
Right now, the moods seem pretty stable....because I started my meds again and working out. Just holding on here, trying to get through everyday life.
Will update more later

I feel so out of sorts. My job has me feeling so overwhelmed. I see my PA in a couple of days and I think she will up my med. I just want to quit my job but they say not to make any huge decisions when you are going through a bad time.

Ohiospirit very sorry you are feeling that way :hug: I would agree not to make any big decision when you're feeling like that . Hang in there!!

Last night I was very angry about my winter job, my job doesn't take much brain power on my part, just hate that when I have to stay late, I don't get paid for it.

Hi cemommster :)

Ohiospirit hoping you start to feel better soon. The winter sucks, esp here in the Midwest, so dreary and less sun. Think about discussing vitamin D with your PA.

Newbie
 

I am new to this forum, I also just joined WW. I have lost my husband and daughter in 2 years time. I also have a form of MD which makes me loose my muscle, so exercise is hard to do. I live alone in small town now. My son lives a hour away but is moving this month 3hr away.
I fight being depressed living alone but know I need to loose weight because I am getting worse with my health. I am open for any help in this journey.
Thank you!

Hi Karen, welcome to the group. So sorry to hear about your husband and your daughter. I cannot imagine. I hope you find solace and support here with us.

HI all.

My name is Cassie. I have been on the boards time and time again and successfully lost 80 lbs but then I saw a nutritionist and doing what she said I successfully GAINED 50 lbs....No bueno. I have lost about 15 of it in the last week and a half (im sure its mainly water). The experience of seeing the scale go back up to where I said it never would go mixed with the season changing put me in a depressed mode and that in turned made me gain even MORE weight. Ugh. So this is MY YEAR. I am ready to get it off and keep it off! No more listening to other people I am doing what I know how to do and what I know works. The problem is I am still fighting my depression. :\ So here I am to join you all and hopefully keep myself on track.

Hi Karen and Cassie, welcome to the group. We are so glad to have you here with us.


Vermont, I am going to stick it out with my job until I am sure what I want to do. I don't want to make any rash decisions. I guess I feel like I am not able to give 100% to my job because of my anxiety. I feel like I get behind and then I get overwhelmed.



What can Vitamin D do for me?

Just checking in this morning. I am with a sick kiddo, so no working out until DH comes home.

I overcame my inability to confront the housework and really dug into cleaning yesterday. I got a lot done. I still have a lot to do but the house looks and smells a lot better today. I am very proud of myself.


:)

I am assuming you live in Ohio, vitamin D is usually gotten through the sun. And in the winter us Midwesterners do not get a ton of sun. It can help with moods, immunity and protect against cancers. But I do it for the mood properties, cause in MI we are lucky to remember the sun Dec-March.

http://www.vitamindcouncil.org/healt...rs/depression/

Oh ok. I will check into it. Thank you.


My daughter and I tackled the kitchen this evening. Jennifer was a huge help by doing up all the dishes and pots and pans. I tackled the kitchen floor, mopped and scrapped every inch of it. My floor is wood and it looks so beautiful now and not all dirty anymore.

I feel so good about all the work that we accomplished tonight.

Everyone must be busy. I hope this post finds you all well.


I have been having headaches again, I'm not sure what is causing them. It might be stress. I have a lot on my plate.

Things are still good here. I have gotten to spend wonderful time with my daughter. She does back to college on Sunday. I will be very sad but still so very blessed. She is such a wonderful young woman, I am blessed to be her mother.

I hope you all are alright. It's been so quiet in here lately.

Hi everyone, mind if I join the group? Sounds like a good group of people.

It's only 2 weeks into the new year and I've fallen off the wagon! I'm starting to get really down on myself about it too.

Wishing everyone a positive moment(s) today :)

Hi all. I'm still reading and still not dieting. I've had a really bad cold this week and stayed home from work yesterday. It was great to sleep on the couch all day.

Ohio, I'm sorry I don't post like I should but I wanted to stop in and congratulate you on all of the cleaning! I go through stages where I cannot make myself do anything but when you are able it is amazing how great you feel. Having things clean and decluttered just changes everything and really lifts your spirit. I hope your momentum continues.

yikes, I've missed some days here! Ohio, yay to you :cool: for your recent cleaning accomplishments, that is a GREAT feeling isn't it :cheer3: very glad you had wonderful time with your daughter.

Hope!! Hiya :wave: I am doing the OPPOSITE of dieting :mad: and it is just crazy because losing weight is all I think about . Sorry to hear you have a bad cold, hope you're on the mend :)

Hi Coffeeshopgirl and Cassie! :wave

and hi Cemommster :) Is your child still sick? hope not. Sunshine in our section of the country can also be sparse from Nov. to April! In the past I've used my light box but seem to be okay without it this season.

Vermont girl, yep. Only instead of the cold, she now came home vomiting. UGH. I have the congestion in my chest and she is throwing up. So back to bed I go.

Happy Weekend everyone!!

My MIL (a short lady) complains how her looks change after she gains 5 lbs. I have the opposite- at six foot tall- losing 5 lbs is like NOTHING on me. Even losing 20 lbs isn't that big of a deal when looking at how my body looks. That so very gets me discouraged. Just trying to remind myself that every pound counts- even the ones that I can't see melting away (especially those!).

Angel - THANK YOU! I am 5'10 and it takes 30-40 lbs + for a difference to show on me! It's sucky.

Thanks for the welcome all. Spent the day in the salon which was nice. I havent been there in a bout 6 mos it was a nice pick me up, my bangs got cut a bit too short but eh, it's hair so it will grow back! Anyway It's cold and I am sleepy so I am gonna curl up in a blanket and watch a little tv. Keep your spirits up ya'll we can do this!

Happy weekend to you too Angel!

Today I get back on track after stressing my body out with my initial workout / diet plan.

I took on too much, too fast. Go figure; its not the first time this has happened.

But, I rested, planned some meals , and today I cook!

Enjoy your Sunday everyone.

BIG VICTORY for me- scale barely budged down (oh well) but I went out to lunch with Hubby- chose seltzer water with lemon instead of a high calorie drink, ate half my entree and a little less than half the appetizer. I left full but not overly stuffed- I'm going to freeze my leftover for tomorrow's dinner and eat a smaller dinner tonight (been about 2 hours and I'm still very full so I don't think I'll be in the mood for more of what I had at lunch).

I started taking St. John's Wort more regularly this week and a Vitamin B complex- so those two things with exercise has helped to banish away my depression that I was having over the last few weeks. I don't know why I ever stop taking those- I know they help me but I think I just get lazy.

What are you planning to cook today, coffeeshopgirl??? :)

Hello sweet friends.


i have very good news to share. I got chosen for a new job. I will be working 2 days a week as a receptionist. I didn't even apply, I was asked if I was interested and of course, i was. It is in a building that I am in a lot so the girls know me there. I come and go there a lot. I start training in the morning, 8 am sharp.

I am slowly, trying to give up caffeine (pop) and replacing it with water. I am hoping to lose some weight by doing this. Wish me luck.

Have a wonderful week, ladies.

Originally Posted by ohiofreespirit:
Hello sweet friends.

I am slowly, trying to give up caffeine (pop) and replacing it with water. I am hoping to lose some weight by doing this. Wish me luck.

Wonderful news about the job- congrats!!

To cut my habit of drinking soda (I'm from the East coast ;)) I actually slowly cut out the soda by mixing soda with seltzer water (non-flavored). So I could still have the carbonation- which I really enjoyed most about drinking soda. Once I got to about 1/2 soda and 1/2 seltzer I found it to be so disgusting I just stopped drinking soda all together. My favorite beverage now is seltzer with a lemon slice. Just an idea... GOOD LUCK!

ohio, congrats on the job!! that is great :) and Good luck on replacing the pop (angeldove, I also know it as 'soda' :D ) Ohio, I bring those little single packets of Crystal Light (or Snapple, it's cheaper) to work and drink that. I know I should move to just plain water. Our tap water tastes good enough to do so. I don't have a weight problem due to soda, because I just have the sugar-free kind, but negative talk about artificial sweeteners reinforces that I should just have plain ol' water.

Every...single...day....I start out with the intention of not eating as much. That is my only problem!! I consistently work out and that is my saving grace that I'm not any bigger.

BUT I have not had any horrible depressive states for a long time and I just simply so grateful for that. I am also trying very hard to not be so condemning of my self for my body shape and lack of self-control.

Angeldove congrats on your lunch success! it is really hard to have only half of your entree when it is sitting right in front of you isn't it. Did you have them take half away at the beginning? that's about the only way I could do it.

I hope Cemommster is better, and her daughter too.

HI to everyone else!!

congrats on the job, Ohio. That's is great. I start a new job next Tuesday, I am excited for it.
We are on the road to recovery, well some of us. I still have some congestion and my daughter is doing great. Now my son is coming down with it all. I guess my dh is next?

Hi guys. I'm new. Finally joined after the scales revealed a 4lb gain this week. *sniff*

Started a gym competition 2 weeks ago and I have done maybe a day a week of exercise and ate like crap!! I don't know whats wrong with me. I sleep CONSTANTLY but I don't feel depressed (well only right before my period everything goes to pot) But normally I am just tired and unmotivated!!
I had blood work done almost a week ago and it still hasn't came back yet...welcome to the west..I swear everything is done the long hard way out here!! GRR...

Anyways I REALLY need to find some motivation and discipline or something soon cause I am down to 2 pairs of jeans that fit THATS IT!!

Ok well just wanted to touch base with everyone!!

Vermont-hope you are doing well!!!

Hey Mom it is good to see you!! :)

I hear ya about the lack of motivation and choices of jeans getting lower, that is not fun is it, grrr.

Hey everyone!

I've been all pouty and down from gaining over the holidays, and I've had enough! time to break out of my funk and get back into happy land. I get it - it's cold, no sunlight, and I want to eat everything in sight - but it's time to focus on the positive. Even if I have to make myself smile.

Since my holiday splurge, which grew into a 3-month hiatus from anything healthy, I've been eating later at night. So, tonight I'm going to compromise with my stubborn body and schedule my after-dinner snack for 8pm, rather than immediately after dinner as I've been doing.

Wish me luck! Happy Tuesday (I wish it were Friday, lol)!

Mom you've got 4 kids under 5?? Wowsa!! I'm not surprised you're tired!

Question: Do you feel that having lots of kids helps or hinders your weight loss? (i.e. does it make you more active or do you end up eating junk because it's quick and easy?)

I've got 2 under 3 and I'm knackered lol.

Hey Mom, I think your tired from the 4 under 5. lol I have a 13 year old and 5 year old, and I am exhausted with them. LOL
Well daughter got over her flu and the 13 year old son got it. Got him over it and last night daughter calls for mommy at 3 am. 102.4 fever and we were up for 2 hours. Then she wakes up with caked on snot face. REALLY?

Girls I had the most horrendous day Friday, and actually kind of kept my cool. First a bolt found its way in my tire and it blew while driving. Then we couldn't find the spare, its in the middle under my van. I come home and make some bread and new container of eggs all over my kitchen floor. So my mom and dad were taking the kids that night and my mom says to go back to bed she doesn't want me driving. lol She came down and got the kids.
So then I go grocery shopping...I walk in the store and the power goes out. Really? All I could do then was laugh.

Originally Posted by Cemommster:

Girls I had the most horrendous day Friday, and actually kind of kept my cool. First a bolt found its way in my tire and it blew while driving. Then we couldn't find the spare, its in the middle under my van. I come home and make some bread and new container of eggs all over my kitchen floor. So my mom and dad were taking the kids that night and my mom says to go back to bed she doesn't want me driving. lol She came down and got the kids.
So then I go grocery shopping...I walk in the store and the power goes out. Really? All I could do then was laugh.

Oi!! what a day you had!! I'm glad you could only laugh, lol, that's great :carrot:

I called Canadadrugs.com today to renew my generic Wellbutrin prescription. They told me they no longer sell the generic version, due to 'higher standards of purity" or something like that. O-kay..... I just know that it will cost more now :devil: but heck $140 for 3 months' worth of sanity is WORTH IT! :devil:

Just about anything is worth sanity.