I feel so terrible about what happen between my mother and I today. We got into an awful fight over basically nothing. I've been having anxiety attacks for as long as I can remember. Now I basically have nothing going on in my life. Yes Im a cosmetologist but Im not working because of my attacks. So im pretty much unhappy and relying on my mother for everything. When she got upset with me and my usual rant she cursed and I kept yelling for her to shut up and I said "F you" and she hit me and I hit her and kept hitting. We were both going at it. After it was just a cursing spree for about 30 mins. I just could see straight its like everything was a blur. I banged my head against the wall I was just so frustrated and i hit a glass picture and she just told me to sit down and she cleaned it up. We both know I need help but I just feel almost embarrassed about my situation. It just all seems to be because of my weight and Im so tired. I know Im just going on and on but I just had to get it out.

Mother daughter relationships are really tough if you ask me. I get into arguments with my Mom too and then I feel guilty afterward. What if you tried journaling about this or maybe writing a letter to her, maybe even ripping it up after you are done writing it, but maybe it would help to get your feelings out. Then when you are both in a calm mood, perhaps try telling her how you feel. If you have someone you see like a therapist or counselor maybe you could have a session with you and your Mom.

Take care.

Whoa! You guys need some counseling and anger management sessions! It's not balanced to just jump into physical confrontations! Have you talked to your Doctor about the rage you are experiencing? That's not a healthy situation to be assaulting each other. Have you thought about finding a roommate?

Don't be embarrassed! There is no reason to at all. If you know you need help whether weight is the problem or not, get it! I am an avid believer that our emotions have a huge deal to do with our weight, so try to get those in check and see where it takes you! Best of luck to you both!

Sorry you are having a tough time. Mother /daughter relationships can be volitile. Please see if you can find counseling. This is just a dangerous situation for both you and your mother. This needs to be resolved, while an apology would be appropriate I think more than that is needed in this case.

Mother/daughter relationships can be sooooo hard. They seem to from horrible to wonderful to horrible to wonderful - and so and so forth.

I've had many a screaming session with my mom, a couple of them leading to us not speaking for extended periods of time (once a whole year).

It sounds like you know you need help. I would find a counselor asap. If you have one already, you need to find a new one. If money is an issue, you can always find a church that offers free counselling, or at least a sliding scale based on income. Religion is not an issue for them, in case you are not a religious person. I went to see one many years ago when I couldn't afford one, and it helped get me through a very rough patch.

There is no doubt that you love your mom and she loves you. Hopefully in the near future you both can begin mending fences and be on a path to a good relationship.

Don't be embarrassed...First step is to even admit your having issues and talking about them. Are you on any meds??? Cause if you are they could be causing some of the aggression and you need to tell the dr. before you seriously hurt yourself or someone...If your not you need to tell your dr so they can put you on something that will help you manage the emotions!!!! Just take the step and be honest with the dr!!!!

Thanks ladies. I have a doctors appointment on friday. I talked about moving out and my mom doesn't like that idea very much. We are fine today, back to normal. This isn't a constant thing between us. Actually we were back talking and watching tv together the same night. My family is just very dysfunctional but we are also very close. Go figure lol