Hi Tracy,
Glad you could join us. When I first went to see a psychiatrist about my depression, that is one of the first things he told me... there IS a genetic prediposition for it. This doesn't necessarily mean you will get it, just you are more likely. I had depression at least 2 generations back on my father's side as well as anxiety andl as a suicide 2 generations back on my mother's side. I know I didn't chose this, but according to my doctor it would have been very surprising if I didn't get something with all that in the history. I think it is comforting to know that this isn't something I totally brought on myself, with my own body. Did your father ever receive treatment? I know in prior generations people went to the doctor for this sort of thing a lot less than now. It is still one of the last taboo areas of health discussion, which is very unfortunate. So many people can be helped if they would just let someone help them.
Do you have a new primary care doctor? That might be a place to start. If you aren't comfy with the one you have, then you need to look for one you ARE comfy with. This is your life and you are the only one who can ask for help. Meds may not be the right thing for you, but I think you should consult with a doctor first. There are lots of newer meds that have little or no side effects. It sometimes takes quite awhile to find the right med and /or dosage. I understand about being shy and talking to someone new about this, but just think about how you feel.. and the joy you are missing out of life? Life is too short to suffer... please don't any longer.
You are right that the weight makes it worse.. its another thing on top of all the junk that is stuck in your tired sad brain. Losing weight is not going to make everything better, but it is one less thing to worry and be upset about.
I hope you'll stick around with us.. most of us here have either suffered from depression or have in the past.
Good Luck