Think I'm Depressed
 

I do not nor have I had Suicidal or Homicidal tendencies/thoughts..haven't been Diagnosed with Depression,and do not take an Anti-Depressant,however,I think I'm Depressed.

I lack energy,motivation,lay around or sleep.Sometimes I feel hopeless,useless,worthless and undeserving.I don't care if the House is cleaned,when I used to keep my House immaculate.I do keep Dishes/Laundry washed,take trash out,Feed/Water Cat,scoop her Litterbox,run Errands,but let most of the "Big" Housework go..

I was doing well losing weight until I began staying with a sick Friend,and re-gained 21.4 lbs of the Weight I lost.When it became to humid to Walk,I stopped.

Seems nothing is going right and I'm falling behind instead of progressing forward.

:hug:

Have you been to the doc? it could be something medically that needs attention. Go and get yourself checked out.

:hug: take care

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Butter Butt...I dont think what you have described is clinical depression...but it IS a form of depression! I have exactly the same issue...since i lost my job, I have 0 motivation to do anything, and i have gained weight. i dont clean my house, or do the things I should either...I just want to sleep all day. Sometimes I dont even shower...I just pull my hair back, and wear my comfy clothes.
I have noticed, tho...that what helps me, anyway is to force myself to get up....and demand I accomplish 1 thing...after that 1 task is accomplished, I usually feel like doing more. The more I do, the more motivated I become. Sometimes my "funks" last a day or two, but themn I can wean my way back to normalcy. It could be a mild form of manic/depression, actually.
And EXERCISE...it's the only free mood medication there is!!
it is a choice I make everyday...to be productive. hope my little hints can help you as well.

Hi BB,

:welcome:

The only one that can make a diagnosis is your doctor, I would suggest making an appointment as soon as you can... you deserve to feel better :hug:

Leenie

I second seeing the doc.
 

Originally Posted by Butter_Butt:
I do not nor have I had Suicidal or Homicidal tendencies/thoughts..haven't been Diagnosed with Depression,and do not take an Anti-Depressant,however,I think I'm Depressed.

I lack energy,motivation,lay around or sleep.Sometimes I feel hopeless,useless,worthless and undeserving.I don't care if the House is cleaned,when I used to keep my House immaculate.I do keep Dishes/Laundry washed,take trash out,Feed/Water Cat,scoop her Litterbox,run Errands,but let most of the "Big" Housework go..

I was doing well losing weight until I began staying with a sick Friend,and re-gained 21.4 lbs of the Weight I lost.When it became to humid to Walk,I stopped.

Seems nothing is going right and I'm falling behind instead of progressing forward.

It seems to me that depression is setting in, and I would certainly talk to the doc before winter comes and it gets worse. Just tell your doc what you told us. I am on prozac now but was on Lexapro for years, mine is mainly anxiety and panic attacks, but I do have bouts of depression and I had bipolar tendencies, either really up or really really down. The medication helps tremendously. Things you could do diet wise...again talk to doc, but usually avoiding sugar, dairy and gluten can help, while raising the levels of probiotics in your diet, also St. John's Wort.... but again, talk to doc before trying any of this stuff. Regular exercise helps,too.

As someone who's recently been diagnosed, but has probably been suffering from depression for years - just go and see your doc now and try and get it as early as possible.

AR4life,
I see my Doctor every 3 Months,but haven't brought it up because there is never enough time to fit everything in that I need to tell him at my Appointments.

Thank you Jrmohr,I really needed that :hug: :hug: back at you!

Thistime140,
I don't think it is Clinical Depression,but is some form of Depression.I turn 37 this Year,which is bringing me down.I'm single,no Children,my entire immediate Family (Step-Sister,Step-Mother,Dad,Paternal Grandmother and Step-Grandmother) died in less than 10 Years.My Birth Mother died when I was 1 Week and 4 Day's,so have no memory of her.My remaining Family doesn't give a sh*t about me,I never see or hear from any of them.They don't call,come by,ask me to their Family functions,and Female Cousins never call and ask if I want to go for Lunch or Shopping with them.I feel lost,alone,empty and like I'm a nobody because I haven't reached my desired WLG (Weight loss goal),finished my Education and don't have a Professional Career with a nice paying Salary.I didn't get all of the necessary Paperwork complete for a Phlebotomy Course because the Man I needed to meet with was out of Office sick,so have to wait until the next Course begins.Phlebotomy isn't my Life's calling,it's a means to have a higher earning capacity while I finish my Bachelors and progress further with my Education.My Finances are real bad right now.Am fighting like mad to get Bills paid that were incurred by a Woman who used me.I find myself eating an entire 18 ounce package of Cookies or 10 ounce canister of Chocolate covered Cashews,when I know I shouldn't,but what am I to do when it's all I can afford?I started going to Physical Therapy for my Spine Friday.The PT wants to see me 3 times per Week.I had an Appointment scheduled Yesterday Morning,yet overslept and missed my Appointment!I went to a Podiatrist early July and learned I have Athletes Foot,which is a Fungus.He recommended I alternate Lotrimin (Clotrimazole) Cream and Socks 1 Night and Lotion and Socks the next..I don't have the energy to rub on my Feet!When Showering,I exfoliate/gently scrub and wash my Feet..I have so much stuff I MUST get organized and done.Am making lists and as I go,I'm gonna check off everything I accomplish.I'm forcing myself to do things.I received an Invitation to Church and attended the past 2 Sunday Morning Worship Services.I'm going to start Volunteering at a Kitchen that the Church has for those less fortunate and help Cook the Evening Meal before Wednesday Evening Service.I was Walking the Track though I only managed 1 lap around.My Spine tires easily,but am hoping that PT will help strengthen it so I can work my way up to 1/2 Mile,then perhaps 1 Mile.

Hi Leenie,
I really don't like the idea of taking an Anti-Depressant,but if it helps,I won't mind taking until I feel I no longer need.

Ryanne,
Aged 22,I was Diagnosed with Anxiety,Panic Attacks and Agoraphobia.After the deaths of my Paternal Grandmother and Step-Mother,I eventually became completely Housebound Agoraphobic for at least 5 of 7 Years.I take Xanax,and am no longer Agoraphobic.I get out,go places and Drive..I can't take St. John's Wort with the Xanax.If I had the Money to buy Food,the Foods I would select are: Grass fed Beef,Free-Range Poultry,Healthy Fish,Organic unblemished Vegetables,limited Fruit,Low-Glycemic Foods,no Wheat,No Gluten and good pure Water.I take Probiotics with a Prebiotic,and when I have it,Organic Yogurt.

Salsa Chip,
My next Appointment is early October..

Butter Butt,
You absolutely MUST talk to a doctor as soon as you can. I have struggled with depression and anxiety for many years. There are times when I am okay not taking medication and there are times when I cant function and need the meds. Right now I am in a place where I need the meds. I had been on one med for about the last year or so and thought it was doing a good job. But I realized lately that I had been having a lot more anxiety. My doc wanted me off the Xanax, but I just couldn't. I found another doc who switched the AD I was on and let me continue the Xanax. My anxiety level has dropped considerable to where I don't need the Xanax every day now.
I guess what I'm saying is this: first you must talk to your doc and find a med that fits your symptoms. TRY IT!!! If that med doesn't work, try another. Certain meds work for some things and not for others. I don't like SSRI's. They make me feel worse. I have read where if your depression is in the bipolar spectrum SSRI's tend to make things worse. In that case you need an SNRI like Effexor or Wellbutrin (I am currently on Wellbutrin). The SNRI's hit different receptors in your brain. And bipolar is not just manic-depression anymore. It used to mean just extreme highs and lows, but not it can mean a wide variety of symptoms. I experience anger and rage along with having no motivation. The meds have helped me tremendously and I don't know what I would do without them. I have 3 kids and I don't have the luxury of wanting to lay in bed all day. Then again, most people don't.
Most importantly is your doctor. Make sure you find someone who is willing to listen to you and work with you to find a solution that works. Also, reading and research can go a long way toward finding the right med. The more you know, the more you can help your doctor find the solution for you.
I'm sorry I've been so long winded but this is a subject I feel very strongly about and I hope I can help. If you have any other questions, feel free to ask.

Mom with issues,
I was so Depressed,teary and down Today (it's Rained for 3-4 Day's and I started my Period too,so that didn't help matters any!).If I had all these Bills paid,Money in the Bank,and a new Blower Motor Module for my Car,I would have left and wouldn't of told anyone I was leaving or where I was going.Heck,I don't even have a clue where I would have went!Life,life's circumstances,loss,grief,pain and Heartache is why I'm Depressed.I feel worthless,useless,not good enough and underserving.It's like I feel that I have to be "perfect" before I can be involved in Volunteering or have a Social life because of still having a large amount of Weight to lose and with my Education unfinished.I don't experience anger or rage..I re-scheduled an earlier Appointment with my Primary Care Physician for the end of the Month,so am going to discuss with him IF he allows me enough time!

Butter Butt,
Your words are words that I could have written myself on many occassions. Today has been a hard day for me also. My mother isn't speaking to me for reasons I can't begin to imagine and today it's really getting me down. That said, I wish I could help more. Remember this, even if you had money and the other things, you would still have the depression. If you ran away, the depression would go with you so you'd just be away from home and depressed. I know about feeling unworthy and undeserving. That's something I've struggled with my whole life. It sucks! I am fortunate to have 3 wonderful sons (14, 12, and 9) who are my lifelines. They don't know it, but there are many days where they are what keeps my going. PLEASE see your doctor ASAP. If he won't listen or doesn't have time find another doctor. Talk to anyone you know for referrals, especially the ones who have issues like yours. That's how I found my new doc and she is wonderful. I've only seen her once but she listened to me and showed respect for what I know about myself and meds. She has made all the difference. There is another website I go to called crazymeds.us that has a wealth of information and some very understanding and helpful people on their forum. Check it out. Meanwhile, let me know how you are doing. I have been where you are and I truly care.

I am sorry to hear that. Have you talked to somebody, a friend who have the same shoes as you? I have gone through that part, I want you to talk to a friend or find a health coach. Hope this help. IF you want you can PM me as well.

Kate looseme,
I can't talk to one of my Friends,because her Depression and life's problems has to be worse.Am considering scheduling a time to go to the Church and talk with the Pastor in his Office,or finding a Therapist.In September last Year,I went to an Appointment with a previous Therapist,but for reasons unknown to me,she didn't want to see me.

Marilyn,
I'm sorry,but what do you mean by,"every hope"?

Mom with issues,
Wish I knew my Birth Mother,or had a Mother to talk to,but sometimes wishes don't come true,or we don't get or have that chance.Have you asked your Mother why she "cops" attitude with you?Where I live,my Family and People in general is Depressing me,so I would rather be elsewhere.End of the Week,I ran into an Uncle's ex Wife,their oldest Daughter,2 of her Children and her Sister's Daughter.My Cousin wouldn't speak let alone look at me.We were in Diapers together!It didn't hurt,it made me angry!She needs to come out of the,"I'm better Clouds and back to Earth."Christmas 2007,I saw she and her new Husband (whom I've not met when they've been Married 4-5 Years) walk into a Neighbors with Gift in Hand.Didn't come to my House to introduce me to her Husband or wish me Merry Christmas,and it was my first Christmas without my Father!I turn 37 in 42 Day's,and don't have a SO,significant other in my life or Children.If I were to talk with my GP about it,he would more than likely tell me it's not a good idea to have a Baby.This is when I would tell him to take a flying leap at my B*tt!I had to move my Appointment back to early October when I caught my 28th Appointment scheduled for 1:30 PM.When I see my Doctor every 3 Months,he orders a few Labs that require me to be Fasting.I can't go 12-13 Hours without eating.I'm doing better,but had couple of bad Day's..

Butter Butt,
My mom doesn't relate very well to me. She and my sister are much more alike and it's easier for my mom to talk to my sister than to me. My sister loves it because she gets all the attention. I have 3 kids and I understand that your don't relate to all of them the same. I would like to think that my relationship with her makes me a better mother and to work harder to relate to all of my kids. I don't think this would be a good time for you to have a baby. Kids are a LOT or work. My husband works a lot of hours but I still wouldn't want to be a single parent. I could if I had to, but I'd rather not. There are many times my kids anchor me and keep me from going off the deep end, but there are also times when they get yelled at for small things or no reason at all, just because I'm having a bad day or feeling down. That's not fair to them. I wouldn't be fair to have a child when you need to focus on yourself and getting yourself better. I am learning to let go of anger and resentment and not carry grudges. It's so unhealthy. So, yes, there are some days when the situation with my mom really gets to me, but I'm trying to let it go because it's healthier for me. See your doc ASAP. You really need someone who can help you get back on track. Once you get started, it gets easier to make changes that will help the improvement continue. My new doc made some med changes and they have helped me a lot. Some friends of mine and I are starting a weight loss challenge tomorrow that will end right before Thanksgiving and I'm actually looking forward to it. Get to the doc!! If yours doesn't help you, find a new one who will. They are out there.

I understand this alot. I have been down myself. My doc gave me some meds but I really didnt like them. I am a reaL GO GETTER and not alot gets me down but I am under the microscope in my new job and this 14 lbs weight gain has made people scrutinize me even more, and i just dont want to do business even.
its so very hard... I understand the depression and everything that goes along with it.
its certainly not something I would take lightly,talk to your dr and see what is best for you, Even talking to someone if meds arent an avenue you want to explore. youre NOT alone.

I'm sure I have depression but have not been to any kind of therapist or ever taken any medicine.. my best friend has been to all these appointments and taking meds for years and to me it is pointless because you are just doing triage on situational depression and when you get off of medicine you still have the same problems to cope with except now the side effects of not being on medicine make many people suicidal. I don't need that bs and how about paying attention to the amount of money people pump into the medical field because they have a disease for everything under the sun and medicine for it. I think it is rediculous. If you are clinically depressed and it is a chemical imbalance then yes absolutely go get help and otherwise accept the fact that people from all walks of life have serious disappointments and time to stop feeling sorry for yourself and get up and take action to make it better. There is no other way around it because none of us gets to be born again and get a do over. This is it and if things are going to change, its up to all of us to make it better....Exercise is the magic potion to feel good. We can all make up one excuse after another and I do it too but if you want to feel better.. get moving.. I hope this is helpful , it is to me definitely, your problems are there with or without medicine and time to work a plan to survive and overcome life's challenges.

Noellem87,
I'm sorry, but I have to disagree with some things you said. I don't think that butter butt has "situational depression". It sounds to me like clinical depression, for which she needs outside help. Some people get depressed in response to a situation like the death of a loved one. The meds help them cope while they learn how to deal with the situation. If they are ready to be off meds then there are no side effects of not being on medication. As someone who has suffered from depression for many years and been on and off meds, I find some of your comments slightly offensive. For someone with serious issues, whether situational or chemical, being told to "get over it" (which is essentially what you said) is the worst this they can hear. You don't just get over it. That implies that I can control my depression and choose not to. Exercise is not a magic potion. Meds are not a magic potion either. Both are tools that you can use to improve your situation. To imply that there is a magic potion is ridiculous. I don't think it is ever up to an outsider to tell someone what they need. If someone is having serious issues like butter butt is, they need the advise of someone who is trained in these areas.

Thanks for your comments I do appreciate another point of view.. I have so many people in my family and close friends who have depression for many reasons and your points are totally valid, actually more who do than not and it's good to hear an opposite view on this from mine. I just happen to feel differently but I do appreciate your insight as well..