I just need somewhere to basically pour my heart out, because there isn't really anyone I can talk to.
Where do I begin? Basically, I am here feeling sorry for myself. I am a single mom of three. I have a 9 yo and 3 yo twins. My divorce (was final in December) was a complete and utter shock to me, but the break up was two years ago next month and I won't get into that. I am not sorry that we split up given the circumstances, but *damn* I didn't think it (life) would be THIS HARD.
I get up at 5:50 in the morning just so I can try and get a quick workout in, otherwise there literally is not a minute to spare. Get done before 7 (IF I am able to peel myself out of bed for exercise) ready for work and kids dressed and all 3 out of the house by 8:20. Work 9 - 5, pick up twins, pick up older one, get home by 7. Cook dinner, prepare next day's lunches, do laundry, wash dishes, *try* to pay a little attention to the kids, give baths. I never sit down before 9:30 pm at night (which is right now) and I am exhausted ... and I really should be folding the laundry instead of being here. All evening the kids cry and fight. This one hit me, that one took my toy, etc. etc. I have no one that I can even call to watch the kids for a half hour trip to the supermarket. I have to cry in another room because sometimes I can't take the fact that there is never thirty consecutive seconds of quiet in my home.
XH left the state. He hasn't had his normal visition in a couple months, and hasn't seen them in over a month. Anytime someone doesn't get their way, they pitch a fit and scream and cry for Daddy. Boy, do I have to bite my tongue! No child support right now, no help with childcare which costs more than half of my take home pay, yet I don't qualify for childcare assistance!. And that is just the TWINS alone!! I have no where for my 9 yo to go this summer ... and school is out in a week and a half. I am going to go into debt CHARGING my daycare just so I can go to work if something doesn't happen.
I need time to myself sometime, and it just isn't there. And I feel terrible and selfish for needing this, but I feel like I am going to break. I find myself snapping at the kids for things, sometimes even when they aren't doing anything wrong.
I guess I should get to the point!! I would love nothing more than to go into my garage and bring in the fundraiser box of candy and lay in bed, cry, feel sorry for myself and eat it all. My brain knows that it is not the answer, but my heart ... I don't know, I'm just sad and I just feel like I need it. I would love to drown my sorrows in snickers and m&ms and whatever else is in that box, although I know tomorrow I would only pay - I would only hate myself. I slipped up and ate some different candy earlier ... not much at all, but I ate it in an uncontrolled, binge-like fashion which really disturbed me because I hadn't done that in a while. I ended up spraying it with Windex and throwing the rest. I guess it's good that I did that, but it's also PATHETIC that I can't even have chocolate in my house without HAVING to do that.
So, like I said ... I am just feeling sorry for myself. I don't see things changing in my life anytime soon, and I know I just have to grin and bear it, but sometimes it all catches up to me. There is only so much I can take.
Okay, well, I think I have accomplished getting past the candy issue for tonight. Tonight I am skipping laundry and going right to bed, I'm so tired. If you actually read all this, bless you! lol I think I am also pmsing ... I am hoping things will seem better in the morning.
Good night everyone,
Kelly