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Good post. Do you think though that it has to be hard for some people? I almost wonder sometimes if people subconciously want it to be hard because it makes the accomplishment have more meaning.
Certainly, I think that is true.
I also think that some people fear that "going off plan" will be too risky for them. This is especially the case for people who keep trying one method after another. If they find one that works for them, it will not be easy for them to move away from the plan EVEN if the plan is full of rules and requires a lot of discipline to follow.
After all, aren't non-restriction and IE actually "plans"?
Many people who are calorie counters advocate non-restriction of food types and limit their food intake by only counting calories.
On the other hand, IE followers could well be on the Dukan diet for example and they eat as much lean meat as they want until they feel full or sated. This is the basic premise of the Dukan diet after all.
And then there is us - the ones who advocate non-restriction AND intuitive eating. That's our plan to lose/maintain weight, isn't it? And we're sticking to this one because
it works for us.
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Also, congrats on the jeans fitting magical!! Must have felt just like southernmavin did when she got to tighten her belt an extra knotch.
Thank you!!
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And as for me, doing better than ever today. Have not thought about food AT ALL these last couple days. Everything is so spontaneous and I really feel I am busy LIVING LIFE now instead of focussing on what I'm eating or will eat. I've also noticed I have way less negative self talk, not noticing my imperfections and critisizing myself. Instead i look at myself and think "wow, looking pretty good!". It's a nice feeling. My sister came over today with her little girl. It was kind of in between meals and we went for coffee and split a brownie. And it was so satisfying. If it was before she would have had the brownie and I would have sat there being hungry and pissed off at her. Actually she probably wouldn't have had it because she would have known it would upset me. This no dieting thing actually brings us closer now. Also, she arrived with an apple crisp my mom made for me (my mom has always done stuff like that and I usually just give her stuff away or throw it away or I've ended up bingeing on the stuff). The crisp has been sitting in my kitchen for a several hours now and I actually forgot about it and just remembered when I went into the kitchen to make some tea. I would have never just forgotten about it before. It would have been a huge source of anxiety and I actually probably wouldn't have even accepted it from my sister. Now I think I will be able to enjoy it if I feel like it. I haven't yet. Maybe I will have it for breakfast tomorrow .
Also, with my sister having a little girl, it is nice knowing we will not impose a diet mentality on her. That is actually my greatest fear. Both my sister and I had hoped it was a boy simply because boys are a little less prone to eating disorders and there is plenty of evidence out there that women whose mother had an eating disorder or obsessed about dieting and image are way more likely to be disordered eaters. When she was born I just thought how I didn't want her to waste so many years like I have. I want to be a good example for her. I want her to value herself for who she is as a person and not for what she looks like. My sister has done a lot of research into this to avoid raising a daughter with body image problems. She will never compliment her on how she looks, and only for the things she does. Anyways, that's off topic but I couldn't help rambling on. I saw her today and I just love her to death!!
Wonderful, Veggiedaze. So happy for you. I'm really glad things are working out.
As for your greatest fear, yes, I have a daughter and that is my greatest fear as well. She is 12 so I'm really conscious of what I say to her and I have told my parents and my in-laws as well to NOT talk to her about size all. I pray that she will never develop an eating disorder.