You can talk till your blue in the face, but if you accept the food gifts, they're going to continue. Accepting them gives her permission to do it again in the future.
I'm sure she justified making them as a treat for herself, and then justified giving them to you in the same manner. "one little.... won't hurt...."
There's nothing wrong with accepting a food gift and ditching it in the trash as soon as the giver is out of sight, when the gift is from someone who isn't fully aware of or understanding of your food plan, but when it's from someone you've asked to assist you in your plan, I think it's appropriate to be assertive.
I have food issues with my mother as well, so I've definitely been there. If I'm not hearing "you shouldn't be eating that," I'm getting "one treat isn't going to hurt you... you just have to learn portion control...... (like she's very good at that herself, having recently regained about 40 lbs of 60 she'd lost on WW).
Another option for next time might be to say "if you shouldn't be eating them, and I shouldn't be eating them, let's pour some water on them and send them down the disposal or in the trash" and then do just that. (Even if the kids are very thin with high metabolisms, you as mom get to decide whether you want to take them home for the kids - one for each child, or if they're there while you're visiting they can eat one before leaving, but taking "extra" home is just asking for disaster.)
Hope it helps.
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