Tuesday Chat - May 25th
 

GOOD MORNING :coffee:

Morning
Taking a peek outside it's looking gloomy again and I'm feeling sluggish. I bet these two go hand in hand, maybe I haven't been feeling all that great lately because I'm deprived of the sunlight :lol: Sounds as good as reason as any. Blame it on the rain!

After work today I'm going to apply for a new job, I'm so excited! Just the thought of leaving this place has me thrilled. The only thing I'm going to miss are my hours and a few individuals, a price worth paying for escape ;)

Okies I'm off now, hope everyone has a wonderful day.

Leenie :wave: Hope you have a good day

Trazzie: I hear you on the weather. Danged if I'm not looking forward to summer (well, the low end of the heat anyway!!). When this weather clears we'll be complaining and wishing for fall!! :lol:

Well, going out to eat was an experience. I had pud tai chicken. Yup, sauce and all. Ate like 3/4 of it. Wasn't half bad! The DD's didn't like it (guess who went hungry ;) ) and of course now we have containers of it here for DH to eat. My "cold" or whatever it is has now made me hard of hearing (worse than usual) so it's getting worse in THAT respect. But hey, at the moment I don't feel like I'm going to die of chest congestion!!! That seems to be a bit better. So maybe slowly I'm getting better. The only bad thing is I don't think I'm going to be able to go tomorrow to see the FIL in the hospital. And of course neither DD's can either (oldest THINKS she's getting a sore throat. She just wants to suck on the throat soothers :lol: ). And of course I've got running around after work today to get stuff for the youngest DD's troops bridging ceremony for GS. HOPEFULLY it doesn't take too long as I'm feeling super duper tired and could use a nap. HOPEFULLY tonight can be an early night. OH!! And LOTR Return of the King is coming out today so I've GOT to get that :lol: (Ok. my book writing here is over)

Morning Chickies :wave:

I swear if it doesn't stop being cloudy and gloomy and rainy soon I'm gonna go kick mother nature's :censored:!!! It's really having an effect on my energy level.... and putting me in a bad mood! I'm about ready to kill my sister. After waiting on her since Friday I think she's now decided to become a bit more difficult. I know she's probably just getting cabin fever but it's driving me CRAZY! And you want to know the absolutely RIDICULOUS part? The thing I'm most irritated with is that I cannot have the bathroom rugs down because she's on crutches. There, I said it. Isn't that pathetic? Of all the things to get pissy about.... THAT is what is pushing me over the edge. I hate standing on my bathroom floor without the rugs!
My parents are coming to visit my sister tonight so I have to make sure the place is SPOTLESS because my stepmother is a raving lunatic. It shouldn't be that bad. I've been keeping up with everything... just gotta do those little touches.

Leenie: Hiya chickie :wave:
Trazzie: Good luck with the job.
Brenda: CAN YA HEAR ME NOW??? :P Hope you feel better soon.

Good morning.

Trazzie: What do you do for work now? What are you going to look into tonight? I agree...this weather is a killer but I keep thinking that if it keeps raining during the week then the long weekend HAS to be good. :crossed:

Brenda: :lol: I have a hearing impairment and it really sucks! So I know how you feel even if yours will go away in a few days....I hope it does for you anyway. If we were in the same room we would both be yelling at each other now. :lol: Your FIL will understand.

Shimma: :lol: Bathroom rug.....I completely understand. I get weird about stuff like that too. Sometimes it is just the littlest thing that can send us over the edge. Hang in there....it is nice of you to be taking care of her.

Leenie: Morning :coffee:

Not much going on in my world........still trying to get over the sticker shock of my new sewing machine. :( I should be excited about it but I can't seem to get there. Maybe in a few days.

I really need to start to buckle down if I want to make my end of June goal. I have 11 more to go and I don't think at this rate I will make it. As long as I am within 5 pounds of it I will be happy. The funny thing is is that this woe has really made some changes in me. I am eating better than I ever did. I don't really mind the not having carb laden food........I have a slip up now and then but just get back on track without a problem. Seems like an ok way to live if you ask me.

Didn't have time to make my lunch today so I am going to go to McDonalds and get an adult happy meal with the salad and the pedometer. I have an old one but what the heck........I am going to check out the salads on-line before I go to check the carb counts.

See ya.

Hey All

LEEEEENIEEEEEE!!!!-S'up Chica? :)

Trazzie~ We have like 7 teachers transferring out this year...like rats off a sinking ship I tell ya ( ahem....lucky rats)

Brenda~ Never could get a taste for Thai food...we have a restaurant down the street Ive never been to- maybe I should check it out!

Rhonda~ Lets trade states for awhile- it been 80 something up to 90 something the last 2 weeks...I wouldnt mind a little rain

Jane~Ive been wanting one of those happy meals!Can we add that to our trek? or does it have to be excercise type walking?

Well, not much new here except a have a killer case of HIVES! constant itching...even my ears itch! its driving me nuts! I got them after my little girl died and then again after my divorce, so I know they're stress related....but Ive actually scratched places that scarred before! anybody got a miracle itch cream they can tell me about?

Marie: I get hives...not as bad as it sounds you have them! My mother gets them really bad! The only thing that helps her is taking Benadril. I can't take that stuff but she claims it helps calm them down.

Good morning ladies...just stopping by quick before I get on the phone to say HI!!! I went out with some friends to dinner last night and I have not had a night out w/o kids for a LOOOOONG time (kids went overnight with DH to visit his grandpa) so I was feeling all full of myself and.....(Star will love this) I got talked into margaritas!!! I haven't drank since before I had my first DS (just never really had opportunity after he was born to really relax) WOOOHOOOO and along with the drinks came chips and salsa!!! I HAVE THE WORST HANG OVER!!! OMG. I don't know if it is the margaritas or the CHIPS!!! hahahahaha

Gotta go to work I will check in later, I am soooo groggy!

Leenie: :wave:

Trazzie: Hope you get the new job you're after!

Brenda: Huh? I can't hear very well anyway. I'll join in with you and Jane in the yelling.

Shimma: I understand. Sometimes it's the littlest things... Hang in there!

Jane: Oooh! I'd love an adult Happy Meal and a pedometer -- I just think that sounds so fun! But, I don't trust myself to go anywhere near McDonald's. I know I'd have good intentions going there, but I'd probably end up with a quarter pounder and fries. :o

Marie: Good luck with the hives. I've only had hives once, but I used to get all kinds of allergic rashes. Nothing would help me. I'd scratch them like crazy. :(

Well, one more pound down! Hello, 170s (again)! I really like this idea of losing weight each week instead of gaining -- it seems to be a foreign concept to me, though. I hope I can stay on track these next two weeks. We won't weigh-in at TOPS next Monday because of Memorial Day -- usually I rationalize that I've got two weeks, and I could eat this or that because I've got two weeks to lose it. I need to weigh-in each week to keep me on track, but I'm realizing sometimes I don't look at the big picture. Sometimes, all I'm concerned about is week-to-week. If I gain one week, I feel like I've failed, then it's a downward spiral.

Yesterday I went out to lunch. Lunch time is usually when I get my exercise in, so I was at the point where I was just going to give into a no-exercise day. But, later in the evening, I got so angry and frustrated at DH for lying to me (yet again), that I went for an intense power-walk on the beach. I could have done without the frustration, but at least some great exercise came out of it, right? I felt SO much better afterwards.

I hope everyone has a great Tuesday!

Take care,
Jina

TG: Hope that head feels better soon :)

Jina: Well at least something good came out of it....lying is the one thing I wont tolerate...and remember that old saying "be careful what you wish for?" Dale never lies to me...even when I wish he would sometimes! Boy is brutally honest....

TG: Hope you get to feeling better. It sounds like you had a great time!

Marie: I know some of those brutally honest people. Sometimes you just want them to stretch the truth just a little... :D Seriously, though, honesty is SO important, and I'd take a brutally honest person over a liar any day!

Morning Chickies

Leenie - :cofdate:

Trazzie, Brenda, Shimma - Hee hee hee. It's going to be 80 here today so I'll be driving around with the top down. Just wanted to rub it in :s:

Jane - good girl for checking the nutritional info ahead of time! :cp:

Itchy Marie - poor girl! What are you stressing over?

TG - You're right! I'm totally amused. It would have been better if I could have contributed to your hangover, but this will do for now ;)

Jina - Excellent coping skills!!!!

And here I am on what's most likely going to be another wild Tuesday. What is it with Tuesdays anyway? That seems to be when I get myself into the most trouble. Tonight I'm going with 3 girlfriends to a club called The 3 Sisters. The name makes no sense to me at all since it's a strip club that caters to gay men. :shrug: It promises to be an interesting night. If any of you remember my story about cutting the back pockets out of Nathan's pants, this is where it happened. I haven't been in years.

Yesterday was remarkably calm. I worked, went home, washed my car and cleaned the inside, did some garden work, went for a long drive, and then lolled about. Very relaxing. Maybe I need some of Jina's anger.......... ;)

Just came back from picking up my "Happy Meal" and may I just say before I go into the lunch room and eat it.............HOW THE HECK DOES NEWMANN MAKE HIS SALAD DRESSING WITH 9 GRAMS OF CARBS IN IT!!!!!!!!!!

There, I am done.....must go see if someone has a lower carb dressing in the fridge.

Will check back in after lunch.

StarPrincess Sounds like you had a great day yesterday. WIsh our weather was warm enough that we could wash and clean our vehicles. Then again, I've got 3 to do :lol: and NONE of the stuff in any of them are mine.

jina: Congrats on the pound gone. Keep up the good work. Remember, slow and steady :) Do you keep track of how much each week you lose? What's your average weight loss??

TG: Hope you feel better. Do you take advil or Tylenol?? :lol:

Marie: Sorry I've got no cure for hives. My neighbor takes benadryl (or however you spell it). She's basically allergic to everything so whenever she has allergic reactions she slugs some of that. Not sure if that'd work for hives due to stress or not. Have you seen a doc for it?

Jane: Is the adult happy meal good? What was the carb count for the salad alone? Oh, my right ear is usually less powerful in hearing than my left. So to have my left ear hard of hearing makes me pretty close to being deaf. It drives me crazy. Pretty much a carryover from when I was young (constant ear infections, tubes, etc). I guess if I knew it was permanent I MIGHT be able to get over it. Either that or I'd go check into getting a hearing aid.
HUH???? :D

Shimma: Sorry to hear your sis is being a pain in the rump. Hopefully you can get your bath mats down soon. I'm a slob so pretty much everthing is messy in my house and I wouldn't notice if a mat was missing or not. It's due to cleaning the house and having it messy in 5 minutes that has made me this way. :dizzy:

Well, broke down and went to the doc. I went to one of them that doesn't like to prescribe anything unless he TRULY feels you need it. He basically said I'll have to put up w/this (ear problem) for as long as FIVE weeks. :mad: For a person that's had chronic ear infections and problems that was NOT good news. I hate messing w/my ears and to have them plugged bugs the :censored: out of me. The lady doc that DH went to see Saturday HAD called in a prescription for me (my ear)....so I got some drops anyway :smug: I came home, plopped them in and hopefully tomorrow they're a bit better. He basically said I have a cold (duh!) and there wasn't anything they could do but wait it out. What a waste of $$!!!!!
Ok. Enough griping.

Brenda: I got the Grilled Chicken Bacon Ranch salad and it was good. The Newmanns dressing though was so high I used some fat free Hidden Valley Ranch that was in the fridge....BLECK. But at least the count for the dressing was only 3 grams. The salad was 6 (9 carbs and 3 fiber)
You get a pedometer in with it too :D They gave me two by mistake :D
I strapped it on now to see how many steps I take in the office today........

I feel for you with the ears....I have a 40% loss in both ears so it is such a pain in the :censored:. I went to get tested when I was 30 because I was having so much trouble. The woman who tested me must have thought I was making it up because she kept saying to me "I said to raise your hand when you hear the sound!!!!!" I turned around and gave her the dirtiest look I could come up with! She then took me seriously and finished the test. My Dad was hard of hearing too but they tell me it was just :censored: luck and not hereditary......seems like too much of a coincidence to me.
My dh bought me wireless headsets for the tv's in the living room and our bedroom. It is so nice to be able to hear what they are saying without having to ask him "What did they say?" Plus I can listen to the tv at a normal sound level. Check them out........

Star~ eh....last 2 weeks of school I'e got cheer squad try outs, uniform fitting, yearbook distribution, awards assembly, graduation magic mountain grad trip, grades and on top of that the wedding and Europe...truthfully I dont feel what most people consider "stressful" ( that is, Im not pulling my hair our) but my body sure has a way of showing its stressed....my big worry is that the hives combined with scratching is gonna give me a lovely complexion for the wedding photos :)

Jane: I don't know HOW many times I've gotten tested. The last time the guy said "I told you to raise your hand when you hear the beep." Told him if I had HEARD it I'd have RAISED my hand...So to be a :censored: I pushed the button 30 million times. So all the tests came back that I've no hearing loss. What idiots! And they call themselves specialists. Yup, gone to more than one. One wanted to put tubes (again) in my ear. Told him nope, try a new route I've gone that way TOO many times. So he gave up. I'll have to check into getting headphones for the tv. That would be great to NOT have to have it blaring!!

OMG Marie I just remembered something........I have horrible allergies and like I said I get hives once in while...not that bad....but I do have eczema and it mostly happens around my eyes. Well, about 6 weeks before my wedding it got worse.....must have been stress......so I went to the doctor (a woman derm) and she was just like.....well try this for a few weeks and see what happens. She actually told me it was adult acne! I told her I was getting married and she just kind of dismissed it. Well two weeks later I went back and saw another doc in this practice (a guy and the only one I use now) and he took one look at me and said "you have eczema". He gave me an ointment that kind of worked at least enough so I could cover it for the wedding. If I had waited it would have been worse by the time the picture were taken.

I think I told the story before about what happen to my husband two nights before the wedding but I don't think you were around then.............

I went out with the girls for dinner on Wednesday (we were getting married Friday night) DH usually meets a friend for drinks on Wednesday then he had to go pick up his tux. Well...............the first place he went to when they found out he was getting married they gave him a drink....I assume more than one.....then he went to get his tux....thank goodness they don't serve alcohol there......then he went to get some dinner. Waited at the bar for his dinner and when they found out he was getting married they bought him a drink....Again I assume more than one......so he heads home with his dinner and his tux. Proceeds to try and walk up the stairs from the garage with his briefcase in one hand, the tux slung over his shoulder and his dinner in the other hand............well needless to say...............when I got home it wasn't pretty. I came in when he was sound asleep and bent over him to give him a kiss. In the dark I could see this SHINER that you wouldn't believe. I whipped the covers off him and said "WHAT THE **** DOES THE REST OF YOU LOOK LIKE?" He very sheepishly said "I fell going up the stairs" You should have seen him. He had this massive rug burn from hitting the stairs on his forehead, black and blue chin, cuts and bruises all over his arms and legs. I was needless to say not happy!
By the day of the wedding the rug burn had of course scabbed over so it looked even prettier! I covered it the best I could. When the photographer walked in dh said to him "I don't know if you noticed........" the photographer said "Oh I noticed!". The pictures came out fine though...he did a great job hiding it. The End.

OMG Jane, I don't remember hearing that story!!! Hm...wonder if we should have a "wedding disaster thread". 3 weeks before my wedding DH had an accident at work. HIS was a major one though (no hives or things like that)...he cut off 3 fingers and his thumb. They managed to re-attach his pinky. HIS mother wanted us to postpone the wedding but DH figured if I was willing to go through with it he sure wanted to.

OOOOO boy ladies, I came home from work and took a nap!! (actually I left work early even) I am soooo not used to the partying life! hahahaha SP I know you love this, I am just not a bad of a girl as I used to be i guess! hahahaha :) My head feels perfectly fine it is my TUMMY that is rebeling against everything. I could not answer one more phone call and have to feel like I might have to barf so I just came home. I feel better now after a nap and some chicken. MAAAN I thought I was a bad a** still.....I guess not I am just a boring old mom now! My 20's are lost forever! hahahaha!!!!

Star: Within the last 24 hours, I have enough anger to share with everyone here!

TG: Poor thing! Glad you are feeling better.

Jane: I hadn't heard the "wedding disaster" story, either. That's funny.

Brenda: I could figure out my average loss per week. I'm just afraid I'd be disappointed. :( Maybe I'll get a few more weeks of losses in there before I figure it. And, OMG! Talk about a disaster! Was it your DH's nerves??

I have no wedding disaster story to share, unless it's how the marriage ended up! The wedding day itself was wonderful, though. I know this is cliche and cheesey, but it really was the best day of my life (Oh, how naive I was!). Everything went wonderfully, and DH and I always talk about how much fun we had on that day. Oh, how things change!

By the way, to the married folks, what age did you get married? I got married at 21. I'm thinking that was too young, at least for me. I'm a much different person now than I was then (I'm 26 now). It's amazing how much more mature I am. At the time, though, I couldn't imagine anything else besides getting married. Live and learn, I guess.

Jina..not sure how to answer your question about DH nerves. I'm way lost on that one. Explain?
I was 21 when I got married. That was 15 (16 in November) years ago. Some days I wonder if ANYONE is EVER happily married. I read in the paper some people divorce after 50 years and I think HUH? I'd like to know the reasons behind some of those. Or I read about people that get divorced after 6 months.

Brenda - I think Jina's asking HOW your DH cut his fingers off. Was he nervous and did something stupid?

Jina - Men just plain suck sometimes! You can always PM or email me if you want to vent ;)

How old when I got married? 21 and 25. First time, I was too young and stupid. Second time, I was older and not quite as stupid. ;)

Here's my philosophy on romantic relationships in general (and I've done an excellent job of pounding it into DH's head): I never need a reason to go, your job is to give me reasons to stay. Of course it goes both ways, but I've found that mindset makes life a lot more pleasant.

Brenda: Yes, that's what I meant. Did he have an accident at work because his nerves were getting to him before the wedding?

Star: Thanks!! I really appreciate that. Not that I like to hear about anyone that's been in a situation like mine, but it is nice to know that other people have been there, too. It seems recently that I've met a lot of younger people that have had a failed first marriage. For the longest time, I thought I was the only one! All of my friends from Kansas are happily married (or appear so) and have one to two kids already. I feel like the loser of the group. I don't know if it has to do with the values in different parts of the country, but I've met a lot of young, separated or divorced people here with no kids. Like I said, I don't wish it on anyone, but it is nice to find people that know what I'm going through.

Oh, I'm so there with you! I dropped the dreaded ex after 18 months, but I knew I'd made a huge mistake after 6. So here I am, on my second marriage, no kids, no hurry to have kids, feeling years younger than I did when I was 21. That's not too bad, is it?

I got married at 40!!!! Top that! I don't like to rush into things :lol:

I got the best advise ever from an ex-boss/friend of mine. When DH and I first moved in together I would come into work somedays just at my whits end....either crying or angry. One day I actually was in her office saying "I hate him!" She looked at me and said "Did you actually think you were going to love this guy everyday of your life?" (she has been married for almost 30 years by the way) I kind of cocked my head in curiousity and said "But aren't I?" She just laughed and said.....if you love him one day and hate him the next it is ok as long as the love him days are more than the hate him days.

I can't tell you what a weight that took off my shoulders. I thought I was a horrible person and my relationship was doomed to fail. After that I could hate him with the best of them and not feel guilty. I adore this man..........even though he can be a pain in the @$$ sometimes.

LOL @ the hating thing! There are times that DH will just look at me and go 'you hate me right now, don't you?' and I'll tell him yes. Then he'll ask me if I know why and if I say no, he just shrugs, tells me he loves me, and stays out of my way until I feel better. How great is that? :D

See it works perfectly! We can't love each other all time. So as long as we allow ourselves to have our "moments" then move on we should be fine.

True! But only with the good ones. There are some men who, quite frankly, just need killing. :s:

You guys are cracking me up. There are times I tell my dh, "I still love you, but right now I don't like you very much."

I got married at 27 - am 33 now. Our 6th anniversary is this weekend on the 30th. My grandparent's 66th anniversary is Friday. They are 87 and 90 next week.... and still argue over points and get frustrated with each other. They had hard times and not so hard times - but through it all they stayed together probably sometimes by sheer will.

I keep telling myself this as I want to throttle dh at times these days - hard times for us. Then I tell myself "no, I made a vow and am keeping it... it's not as if he's cheating or beating me... he's just being an idiot." :D It makes me feel better. We still need some counseling so I can get some tools on how to deal with his PTSD and he needs to learn how to live with his PTSD, but other than that we're okay.

I don't have too many wedding disaster stories - I think just the fact that UPS lost my wedding dress for over a week during the major California floods... I was sure my dress was floating down a river somewhere. No major catastrophes in health or anything - and nothing happened during the wedding either... it went off without a hitch. Even my parents were nice to each other.

It was only after the wedding that life became a disaster. LOL!!

I had a coworker who cut off 3 fingers and part of his thumb a couple of years ago. It was a disaster and quite traumatic, needless to say. He was gone for quite a while from work while recovering from the "reattaching" surgery and the physical therapy.

Of course, I work for a great company where we all care about and love each other so we all pitched in and made meals for the family for weeks. One person coordinated and we all just brought what we could. I made them banana bread and pumpkin pie (one of my specialties). Neither were terribly low-carb... but oh, well.

I can't even imagine.

Hives! :hot:
 

Itchy Marie -

Take Benadryl, use Benadryl cream.... and also take TAGAMET. Yes, it is marketed as an "acid reducer" but it is also a class B antihistamine. Take double the recommended dose and it works well in conjunction with the Benadryl.

Also, take Claritin - can be safely combined with all of the above. If you have Prednisone, take some as a one-time only deal and it may help.

My dh takes Clarinex, Hydroxizine, and Benadryl every day to keep his hives under control. We keep Prednisone, Tagamet and Epi-pens on hand to add to all of the above for his really bad reactions. His breakouts can (and do) last for weeks or months sometimes. The biggest hive I've seen on him was about 8 inches in diameter... that sucker was huge.

Anyhow, hope any of this helps. You can get generic Claritin at Target for just a few dollars.. but the Tagamet is worth the price, imnsho.

This is not medical advice - but simply what we do to help my dh deal with his hives.

I will put in my 2 cents...

I was in nooooo hurry to get married. I was 31. I had the kids and bought a house with DH before I even talked about getting married.

My wedding horror story of course is a wedding dress story.... I will tell you the moral up front....DON'T SHOP AT DAVIDS BRIDAL! hahahaha Long and short the inexperienced girl working there took an order for a dress that they couldn't even make in my size. I waited the 6 weeks for them to make it and then called to see where it was they had no record of the order, then told me they couldn't have even taken the order in that size & told me to go buy another dress, of course I had looked and looked and this was THE dress. Finally after a week of yelling at managers and emailing corp head quarters I said "Either you make me that dress and get it here OR I will come down to your Beaverton store with picket signs and I will call every news crew in town", they told me they could make it and they did ,but they make their dresses in the orient (******* cheap labor sweat shop supporters I would have never bought a dress there if I knew that before) anywho, so then they tell me that it will not arrive until 2 days AFTER my wedding (what the F do I need the dress for after my wedding) I called the CEO of Davids and emailed him too and theatened to picket again, amazingly they got the dress here 3 days before my wedding, they altered it for free, gave me matching material for it so I could have a jacket made to go over it, gave me my jewlery all for free and my petticoat for free and they did the preservation and cleaning after for free. See what some good ol american B*tching can get you!! ahahahaha Needless to say it is funny now but at the time it was gut wrentching!!!

lol! wow! no wonder I have hives! Im going to try that claritin- thanks for the advice....I've been taking benadryl and using the gell but no luck...what has worked a little is menthol and camphor cream....but Im still bruised from head to foot from scratching with my stupid acrylic nails

I got married at 19....uh...and at 25.....both those marriages ended not because we didnt care for each other but because of terrible tragedies...my first husbands brother shot himself in the head at his parents dining table...his parents just went crazy after that- he moved in to help them and he ended up becoming a basket case like them...we ended up divorcing
My second marriage ended after our daughter died....He just couldnt take it ( his first child) he was on suicide watch at UCLA, diagnosed with sever PTSD and depression....starting crawling in a bottle and then started taking it out on me...a month after we seperated his best friend of 15 years went in for routine knee surgery, and died when the epidural pooled in his spine and then cut loose and went to his heart....he was lost after that....but now he seems ok...is remarried and we get along fine

I heard on the radio that there was university study of 82 couple over 10 years...after the 10, 16 couples were divorced...the overwhelming concensus of all the couples was that the way to stay together is "lower your expectations" sounds like a joke but I guess its true....when you learn to say....I hate that, but its just the way he is and I love him despite it, you learn to live with each other as humans....of course thats got its limits.....most of them arent evil....just dumbasses.