Depressed & Burnt Out
 

I am so tired of diets. I am actually crying because I'm just frustrated, burnt out and not feeling very hopeful. I am TIRED of spending money on books, pills, powders, programs. I am pledging that other then one small inexpensive calorie counter book (not a journal - just the data) I am not spending another dollar on "diets".

I am just throwing it all out. After 10 years of trying every single diet on the planet and either not making it through a day or losing a lot but then regaining it I'm just going to keep it simple and count calories.

Okay, so when I count calories I don't always eat lots of veggies because they are hard to look up so I need a book or something (I can not get on the p.c. during the day and don't have a printer).

My only issue is that I tend to eat a bunch at night so to REALLY keep it simple I am taking my calorie goal -- 1800 and dividing it by three...

so from the time I get up to noon I can eat up to 600 calories
from noon to 5 I can get 600 calories
and from 5 to bedtime (typically around 1 a.m.) I can eat 600 calories.

Breaking it up should really help me take it one "meal" at a time. I can have a meal and snack (mini-meals). I can use common sense and focus on whole grains, lean proteins, fruits and veggies. Without a book or plan or program telling me what I have to do - where I went wrong. If I slip one day I'll just pick myself right up. If I have a bad night and eat 3000 extra calories I will STILL count it and not just "start over tomorrow". I will count it and move on.

I will exercise 30 minutes everyday. I know, I know, I should be doing an hour - but when I set myself up to fail I do. Instead I need to concentrate on goals that make sense for me, that I can achieve. 30 minutes EVERYDAY - I can alternate things like walking, weight training, videos, my stepper at home, playing tag with the kids, etc... Make it simple and fun.

I need a lot of support. I have "failed" (in my mind) for 10 years straight. I am 100 lbs overweight. I am 32 years old with extremely poor health (prediabetes, very high blood pressure, high trig. high cholesterol, depression from the weight problems).

I have a notebook and a pen and the forum here for support. K.I.S.S. - nothing fancy and no magic answer.

Thanks for reading :)

Sounds like you have a plan! I am right there with you... after doing other diets and pills I have come back to calorie counting as well. I too, am in quite poor health for my age.

Bi polar, about 300lbs, just quit smoking after 17 years, hypoglycemic.. and i'm sure on my way to diabetes if I am not already there and dont know it and I have a host of other issues like RLS, asthma, bad lower back... it goes on and on. Scary to think about that in my early 30's.

We will make it. We will be healthy and happy.

I need lots of support as well so lets check in with each other!

I am most of the way through day 1!

Baby we are all in this together! That's why we're here.We have all have our up and downs but we need to keep our eyes on the prize. I heard this saying and I find it to be so true "It's the start that stops us". We think of all the work we need to put into something in order to be successful and that's often overwhelming. I'm new to this but what I like most so far is the mini goals which for me makes my goals more obtainable.

You sound like you've got a really good plan, and I'm impressed at the 30 mins exercise, I currently do 0 minutes but I'm not proud of that.

Veggies and fruit are really big helps in weightloss but yes, they can be hard to look up in a book. So you could look at some of the online calorie counters/weight trackers that are availble. I use dietpower but it's not free, there's a one-off purchase price, but others use fitday and daily plate and others that are free. The big help with all of them is that they help you keep track of your nutrients too. I cannot keep a good level of vitamins and minerals just from food when I'm on a calorie restricted diet, and feeling worse than you did before you started is a big de-motivator!

Good luck!

What you have planned sounds just right to me! And you'll learn from it as you go! :cp: :cp: :cp:

Stick with it! It sounds quite do-able! :cheer2:

Jay

Sounds like you've come to a great realization and there will be great change in your life due to it!!! And you should be excited by it. There are wonderful things in your future.

The calorie counting thing, well it does take a bit getting used to it. But get used to it you will, rest assured. You will come to realize just what a "sensible" lifestyle it is. Holding oneself accountable and keeping tabs on your caloric intake is a very rational, reasonable and healthy thing to do. Enjoy the process as your eating choices will change and evolve. :)

You may have "failed" for 10 years, but you sound like you're going to succeed this time! You've got a great plan mapped out. :cb:

I'd suggest adding one more tool to your notebook and pen - a set of measuring spoons and measuring cups. Don't try to guess or eyeball portion sizes, measure them. It's very eye-opening, and the portions may seem small at first, but it will help to keep you from accidentally going over your calorie target. (I know some people here love their diet scales too, but I don't have one.)

It sounds like you have a great plan. I chose calorie counting because I am also burnt out from diets.

With that said, I haven't been keeping OP however. I really should get back to it asap. :)

hi hoosiermama! I am also a hoosier:)
I use Weight by date pro. I love it. and it has a moble download for my phone.

It sounds like you do have good plan going forward.

Regarding veggies, just a possible suggestion, how about planning calories/counting calories the night before in terms of veggies? I also have heard others don't count calories for veggies and leave themselves a 'veggie calorie buffer' of sorts.

I pack my lunches the night before so I have a good idea what I'm eating the next day its pretty easy to count calories.

I plan my day the night before, or worst case scenario early the morning of. I work in a restaurant and eat lunch here, so planning my mornings doesn't really require a lot of planning. Where I fall is if I don't plan the evenings - I have to know exactly what I'm going to be consuming from about 3:00 on until bedtime or I go crazy. It makes it a lot easier to count the calories when I list out what I'm going to be eating and then stick to the list.

Good luck honey! You can do this!

Sounds like you are going to do great! The plan is a great start too.

I myself am a little more free with myself and my eating habits (calories thru out the day) but it all has to add up at the end of the day. Don't be afraid to mix things up if they are not working for you. That is the best part of calorie counting.

I am a night time eater too and I usually save a lot of calories for my supper.

Also I am not that great with the fresh veggies so I get frozen ones. These are much easier to track because you can read the bag and use a measuring cup. I will make my way over to the fresh sooner or later.

Also, try making your own food reference or food log. This has helped me because I repeat eating a lot of things so I can just go back and look at the last time I ate it!

Oh and my hardest hurdle during my first week or two was being hungry all the time. I learned protien and fiber were my best friends. I keep Special K Protien bars (180 calories ) and Fiber One granola bars (140 calories) on hand all the time. Plus an apple is a great low calorie snack! They help me a lot. Then the rest just came with time.

Just remember to stick with what ever you choose. There is going to be rough times and then sometimes it will be second nature. When it gets a little rough and you feel weak mix things up or if you slip up just get back on that horse! In time it will all be worth it!

Good luck and I hope my hints help if you need them!

Originally Posted by hoosiermama:
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My only issue is that I tend to eat a bunch at night so to REALLY keep it simple I am taking my calorie goal -- 1800 and dividing it by three...

so from the time I get up to noon I can eat up to 600 calories
from noon to 5 I can get 600 calories
and from 5 to bedtime (typically around 1 a.m.) I can eat 600 calories...

:)

Hello and welcome! I made a vow like yours a little over a year ago and the results have been nothing short of a miracle. I will never spend a dime again to lose weight! NEVER!

Something I would like to mention is that there is no set rules on how you have to split up your calories for the day. If you are more of a night time eater...than eat more at night. I eat the most percentage of my calories in the evenings and it hasn't stopped me from losing weight.

You could always deduct 100 calories from your other 2 meals and save even more for supper. say 500, 600 & 700 *or* 500, 500 & 800. How ever you can be successful is the BEST plan for you! See ya around!

Amen....after YEARS of gimmicks and fad diets and so forth I have decided to try...( for the 1st time ) CALORIE COUNTING! And lo and behold...its working..slowly but surely. And I have found that this method is much easier then any gimmick ever! Simply becaue NOTHING is forbidden, but you do have to exercise restraint :)
I also have began an exercise routine....30 min of strength and about 30 of cardio 4-5 times a week...
Losing weight is not easy but it is DOABLE..and WE can ALL do it..one meal at a time.
By the way..I stumbled upon Myfitnesspal.com.........and it is very user friendly, it has tons of foods already there, grocery store stuff, name brand which for me made keeping track much easier. good luck...you'll do fine

I would recommend the Calorie King calorie count book (it's small, cheap and easy to use). The companion (free) website is also very good for looking up information. One thing I do also is to have one page in my food diary to keep a list of calorie counts for food that I eat often, so it's an easy & quick reference. I eat similarly to you in blocks of calories (500-550 for breakfast & morning snack, the same for lunch & afternoon snack, 300-350 for dinner and around 100 for dessert). Another thing that really worked well for me to reduce obsessing over food/diet was to go from writing down every item I ate along with the calorie count to just writing down how many calories each meal or snack totaled.

Your plan and attitude sound very solid to me. Best wishes!

I actually *thought* I responded the other day but I must not have...hmmmm.... I wrote a lot too so I'm trying to remember it all - lol.

Thanks everyone for so much support and encouragment! I started a blog here at 3FC and plan to visit here regularly. So far so good. I really am eating much more then I was before but I don't know if it's just because I'm eating smarter or if I wasn't eating enough before.

I do think that after a few weeks of tracking what I eat/calories I am going to go to just counting the calories. It will save so much time! For now I'm logging it all though just to learn.

I would like to use an online software but I only have access to my computer in the late evening so I think it'd be easier just to stick with my pen and paper.

Thanks everyone! I am very determined. Very.

I would also reccomend Calorie King Calorie Fat and Carbohydrate Counter. in addition to calorie counts on fruits, vegies, meats , etc, it has restaurants, fast foods, ethnic foods and loads of other info. I have it nearby at all times. It is small enough to carry in your purse. I wouldn't be without it.

Originally Posted by hoosiermama:
I actually *thought* I responded the other day but I must not have...hmmmm.... I wrote a lot too so I'm trying to remember it all - lol.

Thanks everyone for so much support and encouragment! I started a blog here at 3FC and plan to visit here regularly. So far so good. I really am eating much more then I was before but I don't know if it's just because I'm eating smarter or if I wasn't eating enough before.

I do think that after a few weeks of tracking what I eat/calories I am going to go to just counting the calories. It will save so much time! For now I'm logging it all though just to learn.

I would like to use an online software but I only have access to my computer in the late evening so I think it'd be easier just to stick with my pen and paper.

Thanks everyone! I am very determined. Very.

glad to see you're still at it! keep up the good work!

I agree. I have given up on spending any more money on diet stuff. The only thing I spent money on was a membership to the Rec center so I can go to the gym. I too need all the support I can get. I dont want to give up. I also use Sparkpeople.com to count calories and they also have a lot of great support.

A few years ago I was in the same situation as you. My weight was up and down between about 175 and 235 for most of my adult life. At one point I lost 60 pounds in 9 months only to regain almost all of it over the next few years. In the summer of 2006, I was back up to about 225. It was at that time that I was just fed up with what I had been doing in the past and was just ready to try to take the weight off for good. The main decision I made was I was going to do it SLOWLY. Weight taken off quickly will most likely not stay off. The slower you lose the weight, the more likely it is you will keep it off.

I started making small changes. For the first few months I just tried to eat smaller portions, like if I was going to McDonalds I just got a regular cheeseburger and small fries instead of the QPC value meal. Over the summer I lost about 5-7 pounds just by cutting back slightly on my eating. In the fall I started exercising and trying to cut the eating back further, making healthier choices, etc. I continued to lose weight and was down about 15-18 pounds by the end of the year. I kicked it up a little bit in the new year and lost another 12-15 pounds by the spring and then just went into maintenance mode. I maintained a weight of 190-195 for over a year. Then this past January I went back into weight-loss mode and have since lost another 15 pounds.

I feel more confident that I will be able to maintain my weight loss because I have taken my time losing the weight and have made permanent changes in my lifestyle that I can live with. In the past when I've lost weight quickly, I ended up eating and exercising in a way that I could never stick with permanently and that's why I think the weight always came back. Now, I've taken a slower weight loss, about a pound a week at most, and have continued to eat the foods I like, I get my fast food when I want it, but I just try to limit the splurges and always have a few days each week that I cut back on my calories to balance out the days I may eat a little more.

My greatest suggestion to you is to avoid making drastic changes to lose the weight that you won't be able to stick with after the weight is lost. Most people who cut way back on calories and eat in a very limited way to lose the weight will probably regain the weight when they go back to their old eating habits. And don't underestimate the value of exercise - that had always been the hardest part for me and it seems that I have finally learned that if I keep up with the exercise, I can have more freedom in what I can eat.

Hey Hoosier,

I woke up feeling the same way this morning. I wanted to quit and just give up on trying to lose weight. But, I think that "this too shall pass" and you need to believe in yourself. Just try to keep it moving!!! Remember that you are not alone!!