Now...I need some advice, im prolly gonna post this in some other threads as I just want some advice from any person on any diet/with a weight problem/with just general life experience.
Basically, as you can see from my stats im trying to lose weight, and I dont have that much to go! Im really getting frustrated and am so so keen to kick this right now and get into the best shape of my life, so I can stay this way for ever!
Next week I will be going back to University and I will be living with my Aunty, she is single and quite overweight... im worried if she knows Im trying to lose weight that she will try and feed me up? I dont eat much and try not to eat too many carbs at night. Should I be straight up and tell her that theres no offence intended but I just need to make my own choices?
I just feel so petty when she has so much to lose and isn't trying to as far as i know, and my weight its a normal healthy weight! I just want to look better!
I wouldn't be confrontive about it. Try to engage her and have her participate in the project. Theres a book out there and its too early for my pea little brain to remember the name that talks about calorie reduction and longevity. If she is the age I think she is that will be an important subject to her.
Find related interesting topics and work on some conversation subjects related to the matter. Then she goes from being kinda passive tossed to the side for something better to hopefully being an active participant. Its important to not make her feel like your preaching to her or telling her how to live. Instead tell her why your enthusiastic about this and maybe she'll catch on. A positive attitude is contageous.
Don't tell her you're trying to lose weight! How hard is that? If she is offering foods that you don't want to eat, just say you aren't in the mood for them, that lately you've felt like eating other foods. Or take smaller portions, if it's a dinner situation. There are all kinds of ways of dealing with your eating plan without making it in any way something she has to be aware of.
If she is overweight, she doesn't need to get involved in your weight loss, especially when you are normal weight already. Some things are better kept to yourself.
I actually disagree. I think you should tell her that you're trying to lose weight (in a nice way). You don't have to announce it, but if she offers you a cookie or something, you can politely say that you're trying to cut back a bit. Maybe offer to cook dinner a few nights a week? Make sure you are telling her in a way that's not judgmental. But if YOU want to lose weight, and she isn't concerned about her own weight, it's not fair for her to hold you back.
I travel constantly for work, and my team figured out pretty quickly that I'm trying to eat healthy. I didn't announce it, but they can see from my food choices that I avoid unhealthy foods. Now, they all come to me for advice and it's kind of fun to have other people doing it with me. They're definitely a lot more lax about it than I am, but it helps to remove temptation if you don't have to constantly be making up excuses for why you don't want what someone is offering.
Maybe instead of telling her you are trying to lose weight just let her know you are trying to be healthier. People tend to be more understanding it they think you are trying to be healthy not just lose weight.
I say don't tell her you are on a diet.For some strange reason when people hear you are dieting, they feel compelled to force food on you or make unwanted comments.Just say you are not hungry, or that you have an allergy, whatever it takes, just say "no thanks".
I think it's hard to not tell someone you're living with you're on a diet. I would suggest letting her know if she asks but don't make it sound like you're superior. I agree with scenestealer that maybe you could cook dinner here and there. You could cook something super healthy, low fat and filling and maybe she'll realize she doesn't need fatty food to make her full and satisfied.
It's probably just how you tell her, just be honest (and nice) about it.
Maybe you can tell her you're changing your eating habits permanently, and that you're letting go some food that's not good for you. You can even invite her to join you. Accentuate the positive. Things like telling her how good you've been feeling, that you have more energy, that you feel healthier, etc. Maybe she'll want to join you and then you don't have to worry about her trying to feed you things you don't want.
Support is a great thing. Hiding the fact that you're eating better could end up causing more pressure on both ends, you trying to hide things, and her trying to figure out what's going on with you.
Last edited by friendlykat4u; 02-28-2008 at 01:08 PM.
I vote to tell her that you are eating healthier. Because if you want to stay that way forever, you need to change your habits not just "diet". And it doesn't matter what size you are if you just want to stop eating junk food, processed foods, etc. I also agree that it will be easier if you participate in the meal decisions (planning, shopping, and preparing).
I need some advice with living situations!
