My hormones must be nuts right now, because I'm all teary-eyed reading your replies. This place is just so great sometimes, and you ladies are amazing. I feel so much better after reading what you have to say - the support, and knowing that I'm not alone in feeling this way (I know that logically, but it doesn't always really sink in, you know??).
runningfromfat and DChound - lol, I made this post the other night after spending about 2 hours trying to shop for a new bra! I really like my current one (Wacoal), but I just bought it a month ago and now the cups are too big AGAIN. I tried going down a cup size in the same exact style, but I must be in between cup sizes or something because it didn't fit right. So then I tried on about 50 other bras (some other Wacoals, lots of different sizes, and then lots other brands in the wrong size that I shouldn't have even bothered with) and not a single one worked or looked good. It was so frustrating! My underbust is 31 inches and the 32 bands fit best in the Wacoal (in some styles the 32 bands even seem too tight), but I cannot find the right cup size, or style, or something. It made me really upset - I'm happy to spend the money on a good bra, but if I can't find something that works in the store (and there seem to be few options for my size) then I'm afraid of ordering a bunch online and still not finding one that works and wasting all the time and money sending them back.
I will certainly research surgery intensively if I ever decide to go that route, but I am definitely a few years away from making a decision on that too. We're still trying to have children and I wouldn't do it until after that for the same reasons you mentioned runningfromfat, and I do want to see where my body settles out after I've tried to maintain for a good while.
On the thighs - lol, I think if you include all the extra skin that is hanging down from them, they'd be larger in measurement! I can barely get my legs into size 4s - I bought one pair the other day (of really stretchy jeans), but they are still too tight in the thighs to wear just yet.
DCHound, thank you - you're right, that's the head space I need to be in. My husband doesn't care. I just used to have nice boobs, lol, and I'm mourning the loss of them. But I'll take these ones at this weight any day over how I used to feel, that's for sure.
And I did buy a really good sports bra tonight at a running store, and it fits well, so that was good. I suppose that at least it's nice now to be able to wear any sports bra without needing a second bra beneath it for the added support!
Edit: And btw DCHound, I'm in Gaithersburg too.
Congratulations on your amazing weight loss!!!