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BillBlueEyes 05-01-2019 05:37 AM

Beck Diet For Life/Solution May 2019 Support, Discussion, Buddy/Coach
Welcome to the discussion group, support group, Diet Coach group, Diet Buddy group relating to the two books by Dr. Judith S. Beck:
The Complete Beck Diet for Life
and the first book
The Beck DIET solution: train your brain to think like a thin person.
The Beck Diet Solution is a psychological program, not a food plan. It provides a step-by-step program to learn specific techniques to stay on our diet, lose weight, and maintain our weight loss for life. The program is based on Dr. Beck's clinical research in Cognitive Therapy (CT).

The Complete Beck Diet for Life expands the earlier work and includes a food plan with suggested menus. From the cover:
With The Complete Beck Diet for Life you'll discover the 5 stages of successful dieting and maintenance. You'll learn how to motivate yourself, give yourself credit for every change you make, create time and energy for dieting, and handle hunger and cravings. Dr. Beck eases you into changing one step at a time. You'll master one task before moving on to the next. And you'll learn techniques to deal with challenging situations, such as sticking with ou plan at celebrations and dealing with "food pushers." With Dr. Beck's skills, you'll achieve a lifetime of healthful eating and lifelong motivation.
This is a place to discuss the Beck strategies and our daily efforts, to receive and provide support, and, for some of us, is where we serve as on-line diet buddy (coach) to each other.

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BillBlueEyes 05-01-2019 05:40 AM

Wednesday - May Day
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Our class studying the cell eventually had to cover cancer. It's a complex subject - made difficult because different members told how long they had been in remission. It was a bunch. You take a bunch of gray haired folks and you get many who've gone through it. On the less painful subject of pathways signaling a cell, we learned that insulin has a 100 step process. The complexity continues to boggle my little mind.

Eating was on plan, CREDIT moi, with no snacks except for the California Sumo Mandarin Orange in the evening. The salmon and asparagus were done on the grill on our attached porch just like it was summer. We wore coats outside all day. Warmth eludes us yet.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Avoiding food traps is classic Beck Cognitive Therapy.

Karen (karenrn) - Nice to have a weight watcher guest to help you stay your plan.

curlyjax - Yep, morning hunger is a good sign that you're not overeating.

Penny. - Kudos, indeed, for entering the healthy BMI range. May you never leave.

Readers -

day 26 Recognize Thinking Mistakes

Common Thinking Errors

Pull out your diet notebook and turn to the sabotaging thoughts you identified yesterday. Write down the thinking mistake that corresponds to each thought. (Some thoughts might contain more than one thinking error.)

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), Pg 196.

curlyjax 05-01-2019 07:43 AM

Happy May Day! I always enjoy switching the calendar to the next month to see the new picture. I’m old-fashioned and still have calendars hanging up.
Weight is way up today- probably because i over-indulged in pie and sandwiches at luncheon yesterday. Then brought some home. Can’t think of any credits for the day, yeesh. I had my job eval and it went quite well, so that is good anyhow.
Today I will attack the house a bit, and plumber is coming to detach old dishwasher, step one. I am getting together with a friend and will suggest a walk if it isn’t raining.
Penny- that is awesome!! You have stayed the course for so long, you are a true inspiration for me. Great job!!
Bill- yes, sometimes it feels like just about everyone gets cancer.
Gardenerjoy- maintenance is always good!
Karenrn- have a great time with your friend!

gardenerjoy 05-01-2019 10:09 AM

I did reasonably well on my low-energy, high-hunger day. I'm pleased that I accurately predicted it. I didn't know I had that ability! Or, perhaps more accurately, I wasn't fully conscious of it. Now that I know I can do it, that's going to help me make plans to prevent some of my worst eating days.

Today feels higher-energy and lower-hunger so I can be a bit less generous with my plan and still have confidence that I'll follow it.

Exercise: +40, 1025/1100 minutes for April

maryann 05-01-2019 10:48 AM

Good Morning, Coaches.

Yesterday was OP. So grateful. Today is planned even though it is tricky for dinner because my mom is coming to DS track meet. I think success lies in not eating my planned lunch too early.

Im struggling with some severe leg pain. I can barely walk across campus. It really got bad after chiropractor treatment for plantars facilities. Frustrating. Ill take extra time stretching this morning.

Karen: The river has finally dropped. DH has been working 24/7 for a month to pump the seepage out of the orchard. I admire him so much.

Wave to all.

Penny. 05-01-2019 11:22 AM

Good morning!

Yesterday was on plan and weight dropped another pound.

I cleaned off the woodstove and stacked a pile of books on top, so I guess I'm ready to declare woodstove season over.

Bill, thanks for starting the new month. It sounds like the cell class got intense for the cancer portion. A lot of pain and loss brought on by cancer.

Maryann, the leg pain sounds terrible! Good luck with the later lunch plans and I hope the leg pain subsides.

Joy, thank goodness for lower hunger days!

Curly, good idea to get a walk in with a friend. It's so much more enjoyable too.

BillBlueEyes 05-02-2019 06:37 AM

Thursday - US stops minting 20 cent coin (1878)
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Exercise was chase the (3.5 yo) DGD day, CREDIT moi. DW fell into a big hole. The DGD saw a picture of a battlefield nurse and asked what she did. DW said she helped folks wounded in war. Then DW had to explain war, guns, bullets, why people hurt other people - the whole ball of humanity. When a developing mind grabs onto a topic, there's no escape until all questions have been answered. I read Dr. Seuss's ABC: An Amazing Alphabet Book!. She was more into the letters than ever before, like she's peeking at learning to read.

Eating was on plan, CREDIT moi, with no snacks except for the evening California Sumo Mandarin. Felt good about having another day where I fully rejected a raging call to go get peanuts because the thing I was doing got difficult. My hunger rarely starts from my stomach.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Predicting your energy level is pretty amazing.

maryann - Ouch for severe leg pain; that's a big limit. Hope your chiropractor can fix that.

curlyjax - Congrats for a good job eval - always nice to know that others can see what we do.

Penny. - So glad to hear that woodstove season is over up your way. I wore a coat outside all day yesterday. Seems that May hasn't gotten here yet.

Readers -

day 26 Recognize Thinking Mistakes

what are you thinking?
Try not to get self-critical as you identify your errors in thinking. If you do become critical of yourself, create a Response Card.

Sabotaging Thought: I must be stupid for making thinking mistakes.
Helpful Response: There's nothing wrong with me. Everyone has distorted thinking from time to time. It has nothing to do with intelligence. It just means I'm human. The important thing is to learn what to do about my thinking mistakes. I'm taking the first step right now by identifying them.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), Pg 197.

gardenerjoy 05-02-2019 08:59 AM

I predict today's energy level will be high, but mostly anxiety-fueled. I'm (probably) running a meeting tonight. The "probably" is because I'm in a position to dominate the room, but a situation where that might be completely inappropriate. So, I need to have a plan for my own sanity and want to hold on to it very lightly in case someone else with less power has a different notion of how things should go.

The food challenge is that I bought and paid for the snacks, but I don't want to eat them. It's a "cookie and bar" platter -- commercial baked goods. Those don't work well for me when I eat them in the middle of the afternoon, they will make sleep nearly impossible if I eat them at night. So, the snacks aren't about me. They're about the people, including teenagers, who will be in the room. I'll send the extras home with the teenagers. If there are any left at the end, I'll leave them for the cleaning staff.

The same anxiety will tamp down hunger and I've got plenty to keep me busy, so I'm planning a fairly light day, with a couple of tweaks to slightly bigger servings if I'm hungrier than I expect. We'll see how this works!

Exercise: +40, 40/1100 minutes for May

Penny. 05-02-2019 12:16 PM

Good morning!

Yesterday was on plan, with cycling class, and weight is holding.

My 12yo wanted his drums back down from the attic, so we're back to having a giant set of drums in the living room. And he was over the moon with pride because I let him drive the car out and back into te garage so I could get the ladder down. He seems more into learning to drive than my 15yo. Maybe I'll take him to the parking lot. Ha!

Bill, credit for no snacking! Deep conversations with toddlers are so great. Their little minds are forming new synapses.

Joy, kudos for making your food plan. I hope all goes well with the meeting.

BillBlueEyes 05-03-2019 05:35 AM

Friday - World Press Freedom Day (since 1993, the UN General Assembly)
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Walk, CREDIT moi, included the library where I picked up the Blu-Ray DVD Bohemian Rhapsody. Have a problem finding a night this week that DW and I are both available. I have, in secret, started watching on my computer - with its mediocre sound system even though I use good enough headphones. I picked up a new book for the (3.5 yo) DGD. Last time we read to her, she surprised us by asking to "Read again" the way-too-old for her book about man's extended family. The extended family goes back to blue green algae and walks through the ages right down to homo sapiens. DW condenses the words, letting her just enjoy the pictures. Have no idea what part of this goes into that sponge brain.

Eating was 100% on plan, CREDIT moi. When the urge was HUGE for a snack, I had a small bowl of blueberries that I declare, in my personal counting system, to have zero calories. That worked. I forgot that I could have just chosen a glass of water. When I feel an URGE, my brain just seems to cease functioning.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Kudos for deciding in advance to avoid the very snacks that you ordered for your meeting.

Penny. - Congrats for letting your 12yo back out the car. The first time I let my teenager son do that, he hit the telephone pole at the end of the driveway. His friends immediately scattered as if I was about to beat him. We survived. Drums in the living room is being a better parent than I can imagine.

Readers -

day 26 Recognize Thinking Mistakes
Once I can readily see the mistakes in my
thinking, dieting will be easier.
Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), Pg 198.

gardenerjoy 05-03-2019 09:55 AM

The meeting went fine last night. A low turn-out meant there was no need to "run" the meeting, so I just let the conversation flow. My philosophy on low turn-out meetings is that the people in the room are the people who needed to be in the room. So, we accomplished exactly what needed to be accomplished.

Today, I have an odd schedule, but I expect a low-hunger day to help me stick to the plan I wrote. My energy level will benefit from a to-do list that's filled with items that I actually want to do.

Exercise: +20, 60/1100 minutes for May

Penny. 05-03-2019 11:37 AM

Good morning!

Yesterday was on plan, with exercise class, and weight is holding.

My friend cancelled last minute for the gym class and I came so close to skipping it too. I managed to talk myself through the motivation slump and get it done.

Bill, oh my goodness about the telephone pole incident! I took the same son to do laps around an empty church parking lot and he did great. I mused he is a natural at drumming and driving and wondered if there are other "dr.." words he is good at, hoping it's not drugs and drinking. I got a laugh out of him. Lol

Joy, excellent that the meeting went well. A plan for success was made.

karenrn 05-03-2019 01:36 PM

Just a brief check in. Food has been okay. Exercise today was the gym with my friend. This afternoon we have a Mahjong lesson for her and another friend. The teacher will be leaving for MN in less than a week. By next week it will be back to mostly famine around here as in company and people still in town. After Mahjongg we have happy hour with my former co-workers. It will really be dinner for us and there are some decent choices where we are going.

BillBlueEyes 05-04-2019 07:10 AM

Saturday - Star Wars Day, "May the force be with you"
Diet Coaches/Buddies - By an odd string of reasons, the rain caused DW's evening plans to get cancelled so we watched the DVD of Bohemian Rhapsody last night. Thoroughly enjoyed two hours of listening to Queen music. They portray Freddie Mercury's relationship with Mary Austin in a warm and loving manner; I liked that. I also didn't know that his parents practiced the Zoroastrian religion that I didn't know was current. They are Parsis from Northern India descendent of Persians who were driven out of the Middle East some 1400 years ago. So I got some history along with two hours of fun music.

Eating was on plan, CREDIT moi, with no snacks other than half a California Orange which we assume are fading as winter draws to a close even in California. I had several opportunities to pick up peanuts or trail mix which my brain reminded me contains dark chocolate which my brain reminded me is good for me which the other half of my brain reminded me is just targeted Sabotaging Thoughts masked as good health.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Congrats for not running that meeting.

Karen (karenrn) - I always thought that one had to learn Mahjong from your mother's knee or it wouldn't take.

Penny. - Yay for being able to get a laugh out of a 12-year-old. I'm told they only grunt.

Readers -

day 27 Master the Seven Question Technique

You now have you list of sabotaging thoughts and thinking mistakes. Today, you'll create addition Response Cards to help you more effectively reply to these thoughts. You'll read these cards at a set time every day, ideally when you read your Advantages Response Card. You'll also pull them out whenever you need them. Over time, as you practice these ideas again and again, you'll begin to automatically respond to your sabotaging thoughts, even without the cards.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), Pg 199.

curlyjax 05-04-2019 08:37 AM

Hi coaches-feeling low again these days, bleagh. I should get back to WW, I dropped it before my trip.It is often cold and rainy outside when I get home and i do not feel like walking. I want to work on picking up the house but it all feels so overwhelming I don't do anything. I need to talk to my man friend about our relationship and i'm sad about the possible outcome. DD is coming home next week and our small house will be overwhelmed with her stuff, and the dynamics of the house will change. sometimes she is so needy and its hard to deal with that when I am feeling sad too. i miss my mom and my husband.
There, I have gotten everything out! you guys are my therapy board:) okay, time to put on my big girl panties and stop wallowing. I am going to allow myself to read in bed for 30 minutes this morning, then up and at em. I'm having lunch with a former co-worker today which will be fun.
Penny- that is funny, my son is like your 15 year old, he is dragging his feet about learning to drive, unlike his sister who was chomping at the bit.

gardenerjoy 05-04-2019 10:11 AM

Quick post on a busy day. I have a plan. I woke up hungry, but managed to put breakfast off until late which will help me follow the rest of the plan, especially if it turns out to be a hungry day.

I understand Saturday's energy flow because it happens week after week. A big extroverted activity at mid-day leaves me drained in the afternoon. So, I have things on this afternoon's list that are productive but can be done while binge-watching streamed shows.

Exercise: +40, 100/1100 minutes for May

curlyjax: Sending warm and comforting thoughts your way. Allowing yourself time and space to grieve is so important. And so is, when the time is right, allowing time and space for other things. It's great that you managed all those things in one post and have a plan for getting it all into one day.

Penny. 05-04-2019 11:12 AM

Good morning!

Yesterday was overbudget with a meal and dessert out, and weight is up.

Karen, have a nice visit with your friend.

Bill, we really enjoyed the movie too! Kudos for keeping out of the snacks.

Curly, Have a nice lunch with your friend. I'm sorry the weight of life is heavy right now.

Joy, you're dodging these eating traps left and right. Credit for planning ahead.

BillBlueEyes 05-05-2019 07:07 AM

Sunday - Cinco de Mayo (1862, Mexican army defeated French army at Puebla)
Diet Coaches/Buddies - At a potluck dinner, I had exactly one plate, CREDIT moi. I did have the Boston Creme Pie passed around for dessert. It's my favorite pie that I get to have about once a year. So it was an on plan day. The scale jiggled a few pounds lower in honor of one appropriate meal. I celebrate knowing that it might jiggle a few pounds up in response to one handful of peanuts.

We watched a 1937 movie, Nothing Sacred. There was one African-American character who was a caricature of all the racist stereotypes from last century in the US - even though Ben Hecht wrote the screenplay. I was shocked at how easily I saw the role because that's the way it always was in the movies when I was a kid. I have to find me a good book that tells me the timeline when African-Americans became people in the movies. My life at home is consumed by a plumbing leak that I can't stop. It's just a drip but I may have to call a plumber because I can't make it go away. Doesn't help that I have to lie on my back and reach over my head.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Smart to have things that you can do while binge watching.

curlyjax - Sending supportive thoughts for all the stress about losses. And stress about the present. You're carrying a lot; hope you can find a way to cut yourself some slack.

Penny. - Eating out is always a challenge.

Readers -

day 27 Master the Seven Question Technique

How to Make Your Cards

As you look through your notebook and examine your common sabotaging thoughts, reflect on each one by asking yourself, What do I wish I could remember the next time I have this thought?

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), Pg 199.

curlyjax 05-05-2019 07:57 AM

Thanks for all the support coaches! Feeling better today. My lunch with former co-worker was good. She's had some troubles herself and it does help to know you're not the only one struggling. Although I came home sleepy, I forced myself to move some furniture around with the help of DS, in prep for it becoming a college dumping ground. Having an external deadline helped, since it needed to be done by today. DS spent the night at a friends so i was able to blast my own music which kept me going.
Also I did buy myself a treat at the store but dumped half of the portion out at the trash can there, to limit myself.
I need to run, its going to be a busy day helping pack up DD stuff. She doesn't come home until the end of the week but we need to get the bulk out now, to make it much easier when she moves out. If the college wanted to make move out smoother, they shouldn't schedule exams on the last day you're allowed to be in the dorms.

gardenerjoy 05-05-2019 10:16 AM

Yesterday went mostly according to plan. Good enough.

Today's challenge is some awkward scheduling around lunch, but I've got a plan that I think will make it work.

We're going out of town on Tuesday and I have some anxiety about not feeling as ready as I would like. Here's my reminder that eating does not help me write a packing list, make a schedule, or figure out logistics.

Exercise: +35, 135/1100 minutes for May

Penny. 05-05-2019 10:38 AM

Good morning!

Yesterday was on plan and weight is holding. I did an extra Saturday cycling class at the gym, which puts me at four gym workouts and a small hike for the week.

Every time the drums come down from the attic, I am amazed by the skill advancement that happens. He's now figuring out the drum tabs for entire songs and my other son is accompanying on guitar. Next level tunes happening in my living room!

Bill, kudos for the weightloss. Have you seen the old movie Imitation of Life? I had read somewhere it was required watching in some black families to break it to the kids the unfortunate race dynamics in our country. It highlights race, gender and class issues in the context of the 50s.

Curly, cranking up the tunes in a house all to yourself sounds pretty nice. Credit for dumping out half of the treat before indulging.

BillBlueEyes 05-06-2019 04:58 AM

Monday - World's Fair opens with new Eiffel Tower as entrance arch (1889, Paris)
Diet Coaches/Buddies - It was a long day as I had to make a presentation at a meeting where I'm a member. A 2.5 hour meeting! When I become Czar, all meetings will be limited to sixty minutes - the longest duration that the human mind can endure while staying on subject.

Dinner was the third serving of a dish cooked days earlier that reheats well. We seldom get three meals from one episode of cooking, but did with this one because we're both a tad busy. While I was out saving the world, DW attend Mozart's Requiem by the Handel and Haydn Society. I was bright green jealous that my meeting prevented me from being able to go. But it turns out that my meeting saved my marriage. A neighbor had dropped by with one extra ticket that she had - only one of us could go! Since I was busy, DW grabbed it. If I hadn't been busy, it would have been difficult to decide which one of us went since I had answered the door and received the ticket. Maybe long marriages only happen because of good luck like this.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Yep, eating doesn't seem to help with all the activities that it's called upon to work with. 'Cept maybe hunger.

curlyjax - LOL at "becoming a college dumping ground." I do remember that experience when the returning kids expects the house to be EXACTLY as they left it. Kudos for dumping half that treat.

Penny. - The wiki description of Imitation of Life makes your points. I also watched the movie trailer for a glimpse of Lana Turner in her 1959 hairdo and Mahalia Jackson. Thanks for sending me off to see that. Kudos for four gym workouts for the week.

Readers -

day 27 Master the Seven Question Technique

How to Make Your Cards

Write down your response using the technique below. Not all questions will apply to every sabotaging thought, but write down responses to the ones that do.

The Seven Question Technique
  1. What kind of thinking error could I be making?
  2. What evidence is there that this thought might not be true (or not completely true)?
  3. Is there an alternative explanation or another way of viewing this?
  4. What is the most realistic outcome of this situation?
  5. What is the effect of my believing this thought and what could be the effect of changing my thinking?
  6. What would I tell (a close friend or family member) if he/she were in this situation and had this thought?
  7. What should I do now?

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), Pg 199.

curlyjax 05-06-2019 07:25 AM

Looong day yesterday, I left the house at 10 and got back at 7, including almost 4 hours driving. It took her forever to pack and she micromanages everything. I held it together and was patient the majority of the time with DD so I'm proud of myself for that, even if I did eat way too much free food at the dining hall. The college is known for great food, and they have lovely desserts.
Todays excitement is seeing a new eye doc.I feel like my eyes are more sensitive to light than they used to be, so I want to get them checked out. Also I think i'm ready for a different style of eyeglasses, we'll see what happens with that.
Joy-I get trip anxiety too. Good job remembering food doesn't help.
Penny- Great job with exercise. You really have your own house band!
Bill-chuckle over one of the secrets to a long marriage!

karenrn 05-06-2019 10:10 AM

Good morning coaches,

Another quick post. Food has been a bit over what I should have, but at least we have been exercising most days. Today we're going to see Amazing Grace, the Aretha Franklin movie. Tomorrow morning I'll take one friend to the airport at 7:30 and then come back and get another friend and her husband for a 9:30 trip to the airport. She has been giving me and my friend MahJongg lessons, so a little trip to the airport is the least I can do. After tomorrow it will be very quiet around here and I will certainly have time for personals.

gardenerjoy 05-06-2019 10:38 AM

I have a long list! We're leaving for a conference tomorrow. It's an easier trip than many I've taken, so that's my excuse for not being more prepared by now. But, I might have been a little overly confident about how much I could do to get ready in the last day and a half before we leave. Oh well, it's going to happen, whether I'm ready or not. So, I'll just keep plugging along on this list and see how much gets done.

I wrote a food plan. A danger on a day like today is to say "I'm too busy to pay attention to food." And, then I end up eating completely inappropriate things at completely inappropriate times -- and, often, taking longer to do it than I would have if I'd just planned something easy and normal.

Exercise: +45, 180/1100 minutes for May

Penny. 05-06-2019 12:16 PM

Good morning!

Yesterday was on plan and weight is holding.

Last week's Kentucky themed meal plan is over and I still have the rest of this week's Mexican themed meal plan to prep. It all looks yum.

Joy, good luck getting through your list and still eating mindfully. You've got this!

Bill, that is a long meeting. Amazing to have a symphony ticket delivered out of the blue. Lucky wife indeed!

Curly, good job getting through the long day helping your daughter pack.

Karen, two airport trips in one day? You are a good friend.

I hope all is well with our Beth, Onebyone, and Maryann.

bethturnaround 05-07-2019 12:58 AM

Hey everyone,

So, it's been a rough few weeks for me. But I'm catching myself and that's a good thing.

I read a short little PDF today about habits for weight loss and one of them was water. There are others, but one at a time--and my plan is to get back to drinking 64 oz of water a day (or more). Today I managed that.

The next thing is to get back to walking now that the weather is good and my knee is doing well. Tomorrow I go into the office which means a nice walk from the train to the office. Then I'll have dinner with DD (who moved out this weekend) and we're going to see Chicago: the Musical.


BillBlueEyes 05-07-2019 06:52 AM

Tuesday - National Teacher's Day
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Walk, CREDIT moi, to the library just before it closed at 8pm. I did have to stop at the library, but my real reason to be out was to check out a nearby house that had been demolished in a few hours in the afternoon. It's a house that I can see from one of our kitchen windows. It's going just so a developer can build a more modern house in the same spot. The house was functional - raised a family then had tenants for a decade or so. Its only problem is that it was a modest house. Prices are steep around here so modest houses are not in vogue. Feels like a desecration to tear down a working house. I feel my curmudgeon arising, LOL.

Eating was on plan, CREDIT moi. When the urge to eat got large I had a bowl of blueberries. One can never eat too many blueberries. During the break in my class, I felt an overwhelming need to go to the vending machines and buy an ABSOLUTELY necessary package of M&Ms. I didn't. Apparently, they weren't as absolutely necessary as my brain insisted. Might have been driven because I had a fifteen minute presentation to give after the break. It went well - lots of questions, counter opinions, and push back. Kinda fun.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Waving back toward a conference somewhere - perhaps Paris or Istanbul. Yep, packing for a trip is not an easy time.

Karen (karenrn) - You've made me put Amazing Grace on my list - thanks. (WARNING - watching that trailer will make your spine tingle.) Sounds like you run an airport shuttle service.

curlyjax - Super Kudos for playing the role of patient parent when that's what was called for. I imagine a college dining hall would be a challenge when all about you young adults were consuming mounds of food.

Beth (bethturnaround) - Sending supportive thoughts for a difficult time. Maybe cheer up with All That Jazz from Chicago: the Musical.

Penny. - Just amazing - you did a Kentucky themed meal plan during Kentucky derby week. And now a Mexican meal plan during the week of Cinco de Mayo. This homeschooling invades everything.

Readers -

day 27 Master the Seven Question Technique
Over time, as you practice these ideas
again and again, you'll begin to automatically
respond to your sabotaging thoughts,

even without Response Cards.
Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), Pg 199.

maryann 05-07-2019 10:31 AM

Good Morning, caught up on posts but no time to respond this morning. Out of town for a family wedding and returned to a busy week. DH was home inexplicably this morning so Mu morning routine was disrupted. Oh well. Food is logged. No sweets at work. Big art day with and attempt at print making.

Have a good.

gardenerjoy 05-07-2019 11:12 AM

I'm pleased that I brought things to a better place in the last two weeks. We're leaving for a conference today. My plan is yogurt & fruit & granola for breakfast, a salad for lunch, a salad for supper, and minimal snacks. Since everything has more calories when I eat out than when I eat at home, I suspect that's about what I need for maintenance or, perhaps, a little weight loss.

In the past, on trips, I've started off strong and let things slip at the end. Since the last day of our trip is also my birthday, that's an even stronger possibility. I'm reminding myself that commercial baked goods, including cake, make me feel icky. It's not worth it. I'd rather stick to my plan and come home with my new better habits still intact.

Exercise: +10, 190/1100 minutes for May

BillBlueEyes: LOL. The conference is twenty minutes away. We're making it a treat and cutting down on commute time (especially for the first session that starts at 8am tomorrow) by staying at a fancy hotel with an attached casino. We'll enjoy the amenities, including an indoor/outdoor pool -- all paid for by gambling money -- while not partaking in the gambling ourselves.

Penny. 05-07-2019 11:13 AM

Good morning!

Yesterday was on plan and weight is holding. I skipped gym class because my friend cancelled and I was still slowly cooking until late, with lots of breaks. Dragging!

Beth, good luck with your water goal today.

Bill, credit for talking yourself out of the snack, and for doing your presentation.

Maryann, lol at dh interrupting your morning routine. My daughter is up unusually early trying to talk through my morning routine. Coffee, breakfast, and 3FC are my meditation. Let me do!

Joy, early happy birthday to you! That's how travel eating goes for me too. It's hard not to indulge in the celebration of it all.

karenrn 05-07-2019 11:58 AM

Good morning coaches,
I'm in between airport runs. I have taken my houseguest and will leave in about an hour to take my other friend and her husband who will be returning to MN for the next 6 months. It's actually raining off and on here this morning which we can always use. Yesterday food was on plan except for the addition of one drink (the only one that was left). I'm going to try to stick to no alcohol to get a little weight loss underway again. I don't have any social events except book club on Monday, and I don't ever drink at book club. I don't have any company coming either. Today is going to be a planning day. I need to have a list of things to do over the summer. I did sign up for a couple of classes that will be on Mondays and Fridays in June. I am even going to make a list of programs I want to watch if I'm bored during the day since dh isn't much for watching anything but news and sports. I also saw previews of several movies I'd like to see when they come out, including Woodstock, Pavarotti and Maiden to name a few. I'm so glad there are some that look good, at least to me. Amazing Grace was good, but honestly I was glad it wasn't any longer.
Penny You are really doing a lot of creative cooking. I'm going to have to change it up around here a bit.
GardenerJoy Happy Birthday . . almost. Enjoy the weekend in the fancy hotel.
Maryann Too bad you don't have Onebyone there to help with the print making.
Bill Good job leaving those M & M's in the vending machine. I'm looking forward to my backpacking later this summer when I can eat some of those things and not have it last on my hips.
Beth I finally got started back with the water yesterday. I put it on my plan and told myself I needed to do it. The bad part was I drank the last liter after dinner. My sleep was disturbed many times for trips to the bathroom. That reminds me, I had better go get my water.
Curlyjax I'm sorry you're going through a rough time. Grief is hard. How did your eye appointment go?

Well, I guess that's about it for today. I must say I enjoyed my friends visit and now I'm ready to get thinking about plans for summer.

bethturnaround 05-08-2019 12:55 AM

Hi everyone!

Chicago The Musical was a great production--all strong performances. We both really enjoyed it. I saw a college production a few years ago; DD hadn't seen it before but knew some of the music. We had dinner at a salad place where you pick your ingredients and they make the salad for you to order. I made good choices on my order--and it was delicious. I'd definitely go there again! One downside of a lighter dinner and a late night is that I'm going to bed hungry, but as we all know, going to bed hungry won't hurt me any. I can eat in the morning :-)

Food was totally on track today. I'm doing mostly products again--so 3 products and then a really good and healthy dinner. I drank lots of water. I emptied my 22 oz water bottle 4 times today. I'd have had more if I'd had water at the theater or on the train on the way home, but at least I didn't have to wait in line at intermission!

I even got some good walking in today--walked to my office, walked to dinner, walked to a store (errand with DD) and then to the theater, and then back to the train station. It felt good to be moving--I have to remember that I like that feeling.

G'night all!


BillBlueEyes 05-08-2019 05:21 AM

Wednesday - Beatles release "Let it Be" album (1970)
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Last class on the cell led to a discussion about the rejection of science by some in the general public - particularly those who insist that there is no evidence that the earth is not flat. There appears to be an increasingly vocal group who believe that whatever they choose to believe is better than peer-reviewed scientific research. Hope that this is a passing trend.

Eating was on plan, CREDIT moi, with no snacks to set me back. After dinner I had some emails to write that I was procrastinating about. I finally just did them. Certainly feel better having done them than not having done them. Yay for occasionally getting things right.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Getting past the FREE breakfast at hotels is a great start for the day.

maryann - LOL at the unexpected appearance of your DH. When that happens around here, I act startled as if I'd never met DW before.

Karen (karenrn) - LOL at "but honestly I was glad it wasn't any longer."

Beth (bethturnaround) - Yay for a day with lots of walking.

Penny. - Thanks for the reminder that a house full of people requires a lot of cooking.

Readers -

day 27 Master the Seven Question Technique
Once I accept the fact that I have to monitor my
eating in this way, dieting will be easier.
Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), Pg 203.

maryann 05-08-2019 10:07 AM

Yesterday was off. The first class of printmaking bordered on chaos and I barked at students. I later apologized but felt bad about myself all day. Teaching is 95 percent planning and review. Second class was smooth and no barking. Credit.

My self chastisement somehow made my diving into sweets at work legitimize. It got ugly as I scraped of frosting of a cake in a faculty room. I hope I have hit a bottom with sugar. I have come up with a new attempt. I will start planning food for 24 hours after lunch. I keep derailing in the evening so maybe starting fresh every late afternoon will help me stay on track. Willingness is the key.

Beth: We have tickets for Hamilton in Chicago in June. Super excited.
Karen: I am looking forward to planning a summer with an open calendar for the first time ever.

Glad you are all here and checking in.

karenrn 05-08-2019 11:34 AM

Good morning coaches,

Just got back from my hike. I was heading up to Bell Pass when it started raining of all things. I turned around and did a different loop which didn't take me quite as far out in case it really poured. It wasn't cold, but would have been to be soaking wet for long. I got 2 hours and 15 minutes in without quite as much elevation gain. I'll get out there again tomorrow. Food was on plan yesterday and weight is heading in the right direction. Funny how that happens. I don't have any big plans for today, but will continue with some things around the house and planning. I'm rereading a book about the John Muir Trail that is very useful for planning specific spots to camp etc.

Maryann Sweets are difficult for me many times too. I can keep white sugar in the house without a problem, but even brown sugar is too tempting. Luckily I am forgetting about the dates that are way high in a kitchen cabinet. Do you have a list of possibilities formulating for your summer time?
Bill You are sure right about the increasingly vocal group who believes whatever they choose to. My pet peeve is about the people on the different FB hiking groups that tell us all what works for altitude acclimatization but have no interest in the research.
Beth Congratulations on the good day with exercise too. The musical sounds great. I need to buy tickets occasionally since I always love it when I go.

Have a good day everybody!

Penny. 05-08-2019 12:06 PM

Good morning!

Yesterday was on plan and weight is holding.

Beth, I'm glad it was a great day out with your daughter. The salad place sounds great!

Karen, credit for getting your hike in.

Bill, Have a great day with the DGD!

Maryann, I'm sure the kids got a lot out of your print making class. I loved that stuff!

bethturnaround 05-09-2019 12:17 AM

Hi everyone!

I've had a good day--all products, lots of water. I got a lot done this evening, but didn't get in a walk. I give myself credit for food and water, though, as well as many accomplishments--I made a minor dent in a very long to-do list. (Actually it's a Kanban board, but I'm a bit of a geek--ordinary to-do lists aren't good enough for me)

Tomorrow I'm planning a similar day--but will make myself go for a walk--even if it's only 10 minutes--just getting out and starting will be a good idea. So, food plan is 5 products. Exercise plan is to walk for 10 minutes after finishing work. Water plan is to refill and finish my water bottle for every product.

Personals do make a difference in how well I do, so I'm going to work on doing personals several times per week.

Penny: You weight is holding, you say, but the numbers show you're getting really close to goal!

karenrn: No airport runs today? Rain is always surprising in Arizona (unless it's monsoon season). I remember how surprised I was when a planned hike was cancelled due to rain--I think it only happened once the entire time I lived in Tucson. We weren't used to making "rain plans". We go to a lot of theater. DD and I have discovered $25 on the 25th where Broadway in Chicago sells $25 tickets on the 25th of the month. If you buy from Ticketmaster on the 25th the fees are outrageous, but DD works across the street from the box office and there are no ticket fees when purchased at the box office.

maryann: I'm sorry yesterday was a rough day. I hope today was better. Hamiltonis amazing. We've seen it 3 times :-). I still enter the ticket lottery almost every day anyway--a 4th time would be just fine with me!

BillBlueEyes: Credit for no snacks. Do you find that you don't need to eat between lunch and dinner? If I eat a reasonable (meaning not big) lunch, I do need a snack about 3:00.

G'night all!


BillBlueEyes 05-09-2019 07:10 AM

Thursday - Lincoln Cathedral consecrated (1092 , Lincoln, England)
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Exercise was chase the (3.5 yo) DGD day, CREDIT moi. She converted walking to the subway stations into adventures. Each flower had to be examined, then named by DW, then repeated by the DGD. She found a used battery in a curbside garden; picked it up; said "This shouldn't be here." Then she picked up a crushed plastic water bottle. Then a crushed bottle cap. Then she'd drop one or the other and pick them all up again - until we, finally, made it to a public trash barrel and public recycling barrel. Much work spent sorting out what went into each. To get to the Boston Children's Museum, we have to walk past the Boston Federal Reserve Bank. Its driveways are protected by the most ferocious gate crossing barriers that I've ever seen. We were so enamored that an officer had to come over and ask us to stand aside so that a truck could leave. Got to see a steel-web gate lowered into slits in the pavement. Decided right then and there not to rob the place.

We ate lunch at a table on a pier overlooking Boston Harbor. She looked at the map of the tall office buildings across the inlet, then pointed out each building in real life that corresponded to the map. Walked past The Barking Crab restaurant whose sign said "No Parking Offered." On the waterfront, there's no room for cars. The DGD fed the edges of her peanut butter sandwich to pigeons. Pigeons who have much experience with little girls chasing them so they fly just before being caught. I count on their expertise - I have no desire to deal with the DGD catching a pigeon. Might mean a trip to the hospital emergency room. My own eating was 100% on plan, CREDIT moi.

maryann - Yep, sugar is just evil. Congrats for getting that second printing class under control.

Karen (karenrn) - Yay for rain in Arizona! I can imagine that Internet-Experts on altitude acclimation are difficult to deal with. Did you read that DNA gathered from the latest fossils of the Denisovans showed them to have the gene that modern Tibetans have that improves oxygen uptake? Wouldn't it be great to have that gene.

Beth (bethturnaround) - $25 tickets is just terrific. Will you go again? Yes, it's the gap between lunch and dinner that has the strongest calls to nibble snacks. I eat lunch early since I eat breakfast early, but that's just rationalization, not justification. When Sugar Snaps are in season, I grab a handful of those and consider it clean eating.

Penny. - On plan is always Kudos worthy.

Readers -

day 28 Get Ready to Weigh In

Tomorrow marks the end of your second week of dieting. When you get up in the morning, step on the scale. Wear the same weight clothing as you wore last week. Calculate your change in weight, add a new dot on your weight-loss graph, and connect the dots.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), Pg 204.

curlyjax 05-09-2019 07:28 AM

Finally feeling better. I had a chat with my man friend and felt sad afterwards. I want more of a relationship and he doesn't. I was looking forward to having a nice romantic weekend away in the summer. however he still wants to be friends...and maybe occasional "benefits" :) Still its good to know where things stand and I feel better now.
I remind myself today that I AM strong and I DO have self control with my thoughts and actions.
The eye doc exam went well and my eyes are healthy thank goodness! It's normal to get more light sensitive as you age, good to know.
Today I am going to work and then picking up DD and the rest of her stuff. Going to be a long day but at least we've dealt with some of the stuff.
I called in sick the other day so I could take a day to putter around and relax. And I got a massage yesterday. I am good to go!
Karen- so funny about our weather differences. We have had so much rain here. It does make everything beautiful and green.
Beth- glad you're feeling better too!

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