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gardenerjoy 05-04-2019 10:11 AM

Quick post on a busy day. I have a plan. I woke up hungry, but managed to put breakfast off until late which will help me follow the rest of the plan, especially if it turns out to be a hungry day.

I understand Saturday's energy flow because it happens week after week. A big extroverted activity at mid-day leaves me drained in the afternoon. So, I have things on this afternoon's list that are productive but can be done while binge-watching streamed shows.

Exercise: +40, 100/1100 minutes for May

curlyjax: Sending warm and comforting thoughts your way. Allowing yourself time and space to grieve is so important. And so is, when the time is right, allowing time and space for other things. It's great that you managed all those things in one post and have a plan for getting it all into one day.

Penny. 05-04-2019 11:12 AM

Good morning!

Yesterday was overbudget with a meal and dessert out, and weight is up.

Karen, have a nice visit with your friend.

Bill, we really enjoyed the movie too! Kudos for keeping out of the snacks.

Curly, Have a nice lunch with your friend. I'm sorry the weight of life is heavy right now.

Joy, you're dodging these eating traps left and right. Credit for planning ahead.

BillBlueEyes 05-05-2019 07:07 AM

Sunday - Cinco de Mayo (1862, Mexican army defeated French army at Puebla)
Diet Coaches/Buddies - At a potluck dinner, I had exactly one plate, CREDIT moi. I did have the Boston Creme Pie passed around for dessert. It's my favorite pie that I get to have about once a year. So it was an on plan day. The scale jiggled a few pounds lower in honor of one appropriate meal. I celebrate knowing that it might jiggle a few pounds up in response to one handful of peanuts.

We watched a 1937 movie, Nothing Sacred. There was one African-American character who was a caricature of all the racist stereotypes from last century in the US - even though Ben Hecht wrote the screenplay. I was shocked at how easily I saw the role because that's the way it always was in the movies when I was a kid. I have to find me a good book that tells me the timeline when African-Americans became people in the movies. My life at home is consumed by a plumbing leak that I can't stop. It's just a drip but I may have to call a plumber because I can't make it go away. Doesn't help that I have to lie on my back and reach over my head.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Smart to have things that you can do while binge watching.

curlyjax - Sending supportive thoughts for all the stress about losses. And stress about the present. You're carrying a lot; hope you can find a way to cut yourself some slack.

Penny. - Eating out is always a challenge.

Readers -

day 27 Master the Seven Question Technique

How to Make Your Cards

As you look through your notebook and examine your common sabotaging thoughts, reflect on each one by asking yourself, What do I wish I could remember the next time I have this thought?

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), Pg 199.

curlyjax 05-05-2019 07:57 AM

Thanks for all the support coaches! Feeling better today. My lunch with former co-worker was good. She's had some troubles herself and it does help to know you're not the only one struggling. Although I came home sleepy, I forced myself to move some furniture around with the help of DS, in prep for it becoming a college dumping ground. Having an external deadline helped, since it needed to be done by today. DS spent the night at a friends so i was able to blast my own music which kept me going.
Also I did buy myself a treat at the store but dumped half of the portion out at the trash can there, to limit myself.
I need to run, its going to be a busy day helping pack up DD stuff. She doesn't come home until the end of the week but we need to get the bulk out now, to make it much easier when she moves out. If the college wanted to make move out smoother, they shouldn't schedule exams on the last day you're allowed to be in the dorms.

gardenerjoy 05-05-2019 10:16 AM

Yesterday went mostly according to plan. Good enough.

Today's challenge is some awkward scheduling around lunch, but I've got a plan that I think will make it work.

We're going out of town on Tuesday and I have some anxiety about not feeling as ready as I would like. Here's my reminder that eating does not help me write a packing list, make a schedule, or figure out logistics.

Exercise: +35, 135/1100 minutes for May

Penny. 05-05-2019 10:38 AM

Good morning!

Yesterday was on plan and weight is holding. I did an extra Saturday cycling class at the gym, which puts me at four gym workouts and a small hike for the week.

Every time the drums come down from the attic, I am amazed by the skill advancement that happens. He's now figuring out the drum tabs for entire songs and my other son is accompanying on guitar. Next level tunes happening in my living room!

Bill, kudos for the weightloss. Have you seen the old movie Imitation of Life? I had read somewhere it was required watching in some black families to break it to the kids the unfortunate race dynamics in our country. It highlights race, gender and class issues in the context of the 50s.

Curly, cranking up the tunes in a house all to yourself sounds pretty nice. Credit for dumping out half of the treat before indulging.

BillBlueEyes 05-06-2019 04:58 AM

Monday - World's Fair opens with new Eiffel Tower as entrance arch (1889, Paris)
Diet Coaches/Buddies - It was a long day as I had to make a presentation at a meeting where I'm a member. A 2.5 hour meeting! When I become Czar, all meetings will be limited to sixty minutes - the longest duration that the human mind can endure while staying on subject.

Dinner was the third serving of a dish cooked days earlier that reheats well. We seldom get three meals from one episode of cooking, but did with this one because we're both a tad busy. While I was out saving the world, DW attend Mozart's Requiem by the Handel and Haydn Society. I was bright green jealous that my meeting prevented me from being able to go. But it turns out that my meeting saved my marriage. A neighbor had dropped by with one extra ticket that she had - only one of us could go! Since I was busy, DW grabbed it. If I hadn't been busy, it would have been difficult to decide which one of us went since I had answered the door and received the ticket. Maybe long marriages only happen because of good luck like this.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Yep, eating doesn't seem to help with all the activities that it's called upon to work with. 'Cept maybe hunger.

curlyjax - LOL at "becoming a college dumping ground." I do remember that experience when the returning kids expects the house to be EXACTLY as they left it. Kudos for dumping half that treat.

Penny. - The wiki description of Imitation of Life makes your points. I also watched the movie trailer for a glimpse of Lana Turner in her 1959 hairdo and Mahalia Jackson. Thanks for sending me off to see that. Kudos for four gym workouts for the week.

Readers -

day 27 Master the Seven Question Technique

How to Make Your Cards

Write down your response using the technique below. Not all questions will apply to every sabotaging thought, but write down responses to the ones that do.

The Seven Question Technique
  1. What kind of thinking error could I be making?
  2. What evidence is there that this thought might not be true (or not completely true)?
  3. Is there an alternative explanation or another way of viewing this?
  4. What is the most realistic outcome of this situation?
  5. What is the effect of my believing this thought and what could be the effect of changing my thinking?
  6. What would I tell (a close friend or family member) if he/she were in this situation and had this thought?
  7. What should I do now?

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), Pg 199.

curlyjax 05-06-2019 07:25 AM

Looong day yesterday, I left the house at 10 and got back at 7, including almost 4 hours driving. It took her forever to pack and she micromanages everything. I held it together and was patient the majority of the time with DD so I'm proud of myself for that, even if I did eat way too much free food at the dining hall. The college is known for great food, and they have lovely desserts.
Todays excitement is seeing a new eye doc.I feel like my eyes are more sensitive to light than they used to be, so I want to get them checked out. Also I think i'm ready for a different style of eyeglasses, we'll see what happens with that.
Joy-I get trip anxiety too. Good job remembering food doesn't help.
Penny- Great job with exercise. You really have your own house band!
Bill-chuckle over one of the secrets to a long marriage!

karenrn 05-06-2019 10:10 AM

Good morning coaches,

Another quick post. Food has been a bit over what I should have, but at least we have been exercising most days. Today we're going to see Amazing Grace, the Aretha Franklin movie. Tomorrow morning I'll take one friend to the airport at 7:30 and then come back and get another friend and her husband for a 9:30 trip to the airport. She has been giving me and my friend MahJongg lessons, so a little trip to the airport is the least I can do. After tomorrow it will be very quiet around here and I will certainly have time for personals.

gardenerjoy 05-06-2019 10:38 AM

I have a long list! We're leaving for a conference tomorrow. It's an easier trip than many I've taken, so that's my excuse for not being more prepared by now. But, I might have been a little overly confident about how much I could do to get ready in the last day and a half before we leave. Oh well, it's going to happen, whether I'm ready or not. So, I'll just keep plugging along on this list and see how much gets done.

I wrote a food plan. A danger on a day like today is to say "I'm too busy to pay attention to food." And, then I end up eating completely inappropriate things at completely inappropriate times -- and, often, taking longer to do it than I would have if I'd just planned something easy and normal.

Exercise: +45, 180/1100 minutes for May

Penny. 05-06-2019 12:16 PM

Good morning!

Yesterday was on plan and weight is holding.

Last week's Kentucky themed meal plan is over and I still have the rest of this week's Mexican themed meal plan to prep. It all looks yum.

Joy, good luck getting through your list and still eating mindfully. You've got this!

Bill, that is a long meeting. Amazing to have a symphony ticket delivered out of the blue. Lucky wife indeed!

Curly, good job getting through the long day helping your daughter pack.

Karen, two airport trips in one day? You are a good friend.

I hope all is well with our Beth, Onebyone, and Maryann.

bethturnaround 05-07-2019 12:58 AM

Hey everyone,

So, it's been a rough few weeks for me. But I'm catching myself and that's a good thing.

I read a short little PDF today about habits for weight loss and one of them was water. There are others, but one at a time--and my plan is to get back to drinking 64 oz of water a day (or more). Today I managed that.

The next thing is to get back to walking now that the weather is good and my knee is doing well. Tomorrow I go into the office which means a nice walk from the train to the office. Then I'll have dinner with DD (who moved out this weekend) and we're going to see Chicago: the Musical.


BillBlueEyes 05-07-2019 06:52 AM

Tuesday - National Teacher's Day
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Walk, CREDIT moi, to the library just before it closed at 8pm. I did have to stop at the library, but my real reason to be out was to check out a nearby house that had been demolished in a few hours in the afternoon. It's a house that I can see from one of our kitchen windows. It's going just so a developer can build a more modern house in the same spot. The house was functional - raised a family then had tenants for a decade or so. Its only problem is that it was a modest house. Prices are steep around here so modest houses are not in vogue. Feels like a desecration to tear down a working house. I feel my curmudgeon arising, LOL.

Eating was on plan, CREDIT moi. When the urge to eat got large I had a bowl of blueberries. One can never eat too many blueberries. During the break in my class, I felt an overwhelming need to go to the vending machines and buy an ABSOLUTELY necessary package of M&Ms. I didn't. Apparently, they weren't as absolutely necessary as my brain insisted. Might have been driven because I had a fifteen minute presentation to give after the break. It went well - lots of questions, counter opinions, and push back. Kinda fun.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Waving back toward a conference somewhere - perhaps Paris or Istanbul. Yep, packing for a trip is not an easy time.

Karen (karenrn) - You've made me put Amazing Grace on my list - thanks. (WARNING - watching that trailer will make your spine tingle.) Sounds like you run an airport shuttle service.

curlyjax - Super Kudos for playing the role of patient parent when that's what was called for. I imagine a college dining hall would be a challenge when all about you young adults were consuming mounds of food.

Beth (bethturnaround) - Sending supportive thoughts for a difficult time. Maybe cheer up with All That Jazz from Chicago: the Musical.

Penny. - Just amazing - you did a Kentucky themed meal plan during Kentucky derby week. And now a Mexican meal plan during the week of Cinco de Mayo. This homeschooling invades everything.

Readers -

day 27 Master the Seven Question Technique
Over time, as you practice these ideas
again and again, you'll begin to automatically
respond to your sabotaging thoughts,

even without Response Cards.
Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), Pg 199.

maryann 05-07-2019 10:31 AM

Good Morning, caught up on posts but no time to respond this morning. Out of town for a family wedding and returned to a busy week. DH was home inexplicably this morning so Mu morning routine was disrupted. Oh well. Food is logged. No sweets at work. Big art day with and attempt at print making.

Have a good.

gardenerjoy 05-07-2019 11:12 AM

I'm pleased that I brought things to a better place in the last two weeks. We're leaving for a conference today. My plan is yogurt & fruit & granola for breakfast, a salad for lunch, a salad for supper, and minimal snacks. Since everything has more calories when I eat out than when I eat at home, I suspect that's about what I need for maintenance or, perhaps, a little weight loss.

In the past, on trips, I've started off strong and let things slip at the end. Since the last day of our trip is also my birthday, that's an even stronger possibility. I'm reminding myself that commercial baked goods, including cake, make me feel icky. It's not worth it. I'd rather stick to my plan and come home with my new better habits still intact.

Exercise: +10, 190/1100 minutes for May

BillBlueEyes: LOL. The conference is twenty minutes away. We're making it a treat and cutting down on commute time (especially for the first session that starts at 8am tomorrow) by staying at a fancy hotel with an attached casino. We'll enjoy the amenities, including an indoor/outdoor pool -- all paid for by gambling money -- while not partaking in the gambling ourselves.

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