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Lexxiss 12-08-2015 07:06 AM

Hi Coaches!

I wanted to pop in and say hello. I have not forgotten any of you and work hard to remain mindful of my Beck skills and my desire to remain healthy during this time in my life where it is very difficult to fit one more thing in. I read everyday and have every intention of remaining close to you all. Yesterday morning I had planned time to sit down and connect with you all....then came the phone call at 5:45 am. My mom wanted me to stop over before work. When I asked how I could help she indicated she had a natural gas leak in her garage. I calmly stated that perhaps I should come check "Now". LOL. Fortunately, there was not a gas leak....but so go my days. I find small bits of time for "me" and lots of time for gratitude for my willingness to continue walking my path of health. Gotta run....travel today after work for my friends chemotherapy tomorrow.

I miss being an active participant here and I do continue to post every day in the SBD thread.

Carry on!

karenrn 12-08-2015 08:18 AM

Good morning coaches,

I did my 10 miles loop hike yesterday and felt good, credit. Food was well within calories since I earned so many extra, credit. I wanted a little something more after dinner, but decided not to have it. I was hoping the scale would be down this morning, but I guess it will take more than a day.

I typed up a chart on the computer yesterday and printed it off and put it on the refer. It lists about 8 things I want to do each day and a spot for a check mark. I did do my shoulder exercises, planks, some Christmas cards and Spanish study. I didn't get to any housework yesterday, but should have more time today because my exercise is just the class at the Y. Anyway, I feel good about the chart and will make adjustments each week.

Lexxis Good to see you and hope things settle down a bit for you one of these days.

Bill I can't imagine that you wouldn't enjoy audiobooks. Of course I always think everyone will like what I like. Yesterday I started listening to The Boston Girl and am enjoying it very much. I still enjoy the scenery of my hikes, but it helps me go miles further than I might otherwise.

SuzLen Thinking of you and your MRI today. I hope they find what is causing the problem and that it can be fixed easily and soon.

Nationalparker Oh wouldn't it be nice to have treats often and still lose weight. I have to be more rigid with myself that I would like because once I have something sweet it always tastes like I should have more. My problem child right now is the beer. I need to remember that it should only be a treat too. My only saving grace is that I have lots of time to burn extra calories with hiking.

Curlyjax Oh I hope you don't get my funk. I still feel like I'm getting out of it. This is a difficult time of the year. Good job posting to distract yourself from the donuts. I think there should be a law that treats not be brought to the workplace.

GardenerJoy I'll have to look at the ap you mentioned. I know I'm not as computer literate as you are though. Hey anything that works.

gardenerjoy 12-08-2015 09:18 AM

I completed my to do list yesterday. Obviously, ToDoist is a miracle worker. (Or maybe it's the shiny newness that did it for me).

Morning meeting at Panera this morning. I'm off to eat breakfast from my own kitchen so that I'll only have tea at the meeting. That works well for me.

On audio books: I've tried and failed to like them. I read so much faster that I get impatient for the story to move. I put podcasts from NPR and the BBC on my phone to listen to while I'm working in the kitchen or when I walk alone.

WI: +0.4 kg, Exercise: +40 270/1200 minutes for December, Food: 100% op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

maryann 12-08-2015 12:52 PM

Good Morning, Coaches.

First non-phone check in for sometime. My days continue to be fraught with high emotion both pleasant and unpleasant. I think that I can now admit I am smack in an anxiety/depression cycle that is scary for both my family and me. This is not unusual for December, I must say. It is my bday month, typically family orientated, and filled with school craziness as the kiddos express their own anxieties from their home lives.

What to do. I am not sure. DH and I will go to our counselor today even though it is an hour each way. It is hard not to feel that that the appt. is a sign of defeat. "I should have this by now." But my symptoms seem to worsen. Maybe that is age. In any case, we will go. At this stage in the game I don't wait to "feel" like it is the right thing. i just do what I know has been helpful in the past. It is probably not great that I have three "mother" visits this week. Although I love her and am so grateful she is sober, I am still sensitive to the years i was with her when she was drunk and critical.I want our relationship to be new but I struggle against trusting her too much, and I get down on myself for that as well.

And as for food. I am three pounds above ticker. Putting one step in front of the other. Food is in MFP but not planned for the rest of the meals. I have splurged on veggies that are cleaned, cut and in steamer packs. These can be my meals at school. Simple, healthy and worth the extra money. Credit. I dream of exercising but literary have NOT one minute until Friday (if I decide not to work extra). Day of holy obligation so DS and I went to early moment mass. He gets such joy from this. He has a very strong calling at such a young age. He is beautiful to watch. I feel my faith strengthen through him. So there is the silver lining.

Suzlen: My MRI is in two weeks. Good luck. Hopefully we will both be back exercising by the end of the month.

gardenerjoy: I will check out Todoist.

Nationalparker: You gave me more for which to be grateful. I'll have three weeks vacation this holiday. I don't want to take it for granted.

Wave to all.

howyoulose 12-08-2015 04:40 PM

nationalparker - kudos for dressingup and making yourself pretty. it's always good to do that for yourself. I hope you get your vacation.

karenrn - that sounds like an awesome hike! so amazing! good for you for staying on plan! credit for all that hiking!

suzlen - starting back at square one is always a good idea I find. I've done it a few times now and I'm on day six of the pink work book for the fifth time it feels like in the last 30 days or so but it seems to be sticking this time- my advice is don't give up. It'll stick eventually if it doesn't the first few times.

maryann - emotionally loaded commitments always seem to pile on all at once don't they?

billblueyes - definite credit for that walk and staying on plan! yay!

curlyjax - no problem! it's honestly stopped me more times than I can count. I'm always tempted to turn them off but I always say just keep them on, just in case.

nationalparker - ugh I've had those days where I feel the exact same. I get exactly what you're saying. Some days I can stay exactly on plan and others I'm just devouring everything in sight (it feels like). I feel like one day at least deserves credit doesn't it? If you don't give yourself credit you're just going to feel discouraged all the time right?

Today is my fiancι and I's two year anniversary thus we are going out for dinner. I'm going to be firm and stick to my guns with a salad even though I know he's going to want to split a pizza. He said as much already.

I'm officially down ten pounds since the 15th of November, around when I started posting again. My work pants feel loose again, and my work belt is officially too big (I refuse to buy a new one so I'm going to have to put another hole in it or something). I was on the second or third hole before now I'm on the last and my pants are still falling down a bit. Credit for making progress.

Now in actuality: the body fat percentage on my scale has stayed the same. I feel like I've made no progress what so ever and in actuality I feel like I weight exactly what I weighed before. I have not started working out I've just been eating better and I feel like I've done absolutely nothing. it's all very discouraging and I honestly want to give up. Credit for realizing I'm being irrational. But I honestly feel like there's no way around my thinking right now. I realize my thinking is erred but I have no idea how to fix this thinking at the moment. I feel like if I don't see progress on a body fat percentage and pounds I'm not doing anything, even though there is actual proof in the way my clothes fit (even the jeans I'm wearing now aren't as tight!)

HELP.

onebyone 12-08-2015 05:06 PM

Looking forward to the Solstice.
 
Coaches:

Sitting here typing this you in the dying of the light. 4:41pm. It'll be pitch black when I hop in the car to go get DH at work in about a half an hour.

My depression and anxiety hit an upper limit last night. I was fretting and overeating and could not bring myself to email that other sister of mine and DH was off with the co-workers for Monday Night Football at the Tilted Kilt (sports bar/young maidens serving booze in short kilts and busting out of their blouses type place). I wondered whether I would really go to the painting group xmas party and decided I would even though I felt I would cry or run out of there at the drop of a hat. I did not dress up I just went and was one of 2 people not dressed up. I felt like I disrespected the group but I did bring a tray of savoury dishes so I did participate in that. I missed out on my doorprize as I was upstairs chatting with someone new to me while my doorprize ticket was drawn. I didn't claim it so it went into the pot. Sigh. As I learned I couldn't claim it the guy I was talking to won. He looked at me and said "oh I made it just in time." Sigh. Anyway in the end I was glad I opted for seeing people. My mood got better and I got to spill my guts to a member who helped me feel better and talked to another member who is busy trying to push his art along in ways that will not be popular and will net him no financial reward. Stuff he just needs to do. So, he need to do it. Everytime my osteoarthritis in that one small spot at the base of my right thumb flares up I am reminded I also need to get to it and to not wast however many more times that joint will work in the way I need it to to get my stuff done. Time for some types of work is passing. I can no longer waste it.

Foodwise I am getting back on track today. No more sweets. I am having bread though as I cooked a corned beef and we'll have sandwiches for supper.
2 slices. Is ok. I woke up feeling really sick this morning. I was sure it was a food hangover after all my indulging of sweet and neglect of veggies. Not good. Happy I am not doing that today and the cravings are finally gone today * touch wood* I've probably wrecked my weekly weighin which I won't get to come to think of it as I am at my last show and sale at that time. I'll just weighin here at home and see where I am at.

Time to go.

gardenerjoy just downloaded Todoist. Looks interesting but they never look intuitive to me these apps. I'll have to play around with it a bit but I like the reminders and the goal setting. Very Beck. Could probably use it as an ARC card reminder as well. Thanks for the suggestion

BillBlueEyes I have also seen the movie Unbroken. It was very intense for me. I almost lost it at the end with the last time he got imprisoned. My grandfather walked his way from Russia back to Hungary during WWI and picked up about 8 languages along the way. He and a friend did not trust the locals saying they would be freed they just had to gather in the town square. Instead they hid in a hayloft watching as his fellow soldiers were not freed but executed. Good instincts. He had a scar on the bridge of his nose that was from a sabre blow. I am sure these exact same situations and circumstances are happening right now somewhere in the world 100 years later.

Bye everyone :wave:

SuzLen 12-08-2015 08:13 PM

Hello Coaches,

Loopy Lou here, reporting that I have bulging discs and am on new pain meds. They finally arrived from the pharmacy at 2:00 after a day of intense pain that I was sweaty, faint, and nauseous. DH drove me home and I crashed for two hours. I am still a bit shaky, but the pain has subsided.

Apparently I am not a good candidate for MRIs (we had to restart three times). LOL the tech guy was getting frustrated and I felt like I was having a panic attack.

Needless to say, it was a long day at school :-)

Strange that I went from running and lifting weights to laying on the couch in pain in what seems overnight. Aging is the pits.

They want me to go to a neurosurgeon, I am opting for chiro and PT first.

Sending my best wishes to you all - stay healthy and happy!

nationalparker 12-08-2015 11:15 PM

Same story, different day. I could have done better. I could have done worse. DH and I tackled some house deed stuff at lunch that took longer than expected but everyone we dealt with at the govt offices was very friendly. I'll write a letter - they probably don't care, but I appreciated the kind, attentive service.

I need to do a marketing run but was trying to use up a lot of our stuff and now we're close to not having things that "go" ... and few veggies. Tonight was peas, bowtie pasta and parm, along with medallions of turkey sausage. More carbs than needed but serving was reasonable. DH and I continue to eat by candlelight. I asked him if he wanted the lights on the dimmest setting ... No, no - he's enjoying it as well. Tomorrow will roast onions and carrots. I need to use up a red onion, so it'll look odd, but taste fine.

Happy Anniversary, HowYouLose! Enjoy whatever you decide on at your celebratory meal. Will carve out personals time in the morning.

BillBlueEyes 12-09-2015 06:23 AM

Wednesday - Grace Hopper born (New York City, 1906)
 
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Did a members' tour of the basement Herpetology collection of a natural history museum. So cool. They have zillions of lizards in jars for study. The basement is reserved for scholars except for this once a year tour for members. While there, we bought some geodes for presents for a 9 year old niece who asked for them. Will do anything to encourage an inquisitive mind.

Walked, CREDIT moi, to my evening event and stopped for a bowl of noodles and veggies at a tiny Japanese restaurant. DW kept chatting with the waiter trying to figure out what she wanted so he designed the dish for her. I've had my weeks' worth of tofu, thank you very much. The flavor was superb. Don't know why we can't make a broth that good. Left a third of the noodles, CREDIT moi, but ate all the broccoli and sweet potatoes.


onebyone – Kudos for going to the painting group party despite your feelings. [Amazing story of your grandfather; have you written his life story? One with illustrations?]

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Interesting comment about audio-books; I suspect that I'd miss the ability to skip sections of low interest. Kudos for eating breakfast before encountering Panera Bread with all its temptations.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – So glad it wasn't a gas leak. Around here if you call reporting a gas leak guys appear at your door as you're hanging up the phone. It's pretty clear that you keep yourself more than busy - we know you're there.

maryann - Sending supportive thoughts for the emotions of family in all directions. Kudos for preparing those steamer packs of veggies.

nationalparker – Love the image of you two dinning by candlelight. Good luck dealing with government bureaucracy - I'm flummoxed each time anew.

Karen (karenrn) - Kudos for your checklist on the fridge - neat motivator. Sounds smart to put housework at the lowest priority; it can wait.

SuzLen - Sending supportive thoughts as you seek a path through the pain - that's hard on an active teacher. Those MRI contraptions are capable of inducing feelings of squished inside.

howyoulose - Happy Anniversary! Congrats on those ten pounds and Kudos for recognizing that the desire to give up is a Sabotaging Thought to be countered.

Readers -
Quote:

Chapter 2 Foundation Strategies to Escape Your Traps

Are You Ready?

It's time to free yourself from your traps - for good!

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., Deborah Beck Busis, The Diet Trap Solution, Train Your Brain to Lose Weight and Keep It Off for Good (Blue book), pg. 45

karenrn 12-09-2015 07:48 AM

Good morning coaches,

Exercise yesterday was Y class and 45 minutes on the treadmill, credit. Food portions were too large. It was just split pea soup with ham and some cottage cheese. I was wanting a sweet, but didn't want a grocery store sweet, said "No Choice", but I think I might have been better off having a small sweet. Weight is the same today. So then I always say to myself, "it probably would have been down if you had just not over done it." So today, I say "Oh well" and will get in a long hike.

Bill The Japanese dinner sounds great. The lizards in jars do not sound so great.

Nationalparker I admire the way you take the time to set a nice table and eat by candlelight. It seems like anything would taste better that way.

SuzLen So sorry to hear about your bulging disc. Do they ever just quit bulging and go back where they are supposed to? I'll have to look it up.

Onebyone I almost always find seeing people helps as hard as it sometimes seems. Last week I forced myself to go to my Y class after a tearful conversation with a family member and was so glad I did. Beforehand I felt I could just sit around and be sad all day, but the distraction of other people and the class helped so much.

Howyoulose Ten pounds is awesome. I honestly don't know how accurate scales are at knowing your body fat, but they sure do know your weight and I would just say yahoo!

Maryann I'm sorry you're battling with depression/anxiety. I hope the counselor is helpful soon. For myself I wouldn't see the counselor as a sign of defeat, but instead a sign that you are doing exactly what is needed.

Gardnerjoy If ToDoist is a miracle worker I'd better take another look at it. I only did 2/3 of my list yesterday. Part of the problem was that while doing Christmas cards I phoned a friend (which the cards reminded me of) and spent a long time on the phone. In retrospect it was time well spent. I've known her since kindergarten and she's gone thru a rough time.

Okay, off I go to review Todoist and get moving on what I need to do for the day.

curlyjax 12-09-2015 08:23 AM

hi coaches-
It is not a good idea to online shop at night when i'm tired! I almost fell into a trap of ordering a lot of candy, just to avoid the shipping fee -its free if you order 50.00 or more! I was looking for those Merrimints- does anyone remember those? Melt in your mouth mints from my childhood. I found them, and was thinking about getting some for my mom and then of course us, and adding to the cart to get to 50.00....fortunately I pulled myself together and stopped the whole thing. I can get the mints any time of the year since they are online, and there is already so much candy around this time of the year!

Audiobooks- I love them for long car rides, and for doing chores around the house. The key is to pick something where it doesn't matter so much if you daydream, like a light read or comedy, or inspirational type thing.
I ate too much last night but I am really hungry this morning. I know hunger isn't an emergency but I can't function very well if i'm truly hungry, and today i have a free day to do errands, so i will plan for a light meal and go from there.

Karenrn- I like your chart idea, I am still old-fashioned and prefer paper for organizing. I just haven't adapted to using phone or computer for things like that, and after having a few things crash, i don't totally trust putting my memory online!
Nationalparker- "treats are no longer treats"-boy does that ring true! Our family has gotten into the habit again of dessert every night, and expectations for junky things when we're out doing errands. Really hard to get out of these habits.
Maryann-sending hugs for your depression, I struggle with that myself and know how hard it is. Good for your for seeing someone and actively dealing with it!

gardenerjoy 12-09-2015 09:20 AM

I had an extra little sweet snack. I remembered too late that herbal tea would have worked just as well. That calls for a new Response Card:

Quote:

Herbal tea hits my sweet spot.
WI: -0.1 kg, Exercise: +40 310/1200 minutes for December, Food: 80% op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

nationalparker 12-09-2015 09:47 PM

I'm struggling here ... I will weigh in the morning - feel like a huge blob, frumpy, dumpy and wish I could retrieve the good feeling i had on the weekend. I saw pictures of myself (we asked the waiter to take a snap since my friend and I haven't had a pic taken together in seven years!) ... well, seeing a full length shot despite asking for "head and shoulders!"... just wow. I can't pretend my thighs/butt aren't as out of shape. Now do I rebound or sink lower ... my choices.

Tried to make a good choice with a large salad but mainly it was lettuce for dinner with baked potato. Spent the evening unpacking Christmas decor and trying to get it set out, not just piled up. I need to hit the market but don't see that happening until Friday evening or Sat morning.

DH was able to now get time off after Christmas so we're determining if we leave here earlier and drive home to Florida (my home, not his) or stick with current plans.

He said his older daughter wants to join for Christmas. I was expecting/dreading this. She treats him HORRIBLY (cursing him out in texts, lying, disrespectful, distasteful treatment) and now wants to join for the holiday. I went silent. She is his daughter and will always be his daughter but she's a lying user and it kills me to see how she treats him and then always expects a welcome mat. He can put it out for her but lately, I've been fairly silent around her. I'd be a hypocrite to be joyful around her. Needed to get that out. Now in a way I'm not even looking forward to the day.

BillBlueEyes 12-10-2015 05:56 AM

Thursday - Human Rights Day (United Nations since 1948)
 
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Designed a walk, CREDIT moi, that allowed me to stop by the library then make it to a book signing by a friend who just self-published. Now I have a new work of fiction to read - always exciting.

Dinner was salmon; that part was on plan and the evening had no snacks because we went to buy our Christmas tree. We've bought from the same guy for 25 years; we chat and catch up on each other's kids. The tree stands happily in our back yard in a pan of water until we're ready to bring it inside. DW pulled out the pan from the basement; we've used the same pan for decades - it's old, beaten, and misshapen, and neither of us can remember where we got it. Someday, when our children are forced to clear out our basement, they'll wonder why we have a pan so beaten that it won't bring a nickel at a yard sale. Yay for old pans.


Joy (gardenerjoy) – Yay for herbal tea to satisfy the body.

nationalparker – Ouch for having to face an unwanted picture to tweak the body image. Kudos for accepting it and moving forward. Sending supportive thoughts for dealing with the difficult SDD.

Karen (karenrn) - Always Kudos for throwing "No Choice" at a grocery store sweet.

curlyjax - LOL at the thought of ordering $50 worth of candy to avoid a shipping fee - that's exactly how I would have thought about it. Super Kudos for stopping the whole thing.

Readers -
Quote:

Chapter 3 Stress Traps

Unless you are properly prepared to escape them, stress traps aren't just bumps on the weight-loss road; they're sinkholes that can swallow you whole. Stress is often the destroyer of good intentions. How many times have you heard yourself say, "I'm too busy to go to the store. I'll just grab some fast food for dinner" or "I'm too stressed out right now to think about healthy eating. I'll start working on it next week"?

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., Deborah Beck Busis, The Diet Trap Solution, Train Your Brain to Lose Weight and Keep It Off for Good (Blue book), pg. 49

curlyjax 12-10-2015 07:33 AM

hi coaches- exercise yesterday was walking around the mall and then the grocery store doing a few errands. I did eat dessert but refrained from eating after dinner, so credit for not snacking.
Another explosion with DD last night, sigh. She is constantly wanting the newest gadget which I understand, and its tough as we live in a town where most folks have more money than we do, but we simply can't always do it. Plus it goes against DH and my values, even if we could. Poor thing should have been born into a more materialistic family! Her best friends family members (the children that is) have teased her about being "poor", which as I have pointed out says more about them than us!
Bill- ha about old pan! You children will indeed wonder about it. Nice tree tradition.
Suzlen- sorry about the discs! Good idea to try surgery alternatives first.
Howyoulose- great job on the ten pounds!
onebyone- hope you're feeling better!


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