Everyone... I need a slap in the face or something. Sometimes I feel really stupid.
Well as the thread title says, My Ex and I are friends but we're just WAY to comfortable with each other. It's just so confusing because the line between friends and relationship is so blurred to us.
It's almost as if we've got back together.
I think it's because, now that we are friends, I've stopped nagging about where he was, what he was doing, with who, why, when? I've been telling myself that what he does now is none of my besswax. And I asked him..."what is different between the relationship we had then, and the relationship we have now? I don't care what you do when you are not with me."
I swear everyone, I saw the gears turning in his head.
I hate having false hopes. Like one day he'll relize that and would want to get back together. But it almost dosn't seem to matter because it's like we've already gotten back together.
Okay, for example... this weekend was fair weekend and my Ex took me to the fair to have fun. well I ran into a old friend I hadn't seen for almost 5 years. So we stopped and talked a bit and then she asked..." Is this your boyfriend?"
I was like " Um... kinda, no" and started shaking my head. I was just going to say we were close friends. But I looked over at my ex and he was nodding and said " Yeah I am."
I like stood there for a moment and just looked at him. Needless to say my old friend looked a bit confused at the different answers. I wanted to ask him why he told her he was? did he want to get back together? Did he not want things to seem weird? what was up? But I didn't. I didn't want to dive into every little detail that might point to what he want's to do. because well it would just be annoying lol.
Now.. 3 days later.. I really do wish I had asked. @_@
I don't know if I'm just reading too much into things. I hate this middle ground feeling where it feels I'm ridding the fence with him.
He's even started holding my hand again. Something he didn't do after we broke up, even if we were alone. I always held my hand out for him to take, out of pure habbit. but he wouldn't take my hand, just step up beside me. And the other night while we were just window shopping to kill time, he started holding my hand right out of the blue.
It seems so Childish. You know.. like 9th graders (OMG he's holding her hand *squeel*) but my Ex always acted out the way he feels. If he's upset or sad he closes up, and sometimes refuses to let himself be touched. If he's happy, he moves and talks really fast and has to touch everyone near him (depending on the story he's telling at the time lol)
So yeah, his actions are very confusing. and I admit that I am guilty of crossing the line between friends too. But I've always asked if it was okay that I curl up with him when we talk, or set a goodnight kiss on his cheek. (most of the time he's the one who kisses first, but I still ask)... and he seems very relaxed about the whole thing. and he's not that way with everyone. He's spending oodles of time with me.. @_@ almost far more than we did when we were a couple.
We are avid pool players and we flirt shamelessly when we play together.
and I mean the really bad flirting too... lol
Anyways.. I don't know really what to do... I know being friends with a ex is bad because we're just so comfortable with each other. But he really does seem to want me around, and is happy when I'm with him. He never seems to mind how close we are. He's told me he wants to get back together at some point in time, but he want's to fix his issues ( guilt, fear, penting up emotions ect.) yet he has done very little to step in that direction.
I hate asking about it and talking so much about it because I feel I'm nagging and I'm just diving too deep into simple actions.
Am I just thinking too much?