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Originally Posted by nicole79
i ate a slice of sbarro pizza (huge slice) and then ate 2 cookie sandwiches ( icing in between) i feel like i failed and should just go pig out on all the other fattening things i want. i'm not going to do that because logically, i don't want to gain 5-10 lbs. overnight, but i am frustrated with myself. i've been doing good and now this!!!! sorry just needed to vent. what do you guys do when you eat too much? i know i have to exercise more today now. thanks for listening. shanta
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First off, you don't HAVE to do anything. Think about that for a second. All of these things are choices. You aren't obligated to exercise anymore than you were obligated to overeat. Would it be a more true statement to say that you
want to exercise? As silly as this all may sound, how you look at a situation can make all the difference. I don't know if you look at exercise as a chore, but doing so makes it much harder to keep up exercise for life. And we're all gonna have to do that if we expect to keep the weight off. Might as well square with that one.
Also, who said losing weight called for perfection? In a show of hands, who on this board has not cheated, "gone off" their diet, overate, underexercised or what have you during their weight loss journey? I'm keeping my hands superglued to my side here. You don't need to be perfect to make this work or to be successful. I heard some quote around here that went something like, "Failure is falling down 99 times and only getting up 98 times."
This probably isn't the first and won't be the last time that you stumble. For some people, that's a hard lesson to learn. It's one of mine, I know that. That doesn't mean you have freedom to "fail" whenever you're just the tiniest bit challenged because it's to be expected. There's a difference between an excuse to do what you want and the reality that you won't be perfect. But this isn't a competition and this isn't an all or nothing game. In fact, it isn't a game at all.
Losing weight is frustrating. We both were over 300lbs when we started this. And well, I still am. I
know frustration! It's ok to feel like that. But it's important to learn how to cope with those feelings in a healthier way than wanting to do something harmful (overeating) or forcing yourself to do something almost like it were a punishment. I don't know about your history, but in me, that creates a binge cycle worse than if I had just said, "Ok, fine. I overate. Tomorrow is a new day and damn did that pizza taste good. I enjoyed it and it's good that I did because there's no going back and undoing it now." Instead I want to restrict and overexercise the next day to make up for it, but I get so hungry I go binge again and then don't feel like exercising so I feel bad and frustrated that I screwed up again and that makes me want to turn to food again for comfort which I do and so I have to restrict the next day too but fail once again... it goes on and on until I break the cycle and say enough is enough.
So, in sum, I ideally try to not sweat it and sometimes I'll challenge myself in exercise for the next week to do an extra 5 10 minutes walking or weight training or something like that. If I make those goals, I reward myself like I was doing this for fun, not because I needed to because I consumed extra calories. I hate feeling like I HAVE to do something. Sucks all the fun out of it.
I know this was quite wordy, but I guess I just really see where you're coming from.
Ok, I'm done now
Oh wait, no I'm not. Congratulations on the 35 pounds!
ate too much and now depressed
Stacey
