Hey Lady, first welcome to 3FC's AND 11 LBS LOST WTG, thats no chump change ya know.
Secondly, it feels like I wrote your post. I feel the EXACT same way. Queen of excuses here. 40 years old and been struggling my entire life, saying every year will be different...OY. So what do we do ???
Its all in the way we think. We need to change it and change it starting now. You and I have to stop focusing on food, I think once we can "start" to do that, things will slowly fall into place. But how do we do this ??? I am at wits end as well.
I would say, in order to do this we must start SLOWLY!!!! I mean real slow, changing one thought pattern at a time instead of like you said, jumping on the quick fix bandwagon. Kicking ourselves when we make a boo boo is NOT the answer, we need to learn to forgive ourselves, we need to love ourselves and we need to be kind and gentle to ourselves, just like we would with a stranger. Does this sound like ME ME ME ME ME ME, I hope so because it really is all about us "ME." If mama aint happy then nobody else is... think of our kids and what our moods of selfdestruction does to them. They do feel it you know.
Okay, I've been working on a list I made on things I need to work on and here it is.
I would love for others to chime in and help me by adding things to the list OR by making changes.
Not everyone is the same, so things will be different.
So if I were to make a list of how to succeed (feel free to add things please) it would say something like this:
Weight Loss Goals: To Lose 5 Lbs (not 70 like I need to lose, small goals, small small small, can't think of the big picture, its to overwhelming small small small is good).
Exercise: Every day, starting out slow - 20 minutes IS GOOD!!!! and not a waste of time, no matter how I screw up my diet, exercise IS A GOOD THING !!!!!
Food choices: Make healthier smarter choices, what does my body need (not want). STOP AND THINK!!!! Food will be there forever, I won't.
Self-worth: I am worthy of being healthy, my daughter is worthy of having a healthy Mom. My self-worth is not measured by my dress size.
Looks: I CAN look good at 40 LOL
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People: Don't see me as I see myself.
Time: Heals all things
Strength: Comes from Christ who strenghtens me, I CAN do all things thru Him.
Quick Fixes: Only means a quicker defeat.
Focus: On whats ahead instead of whats behind (or what has happened), focus on the goals that are realistic.
Punishment: Eating healthy is not a form of punishment, eating healthy is a reward. I will never say I can not have something, instead say, maybe as a treat some other time.
Proverbs 14:30 - A relaxed attitude lengthens life!
I'd really love to work on this with you, if you want ? (or anyone who feels the same please join in, we can do this together).
So, how are you doing this morning ?????