[nitagurl]

I was talking to a friend of mine who is extremely good at giving business advice and getting to the heart of certain problems. While I was talking to him, I noticed that he asked the question (in different variations) "Why?" a lot.

It was kind of frustrating at first, to be honest, because I saw the original problem I presented as a simple question that should be a no-brainer for someone who knows their stuff - which he does. But he eventually explained that he was asking me "why" so many times because one of the best ways to help a person get what they want is to uncover what they need.

Fast-forward to today, as I thought about my body goals, I started to think about my friend and preceded to ask myself the 5 "why's".


My Goal: To have a tight stomach and a lifted, rounded bum....
1. Why?
Because I think that is just the sexiest silhouette.

2. Why?
Because my favorite celebrities and fitness models look like that, and I want to look like that, too.

3. Why?
Because it reminds me of how sexy I felt before I had my daughters and I want to feel that way again.

4. Why?
Because I'm sick of looking like a mom at 26

5. Why? (Long answer as I struggled to dig deep and be 100% honest)
Because I see better for myself. I'm more than just a mom. I don't want to let myself go and lose my sex appeal just because I have children. I don't want to turn into the mom who looks like a mom, sitting around all day with frizzy hair and toys all over the house. I want to look young while I actually AM young. I want to be that mom that everyone stares in awe at. I want to make people ask how old I am and wonder how I manage to stay so "put together" even with three small children. Men used to call for my attention from across the street. Or while driving, from one car to another. I want that again. Why?

Because I want to feel extremely desirable. I want to wear crop tops and swim suits again. Or just feel confident in a bra and panties around the house. I want to never again hide my stomach during sex. I want to look good from every angle no matter what I'm wearing. I want to never have to worry about dieting again.

That is why I want to have a tight stomach and a lifted, rounded bum....I want to feel like the sexiest woman in the room.



That took me like 30 minutes to fill out just now. What's your weight loss goal? Why?

[Princessroja]

This is a great thread idea!!

For myself, my goal is freedom. The wisdom to know if I should eat the thing, the self-control to eat or not eat the thing, and then being at peace with my decision afterwards (aka, not beating myself up if I do decide to eat the thing). Honestly, I realized last night I'd rather have the freedom than all the weight loss in the world, because I've finally realized that for me, I could be as skinny as is possible to be, and I *still* would have all the body issues I've been struggling with. But I think if I can figure out how to relate to food with a healthy heart, then the weight loss will continue anyway.