Thank you all for your thoughts. I really am trying to sort this out in my head.
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Originally Posted by TheWanderer
... I'm not ready to give up my independence and maybe your mother isn't either. I could sell my property and travel the world, but that isn't my choice.
If you want to live near her, do something about it. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
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I think this is it. I understand perfectly that she does not want to give up her independence. I don't blame her. I don't want her to move in here, I want to help her stay in her home as long as she can. I just love my Mom. We text all day, every day. I don't want to move next door & drive her nuts, either.
My great grandmother lived to be 104 & lived alone. My mom is welcome here, don't get me wrong, but I understand that leaving your home is a big, huge deal. I'm actually taking a class right now, The Psychology of Aging and loss of independence is one of the biggest issues that anyone deals with when they age.
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Originally Posted by nelie
Another option is hired help which is what my grandmother does. Some guys come and do her yard work on a weekly basis.
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That is a good option, too. My husband does all of her home maintenance like when something breaks. But when my husband was in Iraq the last time, I just paid a lawn service to come take care of my yard work. I bet it would be pricy considering how big her lawn is though.
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Originally Posted by elvislover324
Does your contract with this businessman have any penalties in it if you walk away? I can't imagine a seasoned business man just lets you walk away scott-free and moves on...
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Actually, the penalty is that you don't get to sell the house or get any of your money back until you have paid 33% of the home's value, it just reverts to him. I mean, the people before us paid a $5,000 down payment and moved out in 3 months. We paid the same down payment, we pay the taxes, insurance and we pay him a monthly mortgage payment. What he is doing is like rent to own. He
is winning this way. It makes sense because people take good care of what they own. We put down almost $2000 in slate tile (not the labor, just the tile) in the living room less than 6 months ago which we would just have put money into his house if we walk away. Should we stay, we are getting ready to put a 3rd bathroom in upstairs. If we leave in 2 years or 5 years, the upgrades we make are just bonus.