So I had an ephiphany today. As I get closer to 200 I'm getting terrified....scared of being thin, not physically but what I feel like being "SMALL"
So I googled it and guess what? Wow there are lots of reasons why people regain the weight they have lost and how they continue that vicious cycle...which leads me to emotionally eat, become depressed etc etc etc...you know the drill...
As I'm reading this article they talk about this cycle:
1. You get sick of being overweight and decide to change things
2. For awhile you drop a few pounds
3. Then without warning you lose control and being to gain again to point some people feel possessed by a drive to eat that you can't stop (OMG THIS HAPPENS TO ME IF I DON'T WATCH IT!!!) You know your regaining the weight you worked so hard to lose
4. You then hate and blame yourself and even feel a little crazy (YUP!)
5. You eventually either go back to dieting or back to your old way
6. The cycle happens again and eventually even if you hit goal, while maintaining the same cycle continues....
Nothing has changed.
Well this article talks about that if you follow this cycle (me to a tee!) you have a deep seated fear of being thin. And these are the reasons why:
1.You may fear your sexual energy. Many individuals fear that they will lose control sexually if they lose weight.
2.You may have been raped and fat protects you from men: “If I stay obese men will not pursue me and I will be safe.”
3.Your self-esteem may be very low and you might actually feel undeserving of weight loss.
4.Your fat may be a way of resisting the growing-up process (baby fat), because adulthood seems frightening.
5.You may believe that losing weight might require you to make other scary or painful choices and changes (divorce, change jobs, lose friends).
6.Weight loss may require you to accept more challenges or responsibilities. Staying fat then becomes a form of safety.
7.You may fear being seen and therefore judged.
8.You may fear the loss of food as a drug and a hiding place from the difficulties of your life.
9.You may fear your own power: “Who and what will I be if I drop these pounds?”
I hit 7 of these!!! And I know it's from my truama and self esteem, being small I feel insecure. The weight made me unattractive, I felt big, stronger somehow...being small I don't have the cushion....
Anyways, I wanted to share. I really felt that I had an AH-HA moment of why I continued this cycle of binging, depression, overeating, emotional eating....it all stems from my self esteem and self worth and my fear of being thin....being fat I can keep the cycle going...being thin brings a new way of life I have never known, that unknown scares me...but I think it's time to look at the fear!
I hope this made sense and helps others too
Cheers!