oh honey -
please don't panic. take a deep breath. it's not the END - by any means. think about it - do you want to jump through ALL the other hoops, undergo the surgery, and then run the risk of failing it because of head issues?
do you remember some of your first posts here? i had to go back and re-read some of them to make sure my memory was working - you expressed doubts that you'd have family support, and figuring out how to take care of your little girl through your recovery. AND you were weighing the impact of your weight on your ability to raise your daughter. a lot to think about.
being honest with the therapist - while painful - was actually one of the best things you could have done. did you know that most overweight people have depression? it's not a deal killer - BUT it's gotta be addressed. the hormone changes that come with the large post-surgical weight loss affect depression, and it's real common for people who usually 'eat their feelings' to change their coping mechanism [shopping, sex, booze] because they can't eat their feelings anymore.
Think of this as a time to start learning the NEW habits that you'll need in order to stay on track with the surgery. Not sure if I've said this to you before, but I'm sure saying it now -
Surgery gives us a chance to re-learn and CHANGE everything that we THOUGHT we knew about eating and food.
Like Angela said, the surgery isn't on your brain - and it's not a fix for the head issues.
My surgeon always says that he's a surgeon, not a therapist.
Ready? take another deep breath. address the issues. Gotta tell you, these blasted issues raise their ugly heads for me STILL - after nearly 10 years! in fact, I had another insight last week - involving the fact that many people in my family think that they're helping me by giving me their discarded coats, dishes, appliances. and I'M SICK TO DEATH OF BEING THEIR DUMPING GROUND! they can take things to the recycling center or a charity shop as easily as i can.