Linsy- I totally know what you're going through. Although as an adult, it's way better, I used to be painfully shy, like I remember in like 5th grade being so shy, I couldn't even tell someone my friend was introducing me to my name lol. But my close friends and family, I never was shy, I always was able to function when it mattered...
I'm glad you were able to get your shower! I have found that the more I face situations and people that make me uncomfortable, the less painful and difficult it is. I mean especially for my graduate program, I had to do so many speeches & presentations in front of large groups. The first few times I got up there, I got so nervous, I almost hyperventilated and my face got red, I almost threw up etc etc. But the more I did it, the better it got and by the end of the program, although I still got butterflies, it wasn't a huge tragic event.
So my whole point of telling you this is that it doesn't have to always be like this. The more you face your fears, the less horrible they'll be. I just have to remind myself even in the face of anxiety of a new situation, to relax my body, take my time, and just be in the moment. I turn off all negative thoughts, what I have to do, what I'm worried about and just focus on this one conversation. Works like a charm, and I know that no one would ever guess I'm shy or naturally awkward in new social situations. In fact, I even go out of my way now to practice my skills and strike up conversations with strangers and workers in places etc. It's still not comfortable, but it reminds me that it's not so bad, and I can't tell you what a relief it is to realize that I do have some control over the anxiety by just facing it and not giving it the power to stop me from doing things I need to do. But I still struggle a little
Maybe you can check out a book on cognitive behavioral therapy from the library. It will do wonders once you realize the thoughts you constantly tell yourself subconsciously affect you and what you're feeling
Last edited by pinkflower; 03-20-2011 at 01:15 PM.
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