Research is a best place to start! Ask questions, read...read...read! Education and knowledge are the key. Jill's right in that the more we know about our options and the results that other people have had (good and bad) the less fearful we are about making the decision that's right for us. I chose RNY, Jill chose the DS, other's the Lap Band or the Vertical Sleeve...etc. because we weighed the options and chose what was right for us. I would never recommend anyone have surgery, for me it was a very personal choice, though I would do it a 1,000 times over. If you find yourself in the place we all were...without any other avenue, no other recourse...then I will gladly tell you what I know, give all the support I can offer you to help you get through this life changing experience!
Weight Loss Surgery is a lifetime commitment to taking Vitamins, exercise and eating well...just as it would be with out surgery. It became the most important tool I have to start me in the right direction of self care.
A good counselor that is trained to deal with eating disorders was a fabulous window to understanding myself and why I overeat in the first place (childhood and early adulthood trauma). Important knowledge so that I could get the most out of WLS without sabotaging it.
Good luck honey! Here's hoping you find your way sooner rather then later!
Angela