So you don't read the whole thing if you aren't interested- this is about how I am a young mama ready to add another baby to the family but the rest of my life isn't ready for that to happen yet. And it's bumming me out.
So basically, I'm happily married, we have a little 21 month old girl. I wanted to have 3-4 kids and I wanted them closer in age, like less than 3 years apart but not closer than 2 years apart. Well, according to "plan", we should start trying to get pregnant again soon. And I am ready to start trying!! I'm excited to have another baby, I have the baby fever! But there are some obstacles standing in my way.
1) my weight. I just can't imagine getting pregnant at this weight- it would mean (based on my last pregnancy) seeing over 200lbs on the scale during the pregnancy and based on how I lost weight after this last pregnancy, well, I'd likely STAY over 200 lbs after the baby arrived. I have had a hard time losing the baby weight.
2) finances. I am the breadwinner for our family right now- that wasn't the plan, but that's how it's turned out (damn economy, america!). It's great that I can feed the family with my business, so I'm certainly not complaining about that aspect. But because of our financial situation right now, we dont' have very good insurance and it doesn't cover maternity. We don't want to go on Medicaid or state health plan, and I doubt we qualify anyway. My husband is trying to find work to no avail- he even has a bachelors degree and is having a hard time finding work right now.
So I worry that getting pregnant would make it harder for me to provide the financial needs for our family, and having a newborn that I'd really want to attend to as much as possible would also mean less time spent on the business. This is one reason that I really hate, because I do feel that finances are very important consideration but to be fair when we had our little girl we really had nothing- we were both in college and skirting by on next to nothing- and it all worked out. ??
I just feel frustrated. I feel like I'm holding myself back from what I really want- by being overweight I'm not comfortable having another baby yet. And the financial situation- well, that just sucks no matter what the plan was.
Just had to vent.