my brother-in law (my ex's brother) passed away this morning from lung cancer. It took 9 months for him to die and it was pretty horrible the whole experience the diagnoses, the chemo, the radiation all in vain only to watch him waste away to nothing. He was a smoker and only quit rescently after a long habit but I guess it wasn't soon enough. EVERY smoker should have seen him and they would quit in an instant!
He was my last brother-in-law to pass, there were two others, two of my ex's brothers and my sister's husband, who we all stayed friends even though my marriage didn't work out.
Two were morbidly obese and one smoked for 20 years. Doctors all told them for years to change their ways and live healthier lives (one b-n-law weighed over 400 pounds!) but they didn't listen and they died at 43, 49 and 52
My b-n-law whp passed this morning was very brave. He never complained once the whole 9 months and this morning with all of his loved ones around he said he loved everyone and appologized to everyone for having to leave. His wife kissed him and and he went to sleep and 3 hours later he was gone.
I am just like all three of them. I am 340lbs and my doctor has been warning me for years and I have not paid attention to him until only recently.
I am very depressed this morning and sad because it occurs to me if I had just started my healthier lifestyle years ago I know I could have gotten them to work out with me and diet or at least I could have tried and maybe they would all still be alive
In the past I would eat if I was sad or depressed ... I have been on my new healthy lifestyle 12 days now and in that 12 days it just seems like life has thrown everything against me to try and derail me and get me off track.
I would never have believed it but I really believe now that I am being affected by S.A.D.
I don't know what to do about it so I am just going to keep playing my music (I am a musician). And I'm going to head to the YMCA and run on the elliptical till my mood changes hopefully...