Body Image and Issues after Weight Loss Including discussions about excess skin and reconstructive surgery

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Old 04-30-2008, 11:48 AM   #1  
I'm so sexy it hurts
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I feel like I am borrowing this body.

I've reached my 1/2 way goal and am lighter (and thinner) then I have been pretty much ever. I feel like I am going to wake up tomorrow and be fat again, or whoevers body this really belongs to is going to come looking for it. I never considered myself to have low self esteem, but I feel like people are looking at me and I don't know what they are thinking. Do they think I look cute? Fat? Gross? DH tells me every day that I am doing well and that I look amazing. I have the best support in the world but I am having a really hard time letting go of the weight. I feel like if I could look into the future and see what I will look like I would be more at ease. I also feel like I need to hide in my "fat pants" until I reach my goal, then I can come out. The only problem is, my fat pants won't stay on my butt. Which is good, but now I have pants that touch me. It freaks me out. people can see everything.... I guess it's just from so many years of hiding my body.

*sigh* does anyone have any good (non-religious) books I can read? My grandmother gave me one, but it kept talking about how god has a plan, which is fine, just not my style.
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Old 04-30-2008, 11:57 AM   #2  
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I hear you! It is SO tough to train our minds to think differently... and yet this is what we have to do. So...when you hear yourself calling yourself fat or ugly, choose to stop yourself and say something positive. You are beautiful. You are losing weight. You are more healthy. Don't let that negative self-talk keeping playing over and over. You could start by changing your "Fatty McFatfat" to something positive! I know this is SO tough, but it's also SO important.
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Old 04-30-2008, 12:00 PM   #3  
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You could start by changing your "Fatty McFatfat" to something positive!
I think you're right. I feel like if I don't expect much, I won't be disappointed when I fail. Now I have to think of another one..

I'm noon o'clock pornstar on another board! lol

changed. Now I'm so sexy it hurts, I think its appropriate in more then one way!

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Old 04-30-2008, 12:26 PM   #4  
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I totally understand where you're coming from. I've been going to a cardio kickboxing class on and off since coming to college. When I started those classes, I was 30 pounds heavier than I am now. One day a few months ago, I went to the class and got a look at myself in the studio mirrors and had an epiphany. I looked normal-sized. I didn't look like a fat girl going to an exercise class, I looked like a normal-sized girl going to an exercise class.

I also noticed when I went to the mall this past weekend with my boyfriend that I didn't feel like when people looked at me in the mall that they were thinking: "Ugh...look at that fat chick". What they saw was a normal person. I told my boyfriend I was reveling in being normal--and he didn't get it

I went to my campus career counciling center today and we were talking about buying interview clothes. She said that you should buy clothes to fit the largest part of my body (for me it's my boobs). When I said it, she exclaimed: "but you're so tiny! You won't have problems finding clothes". Tiny? Me? It was the strangest feeling. No one has ever called me that before.

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Old 04-30-2008, 01:08 PM   #5  
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I understand what you mean about not expecting much to not be dissapointed. I struggle with that too. I have never really lost weight before, and and now I've lost 30 pounds! And my goal is to lose 20 more! I often fear I won't be able to lose that much more, or be able to keep it off. But there's no reason to waste time in fear when we can be happpy and free.
Why not expect something great? You've already lost 30 pounds! There's no reason you can't lose 30 more!
I like your new sexy line!
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Old 04-30-2008, 02:17 PM   #6  
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I've been reading a few books by Geneen Roth -- they are a lot of "stories" she's compiled from various people -- kind of "in the moment" type stuff -- I find it helpful -- it's like a book about every imaginable feeling weight loss/gain can cause.

I've gone from overweight to thin back to overweight in the last 10 years -- I look back now and realize even when I was "too thin" I felt obese -- right now I feel invisible -- like I'm not large enough for people to comment but too big for anyone to notice I'm actually a person

You will get through this -- I've read all over that losing weight won't make our lives perfect or fix all our problems, but I personally feel it's a matter of adjusting our way of thinking about ourselves and not basing it on weight.
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