Alright, so I mentioned starting this in the Weekly Chat.
My idea is that this will be a thread where you can come and just post your stressors, maybe add in what you want to do about it or not. Just something simple. The stressors can be related to anything, school, work, relationships, friends, weight loss... anything goes. Anything that is making you feel kind of stressed out goes.
Last edited by Cats tongue; 12-13-2007 at 01:36 PM.
- All the studying that I have to do.
- The projects I'm working on for Christmas.
- Not getting in enough exercise. A HUGE stress for me. Seriously I love to workout get in some cardio everyday... and I'm not doing that now.
- Eating Junk Food. I just. can't. stop.
- My roommate. She's annoying me a lot lately. It makes me grumpy and stressed that I feel this way. But she's basically been annoying me this entire semester off and on, so what can I do about it? I just want to have a scuffle or something, but she is totally the "I can't confront people ever!" so if I'm acting "annoyed" she just totally avoids me, or does silly things trying to make it all better... which annoys me more! Grrrrr. Me and my resentfulness, it's one of my worst character flaws.
- I found out my parents 35 year marriage has been a sham. He can't keep his pants on. He has cheated on my mother multiple times with different women he has worked with. I've caught him calling women with a calling card and my mother covered for him. He watches porn every morning before work. And, now he's seeing some woman that prompted him to tell my mother he doesn't know if he loves her anymore. My mom attempted suicide twice in October. I had to take off work for a week to spend with her because she had temporarily kicked him out of the house. They're still living together, though, and pretending nothing is going on. Christmas is going to suck.
- I have a blood clot in my brain. I'm on these stupid blood thinners and I'm sick of taking them. I'm not allowed to eat green vegetables. If I cut myself I can't stop bleeding. My neurologist is a jerk that doesn't have any bedside manner. I am cold ALL THE TIME. I have to go for another MRI next month and visit jerkhead to find out if the clot is gone yet. If I ever want to get pregnant I have to give myself shots twice a day to my stomach.
- I'm engaged and my fiance and I want to get married in Hawaii. His sister is pissed about it and keeps yelling at him. She convinced his mom to be upset about it. She called and yelled at him, hung up on him, and then didn't speak to him for a couple of days. We see his entire family on the 21st and 24th. We're dreading it because we think it might be the family yelling at us about our wedding plans.
- My fiance is on "probation." He gets officialy put on it on January 1st for 90 days. That's the same day his work is doing a "realignment" where they lay off a good portion of its workforce. His boss is a micromanager and she's making his life miserable. He's stressed out because he thinks he's going to lose his job. I haven't spent much time with him these past few weeks because he comes home and plans his next day and emails it to his boss like she has asked him to. Then he also has to summarize his day for her each day, too. She doesn't even read the emails because he asks her questions in them and she doesn't respond to them. And, once he's finished with his emails, he applies for jobs.
Those are the big things in my life. None of it seems really insurmountable now that I have time to think about it. Weightwise, I'm disappointed with myself that I can't get to the gym very often. But, I think my fiance and I put together a good strategy for that last night.
Oh no, come on. Whatever is stressing me is just as important to me as whatever is stressing you is in importance to you. I didn't mean to rain on the parade. I just have had a bad year, ya know? It's all relative, really.
Amberelise-I hope 2008 is the year for you. I eased dropped on a phone call with my dad talking to another woman once! Then I ratted him out and mom acted like it was no big deal. That was a long time ago though, and he as since passed. My mother is now living her life for the first time, I think.
Okay, here is my stressor, The Illinois government decided to freeze my bank account. The sent me a letter saying I owed them money from 2005! Actually, I didn't owe them money, as the taxes are directly taken from my checks, but I DID FILL OUT THE FORM WRONG, so it didn't appear to them that I had paid my 750$ taxes. ACTUALLY, I had, as I said, they take it from my check. So, I went about getting an ammendment form, and before I sent it in, THEY FROZE my bank account for over the amount, they thought, I owed, which is actually MORE than I had in there. So, now it's Christmas time and I can't even buy toliet paper that I need.
Then my SH*tty bank didn't even call me to notify me, they sent a letter, WTF is a letter going to do? LOL! Then the bank is going to charge me 100$ for having to get involved, 100$-and I don't even get a phone call, AHHH.
Anyway, there is a 20 day freeze, which means if I can clear it up in 20 days, then my money will not be taken and given to the government. ANYWAY, I am dealing with it as best I can, and the most I am getting from Illinois government is, 'it is being ammended.' I called again today, but it was after 5 and the one guy (yes ONE guy) that can help me had gone home. OH YEAH and the government hours are 8-5 and the banks hours are 9-5, I work 830 to 530....it's crazy, but wish me luck!
amber i have a ? for you, what blood thinners are you on? my hubby was on coumadin and it was a huge pita with the blood draws and if he got cut urg it was a mess. he was taken off it and put on aprisin(now bleeds less yay) i just wanted to give you a hug too
as for me, urg i've been living with my inlaws going onnearly 7 months(we moved in a month after our son was born), right now theres nothing we can do as hubbys job is up in the air right now(i'm starting to hate temp jobs and mill towns)
we're so screwed these days and the hole just gets deeper. now we have to deal with hubby losing almost a weeks pay and what he will make will go into the health ins. payment then have who knows how little left.
urgh 2 yr old wants a pillow she knows its bedtime lol
hmm.... let me think. For one, I cant seem to stop smoking. I NEVER thought it would be so hard to quit and lose weight at the same time.
I miss the gym, but I'm just too tired at the end of the day to goooooo... Exhausted, really.
I havent been able to count calories (or lose weight)for a week. I'll start the day off GREAT and then, something unexpected comes up, and I FREAK. I just forget I'm trying to lose weight.
Besides! Compliments are killing me!! I know I have extra fat and that I need to tone up, but everyone keeps telling me I look really good. I swear to god I'm not being concieted, but there hasnt been a day in the last 2 or 3 weeks that I've gone out to work or whatever without someone saying "WOW! you look gorgeous" and of course I'll be, like, "thank you". When, in fact it's a "thank you, but STOP IT!" that's just a diet killer, for me.
Antoher stressing fact, I just cant sleep at night. It's HORRRRRRID. I'll lose my whole day cause I jsut cant sleep when I have to. I need me some st. john's wort, fast.
*I'm ready for 2008 because I feel it's going to be great!!! 2007 I lost my boyfriend, had to move back in with my father for the summer, gained about 10lbs since I've gotten my own place in Aug. and now I'm lonely. No way am I missing my ex but I am missing feeling something for someone. There is no one that I even have a crush on right now.
I want to go into 2008 forgetting about all the bad things that happened in 2007 and look foward to the new year.
What would make 2008 great would be to win this special car that I would die for and to lose enough weight and have the courage to enlist in the USAF.
Oh I wish I would've seen this when it was first started
I just finished finals, but they were hellish for me. I'm a senior so it's not an easy time of finals. I stayed up for 60+ hours straight studying for them and I'm not exactly sure how I did. I had to do well on bio or I may have to retake it, which may mean that I don't graduate on time...ugh. I'm scared about my bio final particularly because I hate a gallbladder that hates me. This may not make sense, but I have many gall stones and the bladder needs to come out, well that means that I am constantly sick. When I went to take my bio exam I was having a particularly bad day and the only thing that was keeping me from throwing up everywhere is sipping on a constant drink (it was diet green tea at the time), but the way the bio dept schedules things all exams are in the computer lab....which means no drinks in there. I sat in there attempting not to vomit and then finally had to just finish and leave because I was so sick..Grrr...Then my other professor hates me, I know this sounds ridiculous, but I believe it's true because I have a strong dislike for him now. I have had to write papers for him every single week of the semester, and he would grade them with suggestions to fix and I would fix and turn it back in and that grade was final. Almost every paper was a d or an f and that was after I did all of HIS suggestions. Now normally I would take this as bad writing, but I was also writing papers for other psychology classes that were higher levels than his, bio papers, and papers for a capstone (senior project)....all of them were A's. Never once did I get anything below an A in any of the other classes. He would come up with stuff to fix that is to his liking it's not anything that the APA manual wants, just him. How the heck am I supposed to know that he prefers something this way or that, I personally feel its ridiculous to grade on the basis of preference. So he knows I have dislike because I went and *****ed at him for his grading of my one paper....he wrote 'Ugh' and 'You're a terrible writer' on the paper. I lost it. I ripped him that it is not necessary to say those things to someone and he is a professor that is supposed to be helping me with my writing and neither of those comments helps me except to PO me. I also showed some of my writings to another professor and they told me that they were very good and would never give me anything below an A or a B on them. Grr I have some choice names I've been calling that professor. But now I have to have him again next semester for a different class. I also say he dislikes me b/c on the final I asked him a question and he was very rude to me and got snippy. Someone else came up and he was all smiles. Someone that just took his grades. If he is going to be an a** about his grading this next semester I'm going to have to talk to someone about it. Hrrrmph.
I'm also having problems with my relationship,but since I have already been very lengthy I'll just leave it at that.
It's just like my life is one big ball of stress right now and I can't wait for it to be gone!
* Been sick with a cold for a week - it's awful and keeping me from the gym which I HATE.
* Spent 2 hours at emergency vet tonight because we have these things called BUFO toads here in FL and one was on my patio and though my little dachshund bit it (she didn't this time, but has in the past - sends her into extreme shock and seizures) Not good...well, this time everything is fine as she didn't get sick - but 2 months ago she did. Hate those damn things and wish there was a damn Toad Spray...I'm investing in a new shovel. Sorry for those humane people who read this....but toads are not worth my dogs life.
* I have a busy week - I'm sure everyone does - but it isn't even Monday and I'm already sick of it. I'm dreading this week. The holidays are not my friend today.
*lots more but too exhausted to discuss.
* Good Note - went shopping today and purchased size 14 - wasn't expecting to be able to - been wearing 18's since I started my diet and have avoided shopping - haven't worn 14 in 3 years. Ahhhh.
So friends can come and go so why does family have to stay no matter what???!!!! LOL! I seriously wish I could cut some of them off. Most currently I'd like to cut off my brother! I can't handle how he is treating the rest of us and my family members are at a loss of what to do (i live 6 hours away from everyone in my family). There is a lot more to my family's story, but I'd rather not type it all up...it's just really hard dealing with an addict who is in denial, aggressive, and tries to control everything around him because he doesn't have control of himself. He just says and does hurtful things to my sister and mother and I hate it!!! I can't even see him as my brother anymore because he is not the same person he was 3 years ago...I miss him...
That is the most current stressor besides waiting to see what grade I got on my final I took this morning...nervous!!!
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