Hey!
Yeah, it's tough if your habit is to eat because you're upset, irritated, etc. But you have to find a way to break the habit! One way might be to put off the eating--instead of grabbing the food and eating it, make it a "rule" that you have to drink two glasses of water first. That give you time to think about it a little more, and we can always use more water. Or, make it a "rule" that when you want to chow down 'cause you're ticked off, you have to go for a half-mile walk. After the walk, you may not feel so much like eating, and you'll have gotten some activity.
Another strategy might be to have "safe" foods to substitute--that is, instead of going to town on the dried fruit, allow yourself to eat as many baby carrots as necessary. By the time you've crunched through a dozen of those, you may not feel like eating anything more.
The point is, we all have to work with our own unfortunate habits and get around them, so we can successfully lose weight.
Jay